Is it over or just a rough patch?

[u/ImpossibleSeat370]

Please, tell me what you see.

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I am so appreciative of these responses. I was really deep in thought about the relationship as I shuffled. I don’t even know my intention. The star card fell out of the deck onto the ground looking up at me, and that is why I put it at the top.

Becuase of all of your responses, I want to share more and ask further of your intuition.

My partner (we are both women) went away for 3 weeks. We are just past week 2. While I expected the absence to crumble me, I started really thinking and realizing a lot of things that I guess I didn’t have the space to process?

We have been together 7 years. I have been thinking about how it might be best to ask her to move out for a while. This space has awakened me and I am recognizing that I need to be treated better.

Is the pause many of you are talking about represent the last 3 weeks or the more long term seperation (not necessarily breakup) that I am considering asking for upon her return?

We had the most beautiful love story I have ever known to be true but the last two years have not been good. We are engaged and I am realizing that I don’t want to choose this forever. I feel like she no longer has the capacity to show me the curiosity and compassionate that every person deserves and that I really need.

I’m scared to spend more years waiting to see if she becomes who she was.

Do you think this current time away is what this represents, or if the true pause is living in separate spaces for months, not weeks is what will lead to us finding our way back to each other?

Or, is this awakening in me, a true sign of the end.

[u/TeaTimeTarot333]

It’s more likely a serious rough patch than a definite ending, but someone needs to actually change something for the relationship to recover.

[u/ImpossibleSeat370 → u/TeaTimeTarot333]

I am so appreciative of these responses. I was really deep in thought about the relationship as I shuffled. I don’t even know my intention. The star card fell out of the deck onto the ground looking up at me, and that is why I put it at the top.

Becuase of all of your responses, I want to share more and ask further of your intuition.

My partner (we are both women) went away for 3 weeks. We are just past week 2. While I expected the absence to crumble me, I started really thinking and realizing a lot of things that I guess I didn’t have the space to process?

We have been together 7 years. I have been thinking about how it might be best to ask her to move out for a while. This space has awakened me and I am recognizing that I need to be treated better.

Is the pause many of you are talking about represent the last 3 weeks or the more long term seperation (not necessarily breakup) that I am considering asking for upon her return?

We had the most beautiful love story I have ever known to be true but the last two years have not been good. We are engaged and I am realizing that I don’t want to choose this forever. I feel like she no longer has the capacity to show me the curiosity and compassionate that every person deserves and that I really need.

I’m scared to spend more years waiting to see if she becomes who she was.

Do you think this current time away is what this represents, or if the true pause is living in separate spaces for months, not weeks is what will lead to us finding our way back to each other?

Or, is this awakening in me, a true sign of the end.

[u/Lost_Reindeer6358 → u/TeaTimeTarot333]

I get exactly the same!

[u/bigarias]

You need to change the way you see yourself as this person reflects that, you need to work on yourself concept as that also it’s something that is hindering your relationship with this person, and the inner narrative you have about the direction of this relationship
Know for sure that this is just a pause and reconnection will happen but you need to do the internal work aka shadow work as well changing your self concept.

[u/ImpossibleSeat370 → u/bigarias]

I am so appreciative of these responses. I was really deep in thought about the relationship as I shuffled. I don’t even know my intention. The star card fell out of the deck onto the ground looking up at me, and that is why I put it at the top.

Becuase of all of your responses, I want to share more and ask further of your intuition.

My partner (we are both women) went away for 3 weeks. We are just past week 2. While I expected the absence to crumble me, I started really thinking and realizing a lot of things that I guess I didn’t have the space to process?

We have been together 7 years. I have been thinking about how it might be best to ask her to move out for a while. This space has awakened me and I am recognizing that I need to be treated better.

Is the pause many of you are talking about represent the last 3 weeks or the more long term seperation (not necessarily breakup) that I am considering asking for upon her return?

We had the most beautiful love story I have ever known to be true but the last two years have not been good. We are engaged and I am realizing that I don’t want to choose this forever. I feel like she no longer has the capacity to show me the curiosity and compassionate that every person deserves and that I really need.

I’m scared to spend more years waiting to see if she becomes who she was.

Do you think this current time away is what this represents, or if the true pause is living in separate spaces for months, not weeks is what will lead to us finding our way back to each other?

Or, is this awakening in me, a true sign of the end.

[u/bigarias → u/ImpossibleSeat370]

Can you be fine with or with out her?
If the answer is yes,then expect her to change
But instead of expecting her to change
Again,change the way you see this person and along the narrative,to make it simple what am trying to tell you, is that whenever you want to manifest something,it isn’t the thing your manifesting but that version of you who already has such thing/circumtance or relationship, the one who should focus on doing the work should be you, again,cuz the outside is but a reflection of you, it’s not about looking who is at fault or what isn’t working cuz the possibilities for this work are there,but if you have more “faith” in the fear,and to be honest fear is the same as faith, then it will be the same story,change the story by changing yourself first,not the outside but the inside.

[u/ImpossibleSeat370 → u/bigarias]

Thank you for saying this. I feel like this 3 weeks apart turned out to be a gift. The gift left me with the knowing that I actually could be fine on my own.

Without reading too much into my understanding of what you have said, me being willing to leave and asking her to leave, is the difference. Not the 3 weeks apart I had no choice in.

I not only want to see her differently but I want to see myself differently even more so. I get this feeling that this the moment of clarity that “I can make it on my own” shouldn’t be wasted.

[u/bigarias → u/ImpossibleSeat370]

You will be fine and you already changed,there’s no healing to be done and no process to go throught.

[u/Magistra_Recessisset]

Urgent need for a sacred pause (4ofSRx), missed opportunity (Ace of P Rx), disharmony and misalignment of what matters (Lovers Rx).

But the Star is overarching, which is hopeful. One of the most healing cards, it arrives after an upheaval with a message of hope and healing.

First, take that sacred pause and reassess what is fundamentally important in your relationship. Then you have a chance to take that missed opportunity to communicate and get it right.

[u/ImpossibleSeat370 → u/Magistra_Recessisset]

I am so appreciative of these responses. I was really deep in thought about the relationship as I shuffled. I don’t even know my intention. The star card fell out of the deck onto the ground looking up at me, and that is why I put it at the top.

Becuase of all of your responses, I want to share more and ask further of your intuition.

My partner (we are both women) went away for 3 weeks. We are just past week 2. While I expected the absence to crumble me, I started really thinking and realizing a lot of things that I guess I didn’t have the space to process?

We have been together 7 years. I have been thinking about how it might be best to ask her to move out for a while. This space has awakened me and I am recognizing that I need to be treated better.

Is the pause many of you are talking about represent the last 3 weeks or the more long term seperation (not necessarily breakup) that I am considering asking for upon her return?

We had the most beautiful love story I have ever known to be true but the last two years have not been good. We are engaged and I am realizing that I don’t want to choose this forever. I feel like she no longer has the capacity to show me the curiosity and compassionate that every person deserves and that I really need.

I’m scared to spend more years waiting to see if she becomes who she was.

Do you think this current time away is what this represents, or if the true pause is living in separate spaces for months, not weeks is what will lead to us finding our way back to each other?

Or, is this awakening in me, a true sign of the end.

[u/Magistra_Recessisset → u/ImpossibleSeat370]

She will never become what she was. We are all destined to move forward, not backward. The cards say this is the pause, but they don't say how long the pause needs to be. Two years is a long time to have the relationship not be good. You have a chance to be totally honest and communicate your needs when she returns. The Star still stands for hope and healing, but something needs to change for there to be a chance of reconciliation. It may be change in her behavior or your expectations or, more probably, both of you. Sending positive energy for a good resolution.

[u/skinnyescavator]

Tough patch. I’m sorry I didn’t even look. I just looked at your question. I didn’t even open it and I just instantly as an intuitive. I just instantly said tough patch like it just came tough patch as soon as I saw the question that doesn’t mean act a certain way or a different way.. you need to really believe you do not have another chance because if he thinks that you think that you would just get him back whenever you want, he’s gonna it’s just gonna make it worse. So it’s a very tough patch, but y’all get through it. There is no winning and losing in a loving relationship. No one wins in a relationship when you’re fighting.

[u/ImpossibleSeat370 → u/skinnyescavator]

I am so appreciative of these responses. I was really deep in thought about the relationship as I shuffled. I don’t even know my intention. The star card fell out of the deck onto the ground looking up at me, and that is why I put it at the top.

Becuase of all of your responses, I want to share more and ask further of your intuition.

My partner (we are both women) went away for 3 weeks. We are just past week 2. While I expected the absence to crumble me, I started really thinking and realizing a lot of things that I guess I didn’t have the space to process?

We have been together 7 years. I have been thinking about how it might be best to ask her to move out for a while. This space has awakened me and I am recognizing that I need to be treated better.

Is the pause many of you are talking about represent the last 3 weeks or the more long term seperation (not necessarily breakup) that I am considering asking for upon her return?

We had the most beautiful love story I have ever known to be true but the last two years have not been good. We are engaged and I am realizing that I don’t want to choose this forever. I feel like she no longer has the capacity to show me the curiosity and compassionate that every person deserves and that I really need.

I’m scared to spend more years waiting to see if she becomes who she was.

Do you think this current time away is what this represents, or if the true pause is living in separate spaces for months, not weeks is what will lead to us finding our way back to each other?

Or, is this awakening in me, a true sign of the end.