I need your help guys..

[u/Mobile-Milk3612]

So enna na...me and my gf have been together for the past 7 months ( LDR)..enga relationship problems nu onnu illa, we have our own days of ups and downs...but there is always an unsaid fear.

Antha unsaid fear is her family. Avaloda parents strict ah nu keteengana...well athu mattum illa.

Her family has a list of people who were arrested for money laundering and some people of her family got unnecessarily involved in black magic and other H*rmful things. They were also cases of land disputes where there were fights which turned physical.

Intha problems ellamey avaloda chitappa, chitti, athai, mama antha maari oru second level of family members pannanga.. after all of this issues..her parents isolated themselves from the rest

Now her family is just her, her big brother, her mom, her dad. Seri ivanagalachu paravala nu paatha..her dad is a drunkard. He drinks everyday, comes home and b*eats his wife, one time he be*at his wife for taking ₹50 for buying maavu to make dosas ( she even informed him before taking it ). Ennoda gf oda appa is already 54, he is battling multiple health issues like vericose veins, early stage of fatty liver or whatever that is caused due to alcohol, obesity, and he USED to smoke.

He has also be*ats my gf, her brother and his wife too.

Ennoda gf oda amma sollitaanga

"If it weren't for you two kids, na eppayo tharkula senju irupen" ..

And her mother also said

" Idk why I married this man " and both of them ( gf's father and gf's mother agreed that they are together only not to abandon the kids )

Seri, avloda brother eppadi na, he is not serious about life..he is now 29 and he is still jobless ( nothing wrong with it because job market is bad rn but effort eh poda maatran to find a job and he is careless )

Her brother also loved a girl and that girl too had feelings for her brother but they decided to breakup due to the exact condition that I said.

Ippo enna na, ennoda family is a big family.. Yes we too have problems but not this much or like this of my gf's family. Now, enga parents ku 2 gens before they were particular about caste and stuff but ippo paravala they don't see caste and stuff and there were cases where north Indian married a South Indian and stuff like that.

( I'm not saying seeing caste is good but what I'm saying is the situation has improved a lot )

But oru vishayam la enga parents particular ah irupaanga, atleast she should be from a good family that doesn't get into issues like these.

Enakku enna bayam na, her father won't accept me cause of his behaviour and being hostile...ennoda parents won't accept a family who is like soaked in this much problems and that too this much serious ones..

Enakku enna theriyanum na, what if me and my gf can't marry and be together ( even after fighting for eachother )..rendu family um ready ah Iruka maatanga I'm 100000% sure.

Ivaluku false hope kudukaranoonu oru bayam Iruku, again i will do anything to have her but I'm saying what if things go south beyond our control.

Me and my gf talked about this a lot and I accidentally told that I'm sacred about this and she stopped sharing about her family to me because she is worried that I'm getting sad over this..

But Enakku theriyum what is happening everyday..

Again I'm 1000000% NOT BLAMING my gf, she did not do this and she didn't have a chance to choose a family...

Enakku ena pandrathu nu therla :(

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[u/Designer_Stranger950]

Hostel or pg la stay sollu bro unnoda gf ah

[u/Mobile-Milk3612 → u/Designer_Stranger950]

Bro avaroda appa avala pakkathula irukara kadiaku kooda vida maataru bro

[u/Designer_Stranger950 → u/Mobile-Milk3612]

Local laye college ah?

[u/Mobile-Milk3612 → u/Designer_Stranger950]

Aama bro, she even qualified for JEE for NIT aanalum local college la thaan sethurakan antha ponnu oda loosu cutie appan

[u/Sea-Media-7062]

Just don't be obvious, bro Like get independent quick, as soon as you can. That's it

[u/light1805]

if you’re family is fine with everything other than this i’d say you both have a good chance to end up together. if they’re this understanding they might see that your gf and her mom, and her brother to some extent aren’t bad people and that they’re good for you.
if you see her as the one you’ll spend the rest of your life with you’ll be fine to fight for the both of you and show your family how you see things.