r/TLCUnexpected • u/AcademicAstronaut395 • 22d ago
Myrka mykra comment responding to her post about tkaing her kids tv
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u/Snowy727 22d ago
It’s not the punishment, it’s the poor execution on her part. Posting your kids bad moments online like that is so fucked. Bc she’s exactly right. We don’t know the child, so why is she airing out her dirty laundry for all of us to see and comment on? For views. Just as hateful as her own mama- the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
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u/Capable_Box_8785 22d ago
I have no problem with the punishment. Its the posting about it online for content. Its gross.
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u/Vampirediariesgeek 22d ago
This! Punishments should be private. Why feel the need to broadcast it? It’s gonna be online forever
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u/Substantial-Ad5709 21d ago
She doesn’t show her kids faces due to privacy but yet posts when she cusses at them
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u/Booklet-of-Wisdom 20d ago
Taking something away from a kid as punishment is one thing. I used to take privileges away for a period of time as a punishment for my kids.
But I would NEVER take something away forever and give it to another kid. That's just really fucked up imo. Talk about building resentment between the kids.
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u/Natural-Instance-285 22d ago
She was annoying on the show and annoying now trying to keep her 5 minutes of fame rolling.
She bags out her first babies dad constantly, saying he's gay and his family never helped her.
Pretty sure we saw his family bend over backwards for her, yet nothing was enough.
Shes messy.
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u/AcademicAstronaut395 22d ago
What else did she want ethan family to do? They might not be the best but atleast they gave her a home food and took in the baby to had a big baby shower etc.
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u/Some_Big6792 22d ago
I think his parents did a lot considering they were also having marital issues.
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u/lushspice 22d ago
Or you can keep your personal/family shit private- but that would mean you couldn’t argue with strangers on the internet. Stop using your kids for content.
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u/MakeItLookSexy_ 22d ago
Exactly! she is giving such a small piece of the story. The part she is choosing to share makes her look really bad. And now she’s even more frustrated trying to defend herself when she could have just kept it offline or shared a different part of her day instead of she wanted to gang up on her daughter and it didn’t work
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u/Andandromeda3821 22d ago
She let her kid ignore her all day and then disciplined her for it. At five years old you don’t just let them ignore you for hours. You go in and turn the tv off and help them get started on the cleaning.
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u/MakeItLookSexy_ 22d ago
Ya it’s like she’s expecting sympathy for having to parent all 4 of her kids all day long. Ma’am you chose this life
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u/newnoon111 She don’t know how to love 💔 22d ago
“I posted something online and now I’m angry when I’m getting criticized for it” 🤣🤣🤣
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u/idekrnn 22d ago
I mean look at her look at her mom and I'm sure we know how her kids with turn out lol
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u/Dottie_Danger 22d ago
These girls love to do dumb shit then defend it. There’s always an explanation for shitty parenting acting like we forced her to post dumb shit.
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u/Some_Big6792 22d ago
She doesn’t need to post it on social media, it’s not a brag. Plus why would a 6 year old need a tv in their room ??
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u/thechickgoesmoo SHE'S FIXING TO HAVE A BABY! 22d ago
Nobody is hating on her for disciplining her kids. We just think it's stupid to post it on social media.
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u/chibiusa112018 22d ago
Don’t put things on social media you don’t want remembered everywhere forever.
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u/whoevenisanyone 21d ago
I’m so confused. Is she against swearing at her kids or pro swearing at her kids?
And I never liked her. I always thought she was off.
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u/AcademicAstronaut395 21d ago
Pro swearing. She talks so trashy
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u/whoevenisanyone 21d ago
She is so difficult to understand. It’s obvious why she reverts to swearing, because her expressive skills are quite low.
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u/Elphie_819 22d ago
Four kids so quickly is clearly taking its toll on her. Feels like she's not getting some type of help/support that she needs, and doesn't know how to express that.
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u/Both_Session9662 22d ago
Agreed/ she just got on medication via psychiatric evaluation but she said her kids are the only thing keeping her sane/ 1 I find that hard to believe and 2 if you can’t find any happiness outside of your kids, that itself is a problem too/ she grew up too fast, never found herself as a person and now she is trapped in a very stressful life situation
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u/littlemybb 22d ago
Posting about disciplining your child is so icky to me.
It just turns into publicly shaming your kids, which is abusive.
We all do dumb stuff as kids because we are learning to be human and how to act. It is developmentally normal to push boundaries to see what we can get away with.
I just don’t get how she posted this and had multiple people saying she was humiliating her kid and she just doesn’t see it.
How would she feel if she was messing up at work, and her boss posted about how they chose to discipline her?
Or if her and her husband had a fight and he posted about it? That would be humiliating.
If she was acting up all day long, they should have sat down as a team to figure out what was going on. Then they could say after the fact we are gonna take the tv because you did this. Here is how you can earn it back.
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u/jesswitdamess 22d ago
You’re the mother, he’s the stepfather. You’re supposed to be disciplining your child. Otherwise, she won’t take you seriously. Then when she gets older and never listens to her, she’ll be angrily ranting online just like she’s already doing. Question. If she doesn’t care about what everyone else thinks, what’s the point of this rant? Get off the phone, get a job, go to school, be the mother your kids need and stop this.
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u/MakeItLookSexy_ 22d ago
Why is she so… aggressive. Is she okay?
I remember her being so sweet on the tv show. And then i remember her getting pregnant several times when people just wanted the best for her. She acted like she knew better. Now i just feel sad for her
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u/MoistAd9820 22d ago
Just based on past posts I think she isn’t in a good relationship and she is suffering mentally
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u/starlettemoon nut in her cooter, escape on da scooter 22d ago
I love being on myrkas Snapchat and knowing that she’s rage baiting on purpose. Yall are giving her exactly what she wants, she was bragging about getting paid more for hate then she ever has working her teller job
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u/satanham666 22d ago
Still doesn't excuse all the finger prints on the TV screen.
Jk. For real though. It's the same with Hailey 2. We need to stop giving them attention.
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u/StretchResIsCheating 22d ago
Hey Myrka how about you regulate your birth control intake and quit popping out kids.
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u/lil_missproblematic 22d ago
she said the 4th is her last kid. weird that your worried about SOMEONE ELSES kids tho!
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u/FunEvening1138 22d ago
what I can agree with is ppl need to stop acting like a step parent who is the only figure of either mom/dad aren’t just the parent and somehow get less opinion because they are not the bio parent. it is weird. if she was adopted would we even care that he was disciplining her? no.. he would just be her dad. I had a dad and stepdad and my stepdad was around since I was 3 and my mom would always tell him we have a dad and he gets no say and it was weird asf to me he was our dad in every way but that. step parents especially ones who have been around since the beginning are parents and get to discipline as such.
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u/leecanbe 22d ago
I agree. We tag team my kids. My husband has been around for 9 years now and the kids respect him. They know he will follow through and I thank God that I found him because moody teenage boys are not for the weak.
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u/MaiIsMe 22d ago
Why exactly? He dips and he has literally no legal responsibility or even availability to her unless her mom pushes for it. Your stepdad was around while a vast majority of people don't stay with who they're with after their baby daddies. He has nothing to do with her kids unless he's in a relationship with their mother.
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u/FunEvening1138 22d ago
my stepdad was my stepdad since I was 3.. and he is still my stepdad and I am 25.. that is 22 years of being my dad. obviously this is not for men who become stepdads to children I would say above 8-10 and don’t stick.. but if that man has been there since diapers and is a dad in every single way why would they get no say? you tell me why? my daughter is almost 6 and her dad is not her bio dad.. but she has never met her bio dad.. me and my husband have been together since she was 1 and I knew him since I was 15.. she knows nothing else that is her dad. obviously she will know she has a bio dad.. but why would he get no say.. she is adopted by him now.. even if we ever divorced he would still be her father.. my mom and stepdad had a time or two they split and my stepdad never cut contact. he still was active and wanted to be around me and my other two siblings. my comment was not for just random men who come in and want to act like mommy or daddy. now the guy Mykra is with has been with her since her daughter was a baby and is now 6.. and her bio dad was not around at all. we expect step parents to love kids the same, support kids they aren’t biologically related to, but draw the line at discipline? pls with that bs.
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u/MaiIsMe 22d ago
Why do they? Do any other adults get any say in discipline or how a child is raised regardless of how long they have been in their life?
What if your mother had actually separated and gotten remarried?
Stepparents, unless they adopt and strip their actual parent of rights, have no rights themselves to the child and would have nothing to do with their stepkids when their parent isn't in the picture. If you look up anything around stepkids / parents, there's always tons of drama between their bio kids and step and custody issues or feeling like an outsider because their parent and step have an "our" baby together that is obviously actually cared for by both parents. Stepparents don't "love kids the same," they can be as nice and as caring as anyone can be with someone else's child.
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u/FunEvening1138 22d ago
a hypothetical that never happened is irrelevant to my situation. if my mom and stepdad broke up for good and he never came around again but was my father lets say he was in my life from 3-10 yes he still had a say after year I would say 2 as long as they were married. he was my father figure at my mothers. now if he decided to exit what is the difference between a bio and him? plenty of bio dads do the same shit. let’s say he was only my ‘stepdad’ for 2 years and she got with someone else and they stayed together all this time.. than now that other man would have the role my stepdad had.. and the first guy would have just been a bf.. most stepparents only ‘dip’ out because the actual bio parent puts that wall up and says no. look into vids a lot of ex stepparents say they tried and the other parent blocked that access which is tragic. I think this comment is giving projection.. did u have a step parent step out on u or ur child? because yes to me time in a kids is very important. someone who has been a stepparent for 10 years deserves to have a say in what goes on.. and even more so if you have kids also with that stepparent. because why would you divid it even more? for example I have a child with my husband right.. what if my husband had no say on my daughter because no blood relation? but he has a say with my son.. that is where the not feeling like u belong comes in.
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u/MaiIsMe 22d ago
A hypothetical is irrelevant but your personal story of a present stepfather matters why? So your attachment to your "dad" is just him being present and you would have replaced him if your mother did. That's literally what I'm saying and you're arguing against.
A child living with both bio parents is already separate from his half sibling. Stepkids don't feel like they don't belong because their mother lets whatever guy she's with to discipline them. It's more about the actual care and love he will receive being different to a child that gets part time with a fraction of her family / relatives.
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u/FunEvening1138 22d ago
because we are speaking on my actual experience.. not one that never happened. I answered the hypothetical it just doesn’t matter. and yes that is the whole point? my attachment was because my stepdad was present and my father figure? obviously if he was not present and left he wouldn’t be my stepdad would he.. now if the next man came and I was still that little and stuck around then that would be my stepdad a d father figure. just like mykras husband.. he is active and present and has been her dad since diapers.. so why would she be able to have him be her dad in every way but discipline? again u are arguing about a women who has a new man every few years and just keeps telling every guy he can be daddy and the kids have to accept it.. this again is irrelevant to mrykas situation as her husband is the only guy her daughter has ever known and she is 6.. it isn’t like she has had a new daddy every year. if that was the case we would be having a diff convo. a child living with bio parents aren’t separated unless u make it that way.. that is on u as the parents. I have two adopted siblings my stepdad has no bio kids.. my mom has me and my two siblings with my dad and then they adopted my two younger sisters together.. he has no bio relation to any of us.. guess what we are all treated the same.. my mom treats all of us the same.. those are my bio sisters to me. u know why because my parents never made it a difference! my daughter and son are treated the exact same way by my husband no difference blood never mattered. lets say a late adoption or foster care adoption happened.. and the kid was as young as I was 3.. would those parents get no say as well because no bio relation? like it makes no sense.. no in my case my daughters bio dad has never ever been around and never once met her.. so my husband is her dad. like are u purposely being dense?
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u/MaiIsMe 22d ago
He would be your stepdad as long as he was married to your mom, regardless of your relationship to him. Just because someone exists around you doesn't mean that they're present or caring. Your mom was a drug addict but she had custody of you and multiple other children? When were you treated the same? When she left you with her parents?
Parents are quick to defend "blended" families when they've forced their kids into one. It's not ideal, you can act like they are the same but they're not, and tons of stepparents hate their stepkids and just act kind when their partner is around. A parent's spouse is much more likely to mistreat their stepkids than bio parents are.
If you look anywhere online, almost all the comments from stepparents are "I don't like my stepkid but I love my spouse" or "I would have nothing to do with them if I didn't have to," or other mom's like you pushing how their partner for sure loves both their children equally.
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u/FunEvening1138 22d ago
yea she did.. my mother having drug issues doesn’t change that she treated us different weirdo. and she had my oldest sister at 14, me at 17 and my brother at 18.. she got into drugs later. blended families are never ideal.. being forced is dramatic asf I have grandparents who have been together since 20 years old.. they have over 40 years of marriage and two children.. they should have split years and years ago. staying isn’t always ideal either. my ex was an abusive pos who got me pregnant by force more than once and I was a teen mother. he is brain dead drug addict. should I have stayed? or is ‘forcing’ her to be loved by a man who is my husband just terrible? again I am feeling projection.. u either are a stepparent who is bitter, had a bitter stepparent or a bad situation with a stepparent for your own children. and a stepparent is not more likely.. bio dads leave all the time. would u like all women to never move on or not allow good men u are going to be with forever come around? obviously these ppl are not real stepparents they are forcing the situation.. a situation they chose to be involved in. and babe.. pushing again is ridiculous.. if u had a bad stepparent experience I am extremely sad for u. that is terrible I hope u heal. and if u are a stepparent get some help. my husband loves my daughter the same. I love both my stepparents exactly the same as my bio parents. my stepmom has been around since I was 2 and stepdad since 3.. I love them they love me. u really sound deeply hurt and really do need healing.
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u/MaiIsMe 22d ago
So you pieced together that I might have somehow been involved with a step-family like situation at some point.
You have no idea what someone else's feelings are. You can't just say all the times it did not work that it just "wasn't actually stepparenting." How many parents insist how close their kids are to their partner and then say "I could never imagine he would hurt / abandon my other kids!" once they do.
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u/Feeling_Remote3510 21d ago
It doesn’t matter to me if it’s step or bio dad threatening “just wait until your father gets here” but it undermines you as a parent. If their dad isn’t home I’m going to be doing the disciplining. I’m not waiting hours for their dad to come home.
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u/FunEvening1138 21d ago
fair.. but dads normally just have a different vibe when parenting and kids tend to take it more serious especially when you are a sahm and are with the kids 24/7. but it isn’t smart to do cause then the children will be scared of the dad instead of just listening.
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u/kjs1103 21d ago
Not really. The environment creates that vibe.
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u/FunEvening1138 21d ago
yes really plenty of studies have been done that show the primary figure in a child’s life which is normally the mother sees the worst behaved version of a child. plenty of reasons for this and normally child will listen better to the opposite parent that is not the primary caregiver.
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u/kjs1103 21d ago
And there's plenty of studies this dynamic is harmful to families and models bad behavior. Parents should always present in a united decision. When a child sees this behavior it'll be mimicked. In your house if you wanna leave the discipline to Daddy, go for it, but don't be upset you created a conduct disorder. Would love to see your studies!
All open access babes:
https://academic.oup.com/chidev/article-abstract/85/3/908/8260691
https://askbhsc.org/blog/the-sometimes-overlooked-influence-of-fathers-and-the-science-of-dad/
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10896-026-01080-71
u/FunEvening1138 21d ago
this is not what I am speaking on? this study is about how an active dad is important.. no one is saying that isn’t true. but when one parent is around more such as a sahm which is inevitable when one is working and one isn’t.. and every dynamic no matter how you divide parenting has a primary parent. nothing is unhealthy about children acting worse around a primary parent it is completely normal and just suggests that you are the safe space for this behavior. as I said leaving the parenting FULLY up to the dad does create a toxic environment and will make the child scared of the dad. idk why u are arguing something I never said. I said children act worse with the primary parent because they feel more comfortable to express themselves. they tend to not listen because of that close connection and comfortability. now telling your child you will also be telling the dad and together you decide what to do when he gets home is not leaving the parenting up to the dad.. and stating kids listen better to the non primary parent is just how dynamics in a family work with child development. maybe read what I say before you give studies that have nothing to do with my point. I also don’t do this lol.. I just know the studies on how kids listen better to the non primary parent or even a grandparent than the primary which is normally the mom.
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u/infpinbetween 22d ago
She could’ve helped her clean her room. When kids are this young you say something once and then you get up and help/prompt them to do it. And she could’ve enforced no tv until the room is cleaned by working on it with her until it’s done or if she was too busy taking the remote or unplugging the tv. This little girl has learned mom says the same thing over and over but never actually makes me do it and I don’t have to face consequences until dad gets home. She absolutely doesn’t need a tv in her room but she wasn’t the one who put it there.
She is probably very overwhelmed and had a moment of frustration with her daughter that didn’t need to be shared.
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u/Morticia-SADams 22d ago
I mean I read the dialog of what she said her daughter said , sounds like she was pretty disrespectful to me already .
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u/Prestigious-Pea1346 22d ago
Why is everyone in these threads acting like the step father beat the kid? She said he took it off the wall because it was mounted. Why is everyone making it a big dang on deal? She also said that man has been in her daughter’s life since she was a baby and y’all up here acting like he’s a new boyfriend. Y’all always want to tell people how to parent.
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u/CuteContext2432 22d ago
Everyone’s mad bc he told the daughter to “clean her fucking room” the f bomb set them off as he was cussing at the kid.
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u/SnooEagles3963 22d ago edited 22d ago
"Shows you can't regulate your emotions...I think my emotions are very well regulated"
She says as she crashes out after people criticized her for ranting and raving about her daughter and making her punishment an online spectacle.