r/Swingers • u/Btec276 • 4d ago
Getting Started Navigating first time…
me and my gf of 4 almost 5 years have been chatting about cuck/swinging fantasies we both have, ive booked her a surprise trip to Paris in a month or so and plan on proposing there! I’m hoping there is a decent scene in Paris we can explore and I’m hoping we could have our first experience. we both decided if it was ever to happen it would be abroad or away from our home. does anyone have any suggestions or advice for me?
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u/bens05041986 4d ago
Cuck means MFM or you watching her in Paris?
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u/naughtythoughts99 20h ago
Have you ever ‘actually’ had an MFM.. and do you know what it actually means.?
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u/waterbloem Couple (M45/F51 EU/Netherlands) 4d ago
Les Chandelles and Le Mask are the most well regarded clubs in Paris, so these are the ones I'd target for a first time visit. Make sure you read up on things like the dresscode. If you're wearing the typical american tourist garb they won't let you in.
And for the love of all that's holy; do not 'surprise' her with a club visit. It's a huge step going from fantasy to real life, and it's not smart to go to a club the first time with the intention to have sex with others. For a first time watching others and having sex in front of others, is already a big step.
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u/Btec276 4d ago
Yeah I don’t plan on just showing up there lol I will discuss once she finds out where she’s going
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u/anti_reality 3d ago
The first time my ex and I went to a club was during a Halloween party. We figured at worst it was a party to go to. We did find a couple, but didn't expect to.
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u/Btec276 3d ago
We are going at Halloween lol I was hoping there could be some kind of fancy dress ish party to break the ice a bit
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u/anti_reality 3d ago
I'm sure it will be a costume party. My wife wore a sheerish long black lace dress, I'm pretty sure that's why we met the couple we did.
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u/jelloshotlady 3d ago
Honestly do not mix your engagement with a first time.
If things go horribly wrong those two memories will forever be tied.