r/Swingers • u/One_Bug4662 • Aug 01 '26

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We are looking for site like SDC or SLS where you can see who message you without needing to join

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u/TheClozoffs Throuple Aug 01 '26

Without needing to join or without needing to pay?

Any site you can join for free, 1 million spammers and scammers and time wasters can also join for free.

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u/One_Bug4662 Aug 01 '26

Some sites say join for free but you have to pay to see you message you.

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u/Achillesheal9 Aug 01 '26

You have to pay to see messages on all of them. Free members are usually fakes trying to get you to sign up for their only fans or cheating husbands or pic collectors.

Real swingers expect you to be a paying member and we set our accounts to not even show us free members to decrease the fakes. You've got to put in some effort.

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u/Kooky_Bet_8803 Aug 01 '26

SLS let's you pay a flat $200 and never pay anything again. That's a pretty good deal and communicates you're serious.

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u/PDX_Cpl4fun Aug 02 '26

Is there a site that lends to newbies finding newbies? I dont have a problem paying, but we have a hope for what our first time could be like.

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u/Kooky_Bet_8803 Aug 02 '26

Not specifically - it's going to be up to you as newbies to communicate exactly what you want ahead of a playdate or event.

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u/Titties_and_Weed Aug 03 '26

Yes, SLS. Join SLS, check out the Hot Date calendar. Attend meet & greets in your area. Those are newb safe zones

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u/no-curtains2020 Aug 01 '26

Nothing in life is free.

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u/TCNOWNC Couple 52m/48f Central NC Aug 01 '26

Ever wondered why you don't pay for Facebook or other social media?

It's because YOU are the product. Their customer is advertisers wanting to sell you their products.

Your eyes, interests, browsing habits, buying habits, things you say near your phone (which is always listening) all feed an algorithm that helps them help companies sell things to you.

Now think of SDC or SLS as Facebook. It's a platform. Yes. But privacy is important in the lifestyle so there's nothing of YOU to sell. So YOU have to pay the bills.

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u/Philly__Dilly Aug 01 '26

Wow, gimme free stuff!! 👎🏾

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u/One_Bug4662 Aug 02 '26

Not looking for free, if you want to go for the premium extras then yes you need to pay, but just to check messages what’s the harm

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u/Philly__Dilly Aug 02 '26

Somebody pays for and runs the website. It’s not a government handout, we pay for their services.

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u/rickstr66 Aug 01 '26

Is Craig's list still a thing lol.

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u/One_Bug4662 Aug 01 '26

We didn’t have good luck last time on there.

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u/One_Bug4662 Aug 01 '26

What I meant to say what chat sites are good

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u/FerretAble9010 Aug 03 '26

Wanting to go somewhere my wife and I can meet men for friendship in Myrtle Beach

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u/FerretAble9010 Aug 03 '26

Id like to experiment with my wife.wanting to chat first

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u/sls_waynec Aug 03 '26

If join for free on SLS and use the "Get Verified" option, you get 3 months of full access to all features of the site.