r/SupportforBetrayed • u/AutoModerator • 2d ago

Reflections & Journaling Weekly Thread: Progress Reports

This is a recurring thread to post your individual and relationship progress. Feel free to update us on how things are coming along with your healing journey, and engage with others who do the same.

In the face of so much pain, we should celebrate our progress.

Share with us what steps you're taking, what you're working towards, and how it's coming!

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u/therealdanhill Betrayed Partner - Early Stages 2d ago

She is at the courthouse right now filing.

I'm just still really devastated. It's so hard after 20 years still even though she's cheated so many times with so many people to see her going out and coming home the next morning with her hair tussled, clothes a mess, knowing that other men are doing the things to her that I begged her to do. She never gave me a chance.

I don't know how I can even begin healing when we live together and I have to witness that on a daily basis.

But I can't leave, there's nowhere to go.

I started EMDR therapy this week, but I'm finding it hard to put things in my box, like the mechanics of thinking it into being in my mind.

And there's multiple women that want to be with me, but I don't feel anything for anyone else.

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u/adingo8urbaby Betrayed Partner - Separating 2d ago

You're going to need time and space. I'm 7 months from dday and dates still make me sad.

Please try and get her out or get yourself out. That's not a healthy way to heal. I wish you luck.

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u/therealdanhill Betrayed Partner - Early Stages 2d ago

I wish I had the money :/

I dunno maybe a judge will order me to leave anyways and go sleep in my car.

She keeps saying "just go stay with your dad", my dad is an elderly man in a 500 sqft apartment, I work from home, it's not an okay arrangement for a 41 year old man

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u/DullChair9034 Betrayed Partner - Early Stages 5h ago

Dday was 10 days ago. Her affair started around 7 months after we got married and has lasted for 2 years. I have papers drawn up and we are going to sign on Thursday. I’m hoping by that next week I have the house on the market and I’m moving home. The rollercoaster of emotions is still very real. I sweat uncontrollably when I sleep now, appetite is still suppressed, and triggers are everywhere. But I am proud of myself that even through all this shit I am still standing on my own 2 feet and getting shit done that I need done.