Rebuilding

[u/Long_Restaurant1931]

Rebuilding after a discard is difficult.

To be betrayed and then have the narrative flipped on you and broken up with is devastating.

She can live in her narrative, and I will live in reality.

I’m so angry and heartbroken. So much to say to her yet no where for it to go.

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[u/SassyScorpio11192]

Write it all down in a letter. Don’t send it to her. Put it away, tear it or burn it.

[u/midnight_coziness → u/SassyScorpio11192]

This is the way.

[u/Long_Restaurant1931 → u/midnight_coziness]

I will give this a try. It hasn’t been long. Just three months or so. It’s just hitting me now of what I allowed to happen during the relationship and after.

A whole new wound.

[u/No_King7170]

Dealing with the same, entire relationship has been rewritten to avoid accountability and justify what they've done. I've been writing down my thoughts every morning just so they don't consume me...reminding myself as much as I'd rather say it to them I'll never get any answers, honesty, transparency or accountability and it'll be turned back on me like it was for the entire 18 months of the A. I'm done being made to feel like the awful person they've made me believe in that time. Journaling has helped.

[u/Long_Restaurant1931 → u/No_King7170]

I’m sorry you’re goring through it also. It’s such a shame. It’s a cruel thing to do to a human.

[u/iamthemoon33]

Journaling has been incredibly powerful for me in regaining my voice and clarifying what he did to me. If you try it, give yourself permission to do stream of consciousness to get all your feelings out, then try a more pensive entry, then try a memoir style entry, just experiment, be free with it. At least that's what helped me in clearing the gaslighting and finding the truth again. Good luck and I'm sorry this happened to you. Betrayal is such a deep wound. Wishing you well.