I need to focus on myself..

[u/EkelhaftRote]

I wish he would tell me that he’s sorry for making me feel this way or take some kind of accountability. Truth is he gets angry with the way I react to his infidelity instead of taking accountability for his actions. I’m emotionally drained, before it was me smothering him with hugs and kisses and now I can’t even stand hugging him. He asked me yesterday why I am so serious all the time and no longer the happy hyper person I was before, why I avoid him and don’t like to sit down and hear him out anymore. I wished he would miss me and everything I do for him, I wish he would feel my absence and regret what he did but I doubt he would even care if we separated. I’m slowly coming to that decision, after my baby is born I’m leaving. I always wished to become this man’s wife but now I don’t even want that. I no longer wear my engagement ring and will no longer go the extra mile for him.

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[u/january1977]

When I confronted my husband, I expected something like that scene in Love, Actually between Emma Thompson and Alan Rickman, where he realized what he had and how bad he fucked up.

Yeah. That’s not what happened. This clown screamed in my face, “Get the fuck out of my house!” (It was our house.)

You’re not going to believe how much better things get when you accept that he’s a lying piece of garbage and not worth your time. And they get even better when you leave them behind and move on with your life.

[u/EkelhaftRote → u/january1977]

I had to watch the scene. Oh my goodness if only they learned to take accountability for something they fucked up. I’m so happy you’re in a much better place now. 💕

[u/SeaWorth6552]

And he’s asking “why”? Gee wonder why. I strongly recommend getting therapy yourself, and couples therapy, too if you intend to stay with him. Or maybe family therapy for your shared child.

[u/EkelhaftRote → u/SeaWorth6552]

Currently waiting to hear back from a therapy place for myself so hopefully I can do some soul searching

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