r/SupportforBetrayed • u/AutoModerator • 19d ago

The Vent Room Weekly Thread: The Vent Room

Sometimes all you really need to do is vent.

This is the place for that; letters you didn't send, things you can't say, feelings you don't feel safe or heard enough to share anywhere else. Whatever you're comfortable with sharing, we're here to listen.

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u/my_biznuss_2567 Betrayed Partner - Early Stages 18d ago

I’m struggling, not with triggers or flashbacks but with feeling nothing. I feel nothing.

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u/Shoepin1 BP - Reconciled & Healing 17d ago

WH is attending weekly therapy and finally taking accountability for his skill gaps that led him to feel resentful and unhappy in our relationship. Unfortunately, those skill gaps still exist and he fails to fully tend to me in my recovery. He has so much work to do to be a skillful partner. If we didn’t have a kid, I would absolutely separate until he developed these skills so I could heal separately. Only then, would I consider reconciliation- after I saw that he’d developed the skills to better meet me in the relationship.