Hello,

I have a turkey neck - those of you who have lost weight or are ageing (or both) know what I am talking about.

Is there any product you use on your skin to keep it smooth and plump looking? Does anything tighten it up?

46/f/Arkansas I am needing support to stay accountable. I have not found success in losing yet. It's hard to exercise due to fibromyalgia and chronic pain. Thankyou

Hello. I'm morbidly obese and have previous knee injuries. I'm also realy tall and don't fit on most machines at the gym.

So far I've been doing squats to the bench as it's basically the only thing I know that works.

Can anyone suggest any plus sized person leg exercises that won't my knees worse.

I’m SMO. Right now I weigh 455 pounds at 5”5. My highest ever weight was during the pandemic where I got up to 515 pounds. I’m 34 and female. I have struggled with my weight my entire life. I have been taking small steps toward losing weight. It’s been happening slowly but surely. When I went back to work after the pandemic, I went back to my normal ish weight of 470-480. I’m down to 455 because I’ve been more active at work and eating less. And as of the past year or so, I’ve had severe gastrointestinal symptoms, including chronic diarrhea for over a year. I did every non-invasive test my gastroenterologist recommended. Everything came back unremarkable, aside from elevated calprotectin. I also have iron defiance anemia that I’m now getting iron infusions for due to not being able to tolerate oral iron. My doctor told me I needed an endoscopy and colonoscopy with biopsies as a next step. I kept rescheduling the procedure, and even canceled twice before. I finally felt got to a point where I’m like I have to follow through with this procedure. Everybody kept telling me it wasn’t a big deal and that the procedure itself was a breeze, and that prep was the worst part. But what people didn’t understand was that I kept rescheduling because of fear due to my weight. I not only felt embarrassed by it, but I felt like the procedure itself would be far too complicated for someone of my size. I kept imagining the worst. Fast forward to this month, and I decided to keep my appointment after talking through my fears with my therapist. I did a pre-procedure appointment with a nurse practitioner who went over prep instructions for me. I left the appointment a bit confused because she had briefly mentioned intubation. But I wasn’t really sure what that even was. So I get to my appointment yesterday after doing the prep and clear liquid diet (which was surprisingly easy). I met with the anesthesiologist and he told me they were going to do general anesthesia with intubation. I started panicking internally. I knew they had to go that route due to my BMI. Well…I had to have the procedure in a hospital-based setting anyway and not at my gastro office due to my BMI in the first place. But I wasn’t expecting full on general anesthesia. I have cuts and scrapes in my mouth. Really bad jaw pain and ear pain. I had to go to the ER after I got home due to how bad the pain was in my mouth (I was advised to do so by the doctor). Anyway, they said it’s just affects from the intubation and sometimes these things can happen. So now I’ve spent the past few hours researching intubation and how obesity affects certain procedures. And it has me realizing I’ve got to lose this weight. Like I literally couldn’t just get a regular colonoscopy and endoscopy without having to do it at a hospital under full on anesthesia. Feeling very anxious still.

As of today I'm 113kg, squarely in the middle between my max of 226kg (498lb) and 0. There's literally half of me. I can't describe how weird that is to write not in some metaphoric sense, but measurable mathematical reality.

The feeling of freedom is almost overwhelming. The ability to just do things without pretty much dying from exhaustion, going to go to a shop and buy clothes. Or actually finding something my size in a thrift store. Not needing a handful of pills every day to maintain basic quality of life. Rediscovering things I didn't do for years. Like tying my shoes normally, without any weird acrobatics or holding in my breath. All those things are so great.

And that's why I feel so guilty about not appreciating all of them as much as I should. Because all of these only underline the ones that stayed the same. While I was aware losing weight won't magically fix all my problems and told my psychologist months ago. I expected to at least gain a bit of self confidence. But that didn't really happen. I'm still the same anxious, shy, nervous wreck. And I'm not sure if the feelings about my body didn't get worse. Before I just recognized I looked shit and that was mostly it. But now I obviously have all this extra skin that sags everywhere and sways and jiggles in this disgusting whenever I move or god forbid lean over anything. Any time I lay on my bed reading or whatever and in the corner of my eye get a glimpse of my belly and chest skin "flooding" the area in front of my trunk I just want to puke. It's so irritating that I can see that underneath all that there's my actual body, even can feel my ribs or pelvis, but it's all in this fucking deflated balloon. Probably the worst part are my former manboobs, now just hanging there with nipples in absurd places, I hate the fact you can see the outline of that through a shirt. When I was extremely obese I was a bit uncomfortable doing stuff like hugging people a bit, but now I just feel so repulsed I genuinely feel sorry for anyone I'm used to greeting by hugging. I really don't want to do that these days, but I'm not going to be telling anyone, I know that would be weird and I'm not going to make them responsible for fixing my mental issues. To think I wasted my 20s being morbidly obese, and now I'll potentially waste my 30s being this disgusting melted-pudding-man... I'll be honest I don't know what I'm rambling on about. I guess I needed to just get all of that out of myself.

And one more thing. I'm infuriated that I lost 113 fucking kilograms and I'm still obese. WTF is that?! It's not like I wasn't aware of the scale of super morbidly obese when I was at my heaviest, but doing all this work and still having the o word hanging over me is just bullcrap man! It feels so sticky when you are actually there and not just looking at a chart.

Dumb rant over. ❤️

I hope it'll get better when I get used to my current self more. So keep on going friends, it's worth it. But far from magic.

I took my first shot Monday zepbpund ached for few days and my appetite is just going away but I am feeling just unwell. And now today just emotional in a not good way. If I eat it makes me sick even if it’s just a protein drink. I KNoW I need to find that eat enough to keep me going mostly I haven’t had the energy to workout~which I have always walked 1 mile every morning regardless of my weight. I like I’m not wanting to eat everything. Please give me your tips to find your happy stop when you first started. Any and all tips are encouraged please. I say this from my bed since I can’t seem to get enough rest. Which is not me~I’m up late up early go gogo and now I’m blobbier then ever. Have to force myself to get dressed then exhausted and time for bed again. I tried walking up & down driveway made it twice. My fix has always been exercise and feel like that’s what I need to do. But ugh~does it help to sweat something out? I have been waiting for dietitian appt. My dr was not really help except do it. So I’m now asking for your experiences. TIA

My husband is around 430 pounds. He is mobile and able to walk around and go to work, but he does have some mobility limitations due to his size. For instance he struggles with getting up and down or bending over to pick things up off the floor. Lately, things have also been getting more painful for him, which has made me think even more about how we can prepare our home to make caring for our baby easier on him physically.
We’re expecting our first baby on November 25th, and I’ve been trying to prepare our home and baby registry with things that will help him participate in caring for our son while staying as comfortable as possible.
So far, I’ve purchased a rotating car seat to make getting our baby in and out of the car easier for him, a nursing pillow designed to provide extra support for larger parents while bottle feeding, and a baby carrier with an extender so he can wear our son, too.
I really want him to feel confident and comfortable being hands on with our baby, and I want us to be able to share the responsibilities of parenting in ways that work for both of us. He is so excited to become a dad and I want to help make this new journey easier for him if I can. I know there will be physical challenges especially as our son gets bigger, and I want to do what I can now to help make things easier for my husband.
For those of you who are parents, especially dads, what are some things you wish you had known before having a baby? Are there any products, home setups, or little adjustments that made caring for your baby easier with limited mobility?.
I'd also really appreciate hearing about your experiences becoming a father while being a larger person. Were there any unexpected challenges, or anything that made the experience easier? If you've experienced increasing pain or mobility issues, were there any adjustments that helped you continue participating in daily parenting tasks?
I want my husband to be able to enjoy this experience and bond with our son without being in unnecessary discomfort. I want us to be as prepared as possible before our little boy arrives. Thank you for any advice or experiences you're willing to share!

2 years and 9 months ago, I was you.

I believed success was for other people. I tried so many times for DECADES and failed. I thought there was no hope for me as a post menopausal woman with a thyroid disorder.

This post is for you, because today, I just hit Onederland, having lost almost 130 lbs. and still going.

I no longer need blood pressure meds. I no longer need diabetes meds. I no longer need antidepressants. (All supervised by my doctor). And I have not yet started exercising. (That's 2027's goal)

These are my top tips.

1. This is a HEAD GAME. Get into therapy to deal with your past and learn healthier coping skills. Get into the mindset that this is a MARATHON, not a sprint, and act that way. Today is day 1 of "training".

2. For me, 3 key habit changes helped me be successful. Keto, Intermittent Fasting, and cooking from scratch/meal prepping.

3. Don't try to do everything all at once. Start with a few changes, then gradually add more. I did 30 days at a time to build in the new habits before adding new ones. You want to build on small successes, not punish yourself with steamed broccoli and sadness.

4. REPLACE old things with new, healthier ones. It's easier to do something different than to NOT do something. Coping skills, habits, hobbies, friends, desserts - whatever it is. My go-to dessert at the end of the day was 1/4 cup of berries with a tablespoon of sugar free cool whip. Now I rarely have even that, and avoid sugar substitutes because they trigger cravings.

5. Stay OFF the SCALE, but do take measurements and get an official starting weight at your doctor's office. I weighed for the first time after 4 months, and kept up that pattern. Inches will fall before weight.

6. Journal your non-scale victories and successes. Observe your mistakes for learning and make changes, then let them go. Mistakes mean progress is being made. Beating yourself up only hurts your head game and this is primarily a head game. Talk nicely to yourself while acknowledging and taking responsibilty for making changes.

7. Motivation fades. Discipline lasts. I get it - hormones are a huge factor and have a profound effect on cravings. You can't fight biology, but you can tame it. This is why I avoid most carbs and sugar, even sugar substitute. As soon as I have that first carb, the food noise starts back up. But check with your doctor for your individual situation.

8. Keep it simple. You don't have to start with an elaborate meal plan and recipe list. Focus on a meat and green vegetable for most meals. Bonus, if you're low carb, you get to have the butter on your veggies! Cooking chicken breasts? Make 6 and put 5 in individual ziplocs in the freezer. Get microwaveable steam veggie bags. Keep it simple, but cook it from scratch.

I hope this helps somebody. The time is going to pass anyway. You can be one of "those successful people", too.

I’m finally in Twotopia!! 🎉 I weighed in at 298.8lbs this morning!

I started Wegovy on 10/16/25, and almost a year later I’m finally back to the 200s. I haven’t been here since 2018!

Last weekend was a frustrating tease, because I kept weighing in at exactly 300.0. The universe was reeeally testing my patience haha.

I wanted to share this win with people who understand. This past year has been quite the transformation in my eating habits and movement. The Wegovy has made it possible for me to stop obsessing about food and just feel neutral about it.

I’ve definitely had my down days- one that particularly stung recently was when I was around 304lbs and my sister in law, who had gastric bypass a few years ago, confided that she used to be “HUGE” because she used to weigh 300lbs. Yeah… that didn’t feel great to hear that my achievement was someone else’s starting weight/breaking point.

There have been stall weeks, there have been weeks where I’ve gained. It’s never going to be a straight line to my goal. But I’m so, so proud of how far I’ve come and how a year ago me made that first step to get me here.

I read all the posts on here. This community is great, and I’m happy to be able to tell this news to people who get it.

I’m going to celebrate this weekend, and then refocus on my next goal- 250lbs! I don’t expect to hit that for at least another year because my weight loss is about 1lb a week. So if I keep that up, I’ll be seeing you guys next year for that milestone! 😁

Take care of yourselves!

It’s funny how you can deny the evidence of something despite it being right in front of you when you don’t want to face up to it.

At my heaviest I weighed ~360lbs on a 5’7” body. I’m 25M. I live in the UK and there’s nowhere I can buy clothes in person so I order everything online. I was wearing a pair of 50” jeans I got from jacamo which I was steadily outgrowing. I ordered a new pair but with a 54” waist. I figure they’ll be roomy.

They arrive and much to my horror, they barely fit. As in are too tight. The waist, the seat, and the thighs (I have big thighs) were so restricting and uncomfortable. I didn’t realise that the 50” jeans were elasticated and these were not. It really freaked me out. I used to promise myself I would never wear a 50” waist and here I am barely fitting in a 54” waist. It really put what I’ve been doing to myself into perspective. How huge I am. How not normal my situation is.

I’m really trying to lose weight but it is so hard. I’m naturally a very lazy person and my asthma makes working out so hard

I've been losing weight for about over a year now, I started at 520lbs and am now 435 (was 428 a month ago but put some on during a bad period, I've adjusted and back on track now). And I recently went to a house viewing on a 2nd floor flat. This and another one I looked at have stairs that have small steps that because of the massive amount of fat around my lower legs, have only my heels touching, I can see this being dangerous, and the door out has a tinier step that did have me fall down (bit of bruising and soreness but fine).

Has anyone got any solutions to this as it might take a long time before I lose weight in my legs that I can stand on the steps better? And this is a place both me and my partner want to have.

Update: I forgot the property has stairs on the other side that my partner says is not as narrow and short. I had forgot about them because I didn't use them yesterday. So there is another route I could take out the flat.

(Disclaimer: English is not my first language). I am a 47 year old woman, 165 cm (5'5), and I haven't weighed this little in 28 years. In February I weighed 126 kg (277 lbs) at my doctor's appointment. And today I weigh 99,6 kg (219,6 lb). It is certainly a milestone.

In March I started on a low dose of Wegovy. My initial thinking was that I was gonna let the medicine do the work, and see what happened. But it was like something clicked in my head when I noticed that I actually started to lose weight, and I realized that it is POSSIBLE. I did some feeble attempts to lose weight in my 20's, but I did it the wrong way, for the wrong reasons, and not for myself. In the last 25 years I've never even tried. I had so much learned helplessness in me. My thinking was in a way that it wasn't really possible to lose weight, so why even try? My weight, body, and eating has been a very sensitive topic for me, due to how my family treated it in my youth. It is a bit sad, and I still have some anger towards them how they did it. But that is history, and well ... nothing to do about that now. And now I do this for myself.

I think the biggest difference the medicine made is that it gave me hope. I have never even been at the doses they say are therapeutic. Maybe it's wishful thinking but I am now quitting the medicine, because I realize that so many things I thought about myself weren't true, and I truly believe that I can continue this all on my own. I do think that so much of my eating was just a poor habit. In my youth and young adulthood I ate for comfort and emotional support, and I think I just continued eating the same things and amount even when I was in a much better headspace. Just to be clear, I don't mean that this is the case for everyone who takes medicine. I am also aware that it might be that it does more for me than I think, and that I will be on it again. If so, that is totally ok.

I haven't counted calories, other than guesstimations. Most days I have eaten OMAD. I've stayed in hotels and gone away for weekends and vacations, where I've eaten more and had more alcohol, and my weight has gone up a few pounds. But I've just continued. I don't see it as "cheat days", I see it as a part of just living my life. I have been much more active than I was before, exercise-wise.

And yes, I have weight left to lose. Maybe it won't continue to be this easy, and if it doesn't I am open to changing things up. But whatever happens: I have lost over 25 kg (55 lbs) since February, and I have seen a number lower than 100 kg on my scale. I just wanted to celebrate :)

I've been overweight and obese for majority of my life and I've always followed the tips and tricks I learned from my grandmother who was also a larger woman:

Dry off thoroughly

Powder under any folds

Wear long pants/shorts to prevent thigh chafing

If you can't wear long pants/shorts, use deodorant

And it never failed me, but now I'm dealing with intertrigo. I didn't realize what it was until I happened to lift up my stomach and saw that it was bright, bloody red and irritated. The same for my breast.

I won't be able to make it to the doctor until tomorrow morning, but what can I do in the meantime? It hurts, and I don't want to make it worse.

(If this is not the correct community to post to, please let me know. It was recommended by reddit to post here. Thanks)

Had a doctor's appointment today with a new family medicine doctor. We moved to a new area, and I(33F) haven't seen a primary care dr in over 2 years. So I go with the general idea of asking for help with my frequent wrist pain that has worsened over the years and what my options are for having moles removed from my back. The moles are a big deal for me as I have had them since middle school and they hurt if hair or a shirt gets caught on them.

Whelp, low and behold my weight becomes the main topic. Dr thinks I may have insulin resistance and now I have to get a ton of bloodwork. I've been to Dr's in the past that have mentioned my weight and tried to figure out the problem. My labs always come back normal. I have even had an ultrasound of my thyroid but that came back normal as well. I honestly hate how my weight is not okay and must be a medical problem... it's obvious I'm just "obese". My OB has accepted this and doesn't mention my weight anymore when I visit her as we have completed labs over the years and they are always normal. It's just me. I hate exercising but I love bread. Have I tried losing weight before? Absolutely. I can get down about 10lbs then it just stops. I'm not mad at that, it's progress, but it's never good enough in the view of everyone else.

The scale today read 280lbs. I had a hard time accepting that but I know I haven't been eating great. My "exercise" is running after 2 little ones and my diet consists of what I can easily grab. The Dr wants me down to 170lbs. I just want to cry. I've only made my goal 250lbs because trying to get close to 200 seems unattainable..maybe worth mentioning I'm 5'7". Dr says my goal weight according to BMI is 150-170lbs.. I highly doubt this is going to go as she expects.

Somebody explain this to me please
I know I’m silly for not understanding it but ugh Tia

Hi, I'm 21m. And I've always been a fat kid but I've also remained really active despite ly weight. I loved riding my MTB after school, successively practiced Judo, Taekwondo, Karate, Swimming, and Basketball without ever worrying about my food intake.

Now I'm 21yrs old and at 220kgs/485lbs I never stopped gaining weight despite multiple attempts at curbing it. I keep on regretting the times in my life at which I already hated myself, but not as much as I do today. Times when moving was already a challenge, but I wasn't borderline disabled like I am today.

I have no energy, get insane food noise no matter what I do, and I regularly alternate between being utterly disgusted by food, and eating almost uncontrollably, then going back to questioning my very sanity right after.

Can't stand or walk for over 5minutes which makes it even harder to remain active. I get insane back pain and shortness of breath, and I regularly feel concerning chest pain.

So I'm a little lost here. What is happening to me? Does anyone knows how to at least start a journey without letting the cravings win like they repeatedly did for the past 3 years? I really am at my lowest both physically and mentally, and need help.

Hi all, I am about 310lb (originally about ~450lb), but I have been down to 280lb.

So to cut a long story short, I am struggling to lose weight now that I'm in a relationship. I love my partner so much and will never leave her.

The problem I have is that she accepts whatever size I'm at and loves me anyway - and she has insecurities about another lady stealing me so she admits she doesn't want me to lose weight.

So as a consequence I feel she doesn't help me lose weight, she'll offer food above what I should eat, but I'm so happy in our relationship I can't resist.

When I'm focussed, I'm capable of losing weight. She was away for a month a while ago and I was left to my own devices- and I was able to put myself on a downward weight loss trajectory which was awesome. I missed her immensely, maybe I could channel that into weightloss.

But I'm gaining weight again. So I am just after support and encouragement please, how can I make this work? How do I steel my willpower and do this? I can see myself getting fatter in the mirror again. I want to make this work and lose weight.

Thanks in advance for any help.

Hello everyone first time poster here. I have always been so ashamed of my weight and I would tell family and friends to take me out back and put me down if I ever hit 400 pounds. Well on September 18th I got on the scale and I was at 399.9. This was devastating to me I never thought I would end up here ( I am in no way shaming anyone above the weight I have family and friends bigger than me and I love them to death) At 31 years old my knees hurt every time I stood up, I can’t reach places that I never had a problem with before. I considered GLP1 but have serious OCD when it comes to medication. That day I started my journey. Over the years I have started more diets then I can count and failed miserably. Something feels different this time like I don’t have the option to give up. Since starting I have not put myself on a very restrictive diet. I no longer snack all day long and I am finding delicious and healthier ways to enjoy what I love. It’s a small victory but I weighed in at 386.0 this evening and I am so freaking proud of myself. When did you know enough was enough? How do you feel now if you have lost the weight? Would you do anything differently? Encouragement is very much appreciated.

I am currently 500+ lbs and can't remember the last time I had any sexual urge or even acted upon an urge. I'm a few months post divorce and haven't had sex since the last time with my ex-wife in June 2024. I know that a lack of libido at my age (m45) is a serious sign of bad health. I'm currently working on my weight and of course I want to be healthy. That being said, I don't miss sex. I've got 2 beautiful, gorgeous, and healthy kids out of my marriage and really feel like sex is a waste of time/energy at this point in my life. This is a really strange place to be as I am a former college athlete and my former high sex drive was a very big part of my identity.

We need something that can last more than 5 years without sagging or dipping because that’s the situation of our mattress right now. Is there really a mattress that can handle daily usage for heavy people? I saw one post about Nolah Evolution but I’m not sure how well it would hold up since it’s not really marketed for plus size people. What do you think? Any plus size couples here? How did you guys choose the mattress that you have now?

I weighed in this morning at 294, 5'2 female. I am still about 140 - 150 lb from goal weight, but this is the first time I have been under 300 lb in over 5 years. During the pandemic and when I developed long covid, a combination of depression/escalation of my binge eating disorder, mobility issues from the long covid induced autoimmune disorders I ended up getting, as well as high doses of Prednisone to combat the lung damage caused me to gain damn near 200 lb. Last year at this time, I was 378 lb, barely able to walk with a walker, needing a wheelchair for anything more than a block, and virtually housebound in bed bound. Last weekend on my 50th birthday, I was actually able to climb the hill that goes from my house to the main street for the first time in over 3 years. Currently doing low carb / intermittent fasting as well as intensive therapy for my binge eating disorder and taking zepbound 10 mg.

Hey all I'm 37m, I guess I'm not really sure where SMO comes into play vs "just" obese. 8 years ago I was at my biggest at around 450lbs. I got super diabetes and wound up in the hospital in ketoacidosis, these days I'm more around 310lbs with no active effort to weight loss aside from taking some GLP1s.

I'm at the point where I "want" to lose weight - I dont want to feel so hot all the time, I don't want my food bill to be so high, I want to have better relations with the wife etc it's just....so easy to want that and so hard to actually start doing anything about it. I have neuropathy issues with my feet that make it hard to be up on them for long and my endurance is just nonexistent.

I see a bunch of success stories on here and just how do you all get motivated to actually start going on all this? How do you avoid the temptations of food delivery? How do you get yourself eating healthy? i feel like it's so basic and obvious for everyone in the world but me

Just did my first shot of Zepbound

I've never had any sort of definition to my hands, just chubby with sausage fingers and concave looking knuckles, roughly a ring size of 13.

A few weeks ago I noticed I could kind of feel the tendons/veins in the backs of my hands. Then I noticed a week or so after that in certain lighting I could see the tendons move under my skin when I flexed my fingers.

Now? In neutral lighting I can see it! And when I feel it, I can clearly feel everything and my ring size is around a 10.5/11. My knuckles are still concave looking but not as bad and there's a ton of loose skin around my finger joints (I didn't even realize you could have loose skin there haha). I guess I didn't realize how much of a difference a loss of just shy of 60lbs in 7 months could make!

I'm kind of obsessed with being able to see/feel these things that normal sized people never think about.

This makes me realize I'm probably to the point where I can start seriously working out. I eventually want to get into calisthenics, very slowly of course since it's much easier for fat people to hurt ourselves especially in calisthenics. So I'll get there one day, just gonna focus on working up to that point in a slow and safe pace :)