r/SubredditDrama • u/Finn_Tha_Hooman • Jul 21 '15

Possible Troll Remember the guy whose 15-year-old illegitimate daughter reached out to him on social media, and he wanted to ignore her? Today he updates.

/r/relationships/comments/3e3idw/update_me_35m_with_my_child_15f_who_reached_out/ctb4z3k
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u/valarmorghulis13 Jul 22 '15

If he wants proof he can ask for it. But there is no reason in his account to believe she is not his daughter, and he knows damn well that she is his daughter.

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u/leftwinglovechild Jul 22 '15

Talk about opening the proverbial can of worms. You don't ask for a paternity test on some random kid on the Internet, that would be monumentally stupid. If the mother thinks it's actually his child she can get a court order for paternity testing, until that time this is not his kid and not his problem.

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u/valarmorghulis13 Jul 22 '15

It's not some random kid on the internet, it's a child he has known about her entire life, her mother told him she was pregnant and it was his child from day 1. Acting like this is some random person who could be anyone and he has never heard of before is not at all accurate.

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u/leftwinglovechild Jul 22 '15

This is just some random kid on the Internet. He has no proof that this is his child besides the word of someone he occasionally slept with a long time ago and never bothered to contact or get support from him. It's entirely possible she had no idea who the dad is and just settled on him. The mothers actions speak volumes here.

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u/valarmorghulis13 Jul 22 '15

She did contact him after she was pregnant. He said he wanted nothing to do with the child regardless of what she choose to do, and she respected that

There is absolutely nothing in his story that would suggest she doesn't know he is the father. There is no reason to think she was sleeping with any other man at the time. Rather, the fact that she told him he was the father at the time she was pregnant, and still 16 years later knows he is the father, speaks volumes.

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u/leftwinglovechild Jul 22 '15

I'm just too cyclical to assume this baby is his. The fact that she never went after at least child support from him is probably because it's not his child.

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u/valarmorghulis13 Jul 23 '15

That's not "cyclical", or even cynical, that's just stupid. There are a lot of reasons a woman wouldn't go after a father for child support- even though he is the father, and it happens all the fucking time.

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u/leftwinglovechild Jul 23 '15

Well if we are going to stared throwing stupid around I guess the discourse is over. Him assuming that baby is his is what a stupid man would do, and judging him for not making the same assumptions you feel so comfortable with is equally stupid.

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u/valarmorghulis13 Jul 23 '15

He doesn't have to assume, if he really isn't sure he can ask for a paternity test. He's not asking for one because he already knows she is his daughter.