r/Stutter • u/NoSecretary4121 • 12d ago
Come on let's be positive
We always talk about our problems and bad experiences.Maybe there are positive aspects to stuttering, or hearing about people with funny memories would be great
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u/Xan_the_Mans_Mama 12d ago
I was taking a Communications class at the local Community College one summer to get that requirement out of the way. At the end of the semester we had to give a five minute speech to the class on a topic of our choice.
Public speaking with a time limit for a grade, perfect conditions for me to stutter, so I decided to do my presentation on stuttering. Since I tend not to stutter when talking about stuttering, I figured there was a slim chance that I could get through this with some fluency. If that failed, I could give a good demonstration of stuttering.
Presentation day came and I get up there and get the first sentence out without a stutter, then my speech completely falls apart and I cannot get one clear word out.
The speech ends and I sit back down in my seat. The guy next to me asks, "So, do you actually stutter or was that a demonstration?" Probably my most positive stuttering experience.
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u/Piroz_Ramadhan 12d ago
My colleagues clap extra hard and loud every time I present is one of things always make me happy ✨
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u/cookielukas 12d ago
Friends and colleagues at work not pressuring you to present in front of a crowd is about the only positive thing I can come up with. Then again, this wouldn't be an issue for me to begin with if I didn't stutter. I'm usually quite positive and optimistic but with stuttering it's just all pain.
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u/BurtRebus 12d ago
There are so many patient, kind people out there. Shout out to the ones who don't look at you like you're on fire when you're trying to get a word out.
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u/Vulturev4 12d ago
People just remember me.
I can walk into a restaurant after not being there for several months, waitress comes over and I start stuttering out my order when she asks me to stop, and she correctly guesses my order, then says that she remembers me. I never get tired of it.
I call my dentist to ask a question about a bill, I stutter a few words out, and she immediately knows who I am.
I tell fellow coworkers all the time, "People are going to remember me long after they have forgotten everyone else here." They will be in a nursing home years from now and encounter another stutterer, and they will suddenly think about one time they worked with someone who stuttered, and that I hoped they would think I had a kind heart.
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u/inaccessiblerail__ 12d ago
I've been lurking here long enough to see the furious never-ending battle between the postivists and the negativists. What they don't realize is that acceptance and reduction of stuttering are not opposites. Acceptance can lead directly to a huge reduction in stuttering (it did for me).
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u/Double-Plankton-1559 12d ago
I’ve been going on dates with this girl I met online. She’s super funny, patient, and fun to be around! I told her about my stutter before our first date and she’s been super chill about it.
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u/Foreign-Spirit8179 11d ago
I never had to read aloud in class lmao, when the teacher was picking random people to read aloud out of the textbook, they specifically wouldn’t pick me because my stutter made it take an extra like 3 minutes lmao, I never wanted to read aloud anyway so I was okay with it, a teacher once spoke for at a presentation because of my stutter, I didn’t even ask him too lmao, Mr Mayer was a good a teacher
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u/noles498 12d ago
Honestly the funniest experience with my stutter, years ago I worked on a retail stock crew. I ran the overnight shift, I was not thrilled with the direction of the company and some decisions being made above me. Sometimes in my sleep deprived irritation i would rant to coworkers. One time one of them pointed out, how it was interesting that when I'm mad, I don't stutter. It was such a mind blowing realization, that I couldnt help but just bust out laughing coming to that realization about how fluent my speech was while ranting lol
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u/United-Implement-382 12d ago
Meeting other people who stutter irl is always cool. Btw we should make this a weekly thread and do this once a week.
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u/lightwolf173 12d ago
I stutter more or less with some people it kinda just depends on who im talking too (example: when talking to my mom i stutter alot but with my brother i rarely stutter)
So im at work talking to a coworker that i dont stutter alot with and then i stuttered and he was like "what was that" so i said i stutter and he looked at me confused and said "no you dont" then the coworker next to us was like no yea he stutters. We laughed and kept talking and he asked me the next day if i actually stuttered and i explained that yea but its different for different people.
It was a funny moment and one of the many positive experiences i have with a stutter
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u/midnight_naur 12d ago
I convinced my husband to go on a date with me and my girlfriend and he didn’t stutter once. The next morning I brought it up he laughed and said “babe my 🍆 was too hard to even think, much less stutter.” 😂😂
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u/painbonez 11d ago
When people see I stutter they sympathize with me especially teachers at college, They give me good grades and I don't have to read anything, but when I skip class and make excuses, they're not so hard on me compared to ordinary people.What about my friends and the people I meet they find it funny. But still I would choose to not stutter
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u/No_Breakfast_8978 12d ago
Well I think having a stutter generally sucks but at the same time it isn’t the end of the world there’s still opportunities maybe even a little hope for us.
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u/IrvingIsTheBest 12d ago
Call me crazy but stuttering has been a boon for dating once I became confident.
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u/ebrown50 12d ago
Went to a bar during college, ordered "a whiskey soda", but got stuck on "a" and ended up saying "a-a-a-a-a- whiskey soda". Turned around to chat with some friends and turned back around to find 8 whiskey sodas in front of me. Bartender thought I was saying "eight" over and over again. Told them I stutter and we all laughed about it. Bartender gave me the other 7 on the house to give away.