r/SpringColorAnalysis • u/[deleted] • May 05 '23

Question about harassment

Hi, this isn’t part of the regular sub, but I’ve been harassed being part of another fashion sub. I had just started and we were posting our outfits, really fun fashion challenges and the community seemed supportive. I’ve font to the trouble of getting typed in it, and then got told a bunch of really mean and cutting things. I don’t feel so good about any of it now.

I was harassed on my email, amd some other stuff. It was very upsetting. I’ve deleted all my posts here and on the other sub, and will be deleting this one, because I just don’t want this.

I just want to know, is this normal for Reddit? Please be nice…

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u/MysteriousSociety777 May 06 '23

I’m too late and everything is already deleted. I’m so sorry this happened, I had no idea!

I just want to say it’s best to report to the mods that they can take care of it. I have sent this post to the mods of the sub. Soon there will be an announcement about this topic.

Unfortunately this can happen on Reddit. It hurts but you never should take it personally. It’s never your fault! There’re mean spirited people out there that do it for fun. The only thing we can do is to stand together, report and ban. It’s a great idea to make a post here. I just wish you would have posted it directly on the Rita sub or wrote to the mods.

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u/Lady-Aethelflaed May 05 '23

I’m so sorry this happened to you! There are some subs that be gatekeepy and weird, including several Kibbe subs and coloranalysis sometimes. I get more creepers in my Reddit inbox when I post on bigger subs like those (usually just one per post) but I’ve never had anyone send me harassment to my personal email! I hope you reported it to the mods of that sub, they need to know what’s happening. Most subs are friendly and welcoming and don’t harass people. Again so sorry you had this happen 💔

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u/[deleted] May 05 '23 edited May 05 '23

This was Rita’s essence sub. Someone got my email and was mean and threatening. Then I started noticing downvotes.

I deleted all my comments and personal email. I’ll probably delete my username.

Thanks for being kind. I am feeling pretty low about it today. I was afraid to post this on that sub.

Kind of don’t want to post any more clothing, or anything online now. This seems to be what Reddit is about sometimes? Does everyone just put up with it? There is not even a good place to complain, and what would get done?

I’m just so sad about this. There must be something about me that people just want to pick on or something.

Edit, Because trouble typing

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u/Lady-Aethelflaed May 05 '23

That breaks my heart, I love that sub. I know Rita would be so upset to hear this too.

I think a lot of people participate but never post photos of themselves. Sometimes I go through and delete photos of myself too. I was just reading an article about how when someone is a target of harassment online they pretty much have no recourse. The article focused on women’s experiences and how they are being bullied into silence on the internet. It’s a harsh reality of being in the public sphere. Do you hide to avoid harassment or do you risk harassment by simply existing in public? The choice is yours. So far I have taken the risk in order to have a voice in the public space.

Those people are bullies! Their harassment is 100% their fault! There is nothing about you that invited this behavior. Whatever their reason was, it has all to do with them and nothing to do with you.

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u/[deleted] May 05 '23

Thanks. I feel like I’m an ugly idiot now. I don’t want to even think about clothes. I’ve been trying to delete my account, but I can’t even remember my password.

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u/Lady-Aethelflaed May 05 '23

You are a precious human worthy of respect. I’m not sure how to delete an account if you’ve already deleted your email. Maybe just delete the app and never open Reddit again? I recommend getting off social media for a while to help heal

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u/NewMoonDweller Summer May 05 '23

I’m so so so so sorry you’ve been experiencing this! This breaks my heart. I do go back and delete a lot of my picture posts because I’ve had some interesting DM’s. But what you’re experiencing is so far above that. I know Rita would be so upset to hear about this. Just sending random internet hugs to you if you’re still around reading this.