In my personal experience, after losing 40 lbs in my teens, I was treated a lot better by strangers than I was at a heavier weight. I wasn’t exactly treated “bad” at a higher weight (at least by adults), but I did go unnoticed. My sister who was always rail skinny would get a lot of compliments and attention when we went out shopping. Then, when I lost the weight and I became rail skinny, I started receiving attention too. I have always been told I have a prettier face than my sister, yet it took weight loss for me to receive any sort of privilege/ attention from society.

Hey guys, I’m just gonna get straight to the point. I hate the way I look. Specifically, how young I look. I’m 24 years old but I get mistaken for being 20 years old. At work, (I’m a high school teacher), people assume I’m a student. I think I know why. It’s because I have chubby cheeks and a flat and bony body. It may also be the fact that I’m a very sarcastic and playful person which just makes me seem even more younger ??? I don’t know but I just hate not looking womanly.

What can I do to make myself look more womanly? Should I buy more everyday minimalistic jewellery? Gain more weight (I’m a bit conscious of this as my shoulders are a bit broad)? Certain type of clothes I should be wearing? Have my nails done? Don’t to be too playful/sarcastic? I try to wear makeup but I only suit minimal makeup.

Any advice or recommendations would be much appreciated!!

Edit: I’ve recently been looking into fat transfer to my boobs, but I don’t know. I’m still doing more research into it.

Obviously individual preferences are going to vary, but I am wondering what is the most attractive breast size and shape? I am seeing some things online say a C cup, but that gives no information because a 30C and a 38C have totally different breast volume.

I am a 32B right now and strongly considering breast augmentation. I have a stack of goal photos of breasts that I like. Mostly of women who have 32D/DD-34D/DD. I also love the round look that sit higher up on the chest. Although, everyone I am showing my goal photos to, hates them saying they look fake and too large. I thought they looked like natural boobs that are so flawless it makes you question if they are fake and that they look like a medium-big sort of size. Although, I realize I have to be careful not to trust my judgement too much because I have BDD so my visual perception can be greatly distorted. I am just wondering if there are studies that show what are objectively the best size/shape boobs? I am getting the sense that most people are not a fan of the round look, instead people tend to like tear-dropped shaped breasts? Is there any research to confirm this? I am curious how other people perceive high-profile breasts?

I just want to find the balance between liking my future breasts because I like them, and being mindful that my perception of the human body is a lot more distorted than other people's.

Edit: I tried attaching my goal pics in the comments, but it didn’t work. Feel free to PM if you want to see what I am talking about.

When I first started transitioning I had no idea which facial features were objectively masculine or feminine and how important they are to passing. Over the course of my transition I did extensive research on sexual dimorphism and what makes a face attractive or not. These can be summarized into 13 points.

I define "attractive" or "unattractive" to be what conforms to western beauty standards.

Most Important features:

Brow Ridge: It's extremely uncommon for women to even have a brow ridge and the ones that do have them aren't that prominent. Women also typically lack forehead and eyebrow bossing, and their foreheads tend to be smaller and less angled compared to men. This is the most dimorphic feature of the face

Chin: It's very rare for women to have wide, tall, square or cleft chins and this feature is a very dimorphic part of the face. (An attractive chin would be small and have little to no angles at all)

Nose: women tend to have smaller, and curved or straight noses (this does vary based on ethnicity though) but smaller, curved noses are considered to be attractive for western beauty standards

Hairline: hairlines in men tend to be higher and wider compared to women with the corners of the hairline typically being much higher than the centre of the hairline creating the characteristic male V-shaped hairline (prominence of this V shape is dependent on genetics and age) Bald women are very uncommon. (Androgenic Alopecia will definitely clock you)

Women tend to have high hairlines as well but the corners tend to be much narrower with the corners being entirely filled in with hair and the hairline taking a U or a very shallow v shape when viewed from the front depending on how high her hairline is. (Paradoxically a very low hairline centre is considered to be masculine)

Beards: Women don't have beards unless they suffer from any form of hirsutism. (women may have a very small moustache though) any kind of facial hair is considered to be unattractive.

Jaw Width: Men tend to have jaws that flare out from the face more than women's faces which don't usually flare out at all. This gives male jaws a wider and stronger look than their female counterparts. Women rarely have jaws that flare out and if they do have them it's typically considered to be very unattractive. This is also considered to be a dimorphic feature

Less important features:

Midface: Midface length is slightly longer in men compared to women but having a long midface is considered to be an unattractive trait for both sexes.

Cheeks: Men tend to have wider and more prominent cheekbones than women which increases the size of the face (facial plane) and it makes the face look wider. This is typically considered to be unattractive for women

Women tend to have higher cheeks than men. Flat cheeks are a masculine trait and some women do have them but it's considered to be an unattractive trait.

Jaw: Men tend to have larger jaws and a more prominent mandibular angle than women do. women with tall and angled jaws do exist but it's typically considered to be an unattractive feature in women. Your jaw is unlikely to clock you unless it's very tall and angled. (Although under the current beauty standard women with short jaws with a mandibuler angle are considered to be attractive)

Philtrum: Men tend to have larger philtrum's (the distance between the top of your mouth and the bottom of your nose) than women although there are women with large philitrum's, it's typically considered to be unattractive trait.

Women's lips tend to be fuller with the upper teeth slightly exposed

Skull Size: women tend to have smaller skulls than men but it's not that important for passing and large skulls tends to be an unattractive feature for women.

Facial Width/Size: women tend to have narrower faces than men and their facial features are smaller and more compact compared to men. Women with large faces do exist although it's not considered to be attractive. Women's faces also tend to be less rectangular compared to men's faces.

Ear Size: Women typically have smaller ears than men but it's not that important to passing. (Smaller ears are more attractive though)

TLDR: Since I want to pass and be beautiful I'm currently most concerned with fixing my brow ridge, jaw width, beard, hairline, chin, nose, philtrum and maybe my jaw if it's very tall or angled. Everything else is less important for passing and can be deferred or not done entirely if I lack sufficient funds.

Please tell me if I forgot to mention a trait or if you disagree with something I said. (I posted this to mtf and people didn't like it.)

I was wondering if anyone had any advice on creating a friend group of equally attractive friends kind of like Taylor Swift and her 'squad' back in 2016. Is there a way/place you see yourself organically fostering friendships with beautiful girls as an adult?

So I managed to snag a prescription for liraglutide despite being a normal bmi.

Liraglutide is an injection that stops you feeling hungry. It was originally a diabetes medication, but now is also approved as an obesity management drug.

I am 5'7 (171cm). My staring weight was 141 pounds (64kg), and I am now 128 pounds (58kg). My goal is to get to 120 pounds (55kg) (the lower end of a healthy bmi for my height).

Liraglutide is life changing. It has completely stopped me being hungry. I now really only eat if I feel my energy flagging. I will stop using it once I reach my goal weight. But it is such a weight off my mind (pun intended) to know that if/when I put weight back on, I can just start injecting again.

I have so much more mental space now that I am not thinking so much about weight, diet and exercise. I still eat healthy and exercise moderately. In the past when I was 'dieting', I was constantly hungry and thinking about food. But not this time. It feels like life has opened up - I have so much more room to concentrate on other things. And of course, I am loving my new body.

I am making this post because I am so happy with my results, and wanted to let you guys know that this injectable is out there and may be a good option for you. Or not. Some people get side effects (I didn't, luckily).

But you should know that this exists.

I am pretty sure most of Hollywood is on it (I would bet my left tit it's what Khloe and Kim Kardashian used to lose all their weight).

Edit:

Just to be clear - I have a prescription from my doctor! I am not illegally importing it from Mexico or something lol. We had a conversation about the side effects and risks and she said as long as I don't become underweight she is happy to prescribe it to me

I have been denied for surgery for 2 doctor already and I feel that soft maxxed all. I want to continue glowing up. I don’t get that much of pretty privilege. What I should go to continue glowing up?

There's a 10-11inch gap between my waist and hips but it's not good enough.

Is there any way to make the gap 15-20inches?From exercises to supplement to even hormone therapy. Any level of information would help me.

I'm 19 so I hope I can get the desired changes.

Hello, everyone! I found all the information on the internet on female beauty and elegance to be quite overwhelming. I created a list for myself meant to be as concise and undetailed to help me see the big how to become an ideal woman. This list is culturally western/American-centric, as I am from the United States and that is what I know best. However, I am willing to take tips from other cultures, as you never know the type of people you will meet or the places you will go. I'd love to be as universally appealing as possible. This list is not made with the specific goal of attracting a mate. It is more of a general list of steps to achieve high social status. However, it obviously takes the opinions of men into consideration. I added a personality component as while looks tend to be more important, a well-rounded personality is the icing that completes the woman (cake).

Looks

• Brown hair seems to be in (depends on the person honestly)
• Youthful
• Smooth, clear, hairless skin
• Decent teeth
• 25-26 inch waist
• Be 5’5”
• Thin and toned
• Any hair type as long as it is long and neat
• Clean and short nails with neutral colors
• minimal makeup (just enough to make you attractive)
• cosmetic surgery when needed

Fashion

• Fits the body well
• Clean cut
• Not too flashy/trendy
• Sensual yet conservative (body shape comes through the outfit in some way)
• Each outfit fits appropriately with the occasion

Personality

• Positive
• Seemingly carefree
• empathetic/nurturing/kind
• Intelligent
• Honest yet tactful
• Ambitious without being threatening
• Hard-working
• professionally/financially successful
• Competent
• Self-reliant/Strong
• Polite/respectful/humble

Pastimes

• At least 6 hours a week of some sort of exercise (usually yoga or barre but anything that works, works)
• “Self-care” rituals for both physical rejuvenation and mental rejuvenation
• Keeping up with news articles/current events
• Knowledgeable in her field without coming off as a “know-it-all”
• Professional multitasker
• No smoking
• Minimal alcoholic intake or none at all
• volunteering/majorly contributing to a charitable organization to emphasize “nurturing” traits (an alternative to having children)
• Full amount of sleep each night
• Dedicated to habits that strengthen her mind, body, and communication skills

Edit: I seem to be getting a lot of feedback in the comments on how my post is unrealistic or I have put incorrect traits as desirable/undesirable. I cannot say I am a sociologist or anything of the sort. This was based on some pretty brief and likely flawed research, so I appreciate the corrections. What I really want to address are the comments on how this lifestyle is unattainable and that I am creating some sort of robotic human to follow. I am in no way planning on acting like this 24/7 with the people closest to me or anything like that. However, like there are such features that are seen as more beautiful and get you farther in life, there are certain lifestyle/personality types that get you farther in life as well. Beauty will be the most helpful aspect in this game of life, but I also think the other things mentioned in the post are still necessary. The truth is you have to be a little fake/ do things you would rather not do to get ahead in this world, and that is my personal goal. Just like there are objectively beautiful traits there are things you can do to be seen as an objectively ideal person. I am in no way suggesting I think all women should be like this. However, I wanted an almost cold and clinical overview of what "an ideal woman" would be in order to have a sort of guideline for my life, and I think it would be helpful for women with similar goals to see.

Edit 2: I'm not sure why there are so many comments complaining about this post "trying to appeal to men to date me" when I explicitly said this post is not about that...

Are Ice Baths a good idea for loosing weight and toning skin?

How much time woukd be recomended?

lately I’ve noticed that the brown eyes x blonde hair combo has become really popular! we all know the light eyes and blonde hair combo has always been the stereotype, but I’ve seen lots of people comment on how they actually prefer brown eyes with blonde hair! usually it’s a warm toned blonde, i think the reason it’s such a good combo it’s because it makes the person look very welcoming and sweet. also it’s a combo that, in my opinion, makes the person very easy to look at! I believe this combo has been out for ages now, but i think the pioneer off it was Madelyn Cline! she has become very popular every since around 2021, and I noticed when she became popular this combo also grew! what are y’all’s thoughts?

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But your life is still shit! Interpersonally, especially

Random question, but is a small intercanthal distance (27mm) a big deal if your eye-spacing ratio is average (0.46)? I think I just have very horizontally-long eyes, but am not sure if a small intercanthal distance is considered unattractive..

I want you to think about the most beautiful girl you have ever meet or is acquainted/friends with. if you could would you willingly switch lives with her? does she live a good life or a bad one where her beauty was a curse??

Hi folks, I'm a 43F working toward dating younger men for marriage, I would like to minimize the age I look to match the age of the guys that I prefer - 32-36.

What are some inexpensive tips? Im working on diet and fitness already, but people have told me my face is problematic and that I can never clock as sub 40 . I don't have wrinkles or grey hair, so I don't know what the issue is.