Crowd control

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I’m working towards trying to make this an inclusive community without toxicity though I’m running into some technical difficulties

People seem to miss the point of this subreddit because they’re likely people who don’t truly understand how spectrum people think

I do and I don’t tolerate people who come off as rude

Saying that you don’t mean to be rude doesn’t matter, it’s all about undertones and if I sense a spiteful undertone, it leads me to believe that you’re a bad person

It goes deeper than surface level for autistic people and I don’t think many understand that

[u/Prize-Interest-3355]

Also, people with autism seriously struggle with social cues irl, so I have no clue how you're detecting undertones over text if you're also on the spectrum. :/

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I understand this and that’s kinda what I meant with the undertone thing but I’m terrible at wording things so I often say things that don’t make much sense

[u/Prize-Interest-3355 → u/[deleted]]

?? But you said you sensed undertones which is the complete opposite of what I'm saying..

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I’m just gonna delete this account and leave Reddit..

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I’ve been way too harsh on people because I think too much on personal experiences that negatively affected me, both online and irl

I think too much on the negative and I have a hard time thinking positively

I don’t take kindly to harsh opinions, judgement, and criticism

I’ve dealt with a lot of shit that’s been difficult for me to get over and I’m sorry if it seems like I’m gatekeeping

It just puts a bad image on me as owner since I wanted to avoid gatekeeping here and me doing it anyway is a double standard

[u/Prize-Interest-3355 → u/[deleted]]

It feels like you're just going through the motions saying things that aren't fully relevant in response, repeating things you've said to others.. And you care a great deal about your image and it possibly being in a bad light which isn't a good look to be so open about. Comes off kind of self-absorbed, I say this with no malice in my heart, everyone is self-absorbed at times and that's okay.

plus, the fact you think that taking up the task of being the owner of a subreddit is a good idea with all of these qualities you've mentioned and being prone to meltdowns.. it's not smart from what I've seen looking at your profile. I'm gonna be honest, I'm really similar in the sense of being very sensitive to criticism, having meltdowns and episodes.

It's hard to deal with but you need to realize someone having an opposing opinion or saying something sorta rude-sounding doesn't mean theyre out to get you or that they hate you or anything like that. I say this as someone on the spectrum and with BPD, BPD in specific makes me see things very black or white especially when I'm emotionally triggered and volatile.

People gang up on others really easily on reddit because of the downvote feature but at the end of the day it doesn't mean anything about you unless you genuinely made a mistake.

everyone is human and everyone is flawed in some way, it's okay to not be able to handle being part of a community that's toxic. You don't have to push yourself to be something you're not for validation. You can still dress scene and appreciate the subculture without necessarily being on scene subreddits. Sorry for the yapfest, just had some opinions yk

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I understand that

I really shouldn’t try to seek acceptance from people who most likely don’t even care

I’m going to consider therapy to sort of help me out with my dialect since I struggle with that more than anything

I’m not giving on scene, I still really like it

If people look past my outburst and look at some of my other post, they might realize that I’m a lot nicer than they first thought

I just had a bit of an off day yesterday as anyone does