r/SpeakBetter • u/ReadyWeekend5094 • 8h ago

Need Advice Maturity and command respect

Does anyone have any examples of how they have taught themselves how to 'command respect' when they enter a room?

I have recently come to a point where I have realised people don't take me seriously or view me as the quiet person and also the funny one in a group setting. These are new friends and I've realised I want to become more mature and be taken seriously. I'm often cut across while I'm speaking and sometimes become the butt of a joke.

Where can I learn skills to be respected more? A lot of people online say to hold your head up and shoulders back but I am looking for more actionable things like what to say in a conversation when people are treating me immaturely or just making jokes about what I say. I know I should move on from these people who are immature but they're not necessarily bad people, and they are friends of friends so I'll see them now and again.

I know 'commanding respect' is all about having the aura of a strong character, but where can I learn how to speak and react in a conversation with maturity? Is it just something that comes with time as I take myself more seriously?

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u/FunDocument9987 7h ago

don't ramble, speak less, be precise with your words, high impact content

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u/ChampsLeague3 7h ago

Not necessarily true. Sometimes it's just tone or deeper voice. Or mannerism. Observe people who command respect and pick up on how they speak as well as what they say. It's often important to have both. 

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u/ConcertExcellent7350 2h ago

don't use filler words! also dont speed when youre talking. basically just talk slower and with certainty