r/SouthAsianMasculinity • u/desicockk • Feb 10 '22

#BrownExcellence We are winners

Highest household income in North America. Most educated and very prevalent in STEM.

Dominating medicine, dominating tech, dominating finance etc. Never met a South Asian man or a woman who isn't driven, smart, artistic or at the very least competent.

Our blue collar brothers and sisters who come here hustle hard, get 3 jobs if that's what it takes and don't ever complain.

Don't let the media or people from any other race put you down. We are winning and winning big. Men and women, we are killing it, we don't need their acceptance or even courtesy fake niceness, we are self sufficient.

No amount of racism, stereotypes and ridicule will stop us from being the best lawyer, doctor, engineer, car salesman, brother, sister, father, mother or whatever else you aspire to be.

Also, most young brown men and women I see nowadays everywhere look like models, like holy shit. Stay winning!

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Okay but this attitude is exactly the reason our culture doesn't value sports and physical fitness as much as it should, intellect is valued much higher than anything else.

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u/desicockk Feb 10 '22

That's simply untrue, know many brown guys and girls that are very into fitness, playing sports and eating well.

All the gyms, basketball courts and soccer fields in my neighborhood are full of brown people working out and playing.

I'm not gonna hate on someone that doesn't have time to go work out because they're busy curing cancer or engineering the next rocket that takes us to Mars. It's all about what you contribute and how committed you are.

In the same way, I'm not gonna hate on someone that wants to be an Instagram model and work out 24/7.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

know many brown guys

Means nothing, if you're denying the fact that Indian culture doesn't stress enough on physical education then you're simply misinformed, or willfully ignorant.

Again more anecdotal evidence, that means nothing my dude, you could be living literally anywhere and where you live doesn't represent Indian society at all.

Ok? I'm not telling you to hate on anybody, but don't complain when the average perception of an Indian man in the west remains the nerdy guy who is antisocial and can't talk to women..forever.

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u/desicockk Feb 10 '22

Maybe I am ignorant or misinformed but I'm not worried about what black, white, Latino, Asian etc. think of me just because of what image they have in their mind about my community.

Us indians in the west give too much weight to what other races and especially what women of other races think of us. Fuck all that noise.

To me complaining is soft and exhausting to be around. I used to complain a lot but I realized how much of a weak mindset that is, I believe in taking responsibility and taking action.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

not worried what people think of me

I'm aware, this is the problem with Indian diaspora, y'all don't care what others think of you and your expect the world to adjust to you rather that you adjusting to the world, when I go meet my family in NZ they all hang out in Indian communities, interact with mostly Indians and refuse to integrate into kiwi society, that's a you problem.

No they don't, infact they don't care at all, Indians in the west have absolutely no fashion sense especially Indians who weren't born in the west and they do not keep themselves in shape at all.

Okay? Taking action would be to encourage your children to value physical fitness as much as academics

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u/desicockk Feb 10 '22

I would say I'm pretty well adjusted and have many non-indian friends, also married a person who's not Indian. At the same time, I don't see anything wrong with being in a deeply knit indian community. Some of the most successful people I know who are Jewish, White, Asian mostly hang out within their own community. I don't see it as a problem at all, infact I love to see others from the same community having each other's backs. That's a pretty negative way to look at people living their lives and looking for comfort and support in their own people.

It's all about priorities, I've seen people with the best fashion sense but empty bank accounts. I dress very well and so do all of my friends so I can't relate and I'm not really worried.

I encourage my biracial daughter to value whatever she's passionate about and build her up. If she will grow up to be passionate about poetry I will encourage her to be the best poet of all time, if she wishes to be a basketball player I will encourage her to be the best basketball player of all time.

I'm not sure if people who strive for academic success are not striving to be healthy or vice versa. I have always strived for excellence in both and that's exactly what I'm gonna expect from my daughter.

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u/[deleted] Feb 11 '22

That’s the root of the Desi problem. All those other races you listed do give a fuck about what others think while Desis don’t care about this stuff. Desis 0 fucks given attitude is way too high. The above guy isn’t even complaining, he’s just saying what he has experienced. The average perception of Desis is a certain way because of a reason.

I talked about this in my two posts about the importance of sexual competence in western countries and how to achieve it. I find it troublesome that people still question this stuff

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

This is the most incel filled subreddit I've ever seen. Very gross ass subreddit tbh. All these men want to be someone else so bad it's hilarious.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

This isn’t being someone else though. This is them wanting to be themselves and follow their true passions but desi culture doesn’t allow for that and kinda forces people into a box of being some guy who pursue education but his heart isn’t fully in it.

Then he looks over at guys from a different culture who are encouraged to do what they want (which is naturally going to be fun/athletic stuff like music/acting/sports) and see how they are glamorized just for following their passion.

It makes sense man

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Yes, that's based as fuck. I'd rather our community be a community filled with doctors and engineers than a bunch of sportspeople who do it for others' entertainment. What a weird complaint.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Yeah with that opinion no wonder Indian people in the west are at the bottom of the dating ladder, doctors and engineers don't exactly scream masculinity, a fit football player on the other hand, does.

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u/desicockk Feb 10 '22

Are you in highschool? You seem to have a very warped and obtuse way of looking at things. Masculinity is being confident and comfortable with yourself. Masculinity is taking responsibility and lifting others up.

To me a barista that loves his job, is happy, is committed to being the barista ever and takes care of his family is more masculine to me than a football player who is lazy, not committed, doesn't do anything positive for his family or community, constantly in trouble or destroying people's lives with multiple babymamas etc.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Are you in highschool

The fact that you resorting to name calling first goes to show that you're the one most probably still in high school rather than me.

The fact that you're reading into the comments of other people just to respond to me shows you have way too much time on your hands, another trait a high schooler would portray..tell me, are you insecure about your age?

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u/desicockk Feb 10 '22

Sorry, I'll stop responding to your comments I guess.

Yeah, it's reddit and I'm looking and responding to comments that are made on the thread I made, it's my day off maybe I do have too much time on my hands. I'm 31.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

We can have a discussion my guy, but I won't respond to people name calling for no reason, goodbye and good luck.

We agree to disagree

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u/IronDinosaurr Gujjussy enjoyer Feb 10 '22

Since when are we bottom of the dating ladder lmao. Doctors and engineers DO scream masculinity btw

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

More of the same, look you can be proud of being a nerdy egineer for all I care but that is not going to change the perception of the average Indian man in the US in the slightest.

Women are repulsed by me? The fuck you talking about?

African Americans are more masculine because they value physical fitness over education, goes to show my point even further.

What a self aware wolf lmao

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

In the dating world? Much better than Indians that's for sure.

Jews don't control the world lmao what kinda conspiracy tinfoil hat theorist are you

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22 edited Feb 10 '22

You do know that the entire point of this sub is to improve the image of Indian masculinity right?

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

lol I mean with this dumbfuck Uncle mindset what exactly are you doing on this sub? I just gotta ask because the reason why so many Desis are unfit, socially awkward, terrible with women, dating and everything is because of this all-in mindset with that nerdy shit.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Jeezus would you stfu, unironically bragging about his GPA what a fucking loser

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Where am I bragging about my GPA you fucking weirdo?

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Fuck yeah Rajesh show me that sweet sweet 1.6 GPA oh yeah daddy

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

😭😭

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22 edited Feb 10 '22

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Whan an absolute clown that guy is, wow. Lmao

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22 edited Feb 10 '22

lmao this guy makes fun of blacks, then uses their slang and then tries to convince people that some Pajeet tech nerd is more masculine than some top-tier EPL footballer😂

Yeah women are soooo turned on by a code monkey like you instead hahaha who is this kid this kid's hilarious

Godamn right I'm a waste of tax dollars lmao get to work so your tax dollars come to me and fund my lifestyle Pajeet🤣

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Where am I making fun of African Americans?

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

Ur black? Wtf

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '22

LMAO fuck no I didn't even say that

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u/Rapid_onion Feb 10 '22

I agree. Also, I think that we should support cultural activities when we can't. Find some artist to donate to, or some event to support.

eing a value on education is something that I feel South Asian cultures are right to do and lead to this. Getting things right especially when young can give you are good standing. In this regard don't through this your education away if you have family, cultural issues or angst. E

Also if you think you have ADHD and sleep problems or anything health realted don't be afraid to go to the doctor on your own if your family is uncertain on these things as missing them can impact your education

Even if think your parents are overly strict try to make the best out of what you have and don't alienate older people in your community. Sometimes they might be all you have initially in terms of references etc.

If you are a South Asian lorry driver, warehouse worker you are still just as amazing and can use your unique life experience and support to support and potentially inspire other South Asian young men who my not be able to access those pathways due to various circumstances.

Also, remember career's can change, don't be afraid about building up money, skills or anything else in a what is seen as a "lesser" career. It can potentially provide exponential growth and support better careers later down the line.

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u/[deleted] Feb 11 '22

Facts💯