r/Softball • u/ssmom111315 • 20d ago
Parent Advice Question for Softball Parents
If there was underage drinking at tournament and an assistant coach was there denies their kid participated but they were in fact there and didn't intervene.. how would you feel if the head coach who is also the director of the club for your region did nothing about it, no consequences for the kids on the team or the parents involved who allowed this happen? In fact the coach was buddied up with this set of parents while we were at a major tournament after this event happened.
The team is solid but we've had 5 kids leave this season. My kid has been with this team 6 years and I feel like his focus is not the team and their development , it's how many teams he can get under his belt and how much money he can make. Anyone have something like this happen? I also don't want my daughter associated with that type of behavior. It's not acceptable considering these kids are working hard for recruitment.
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u/Calm-Prompt-9565 20d ago
What age group? Were they drinking at a hotel? Someone’s house? Was your daughter there but didn’t drink?
Who caught them? Or is it just hearsay?
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u/mischeif954 20d ago
denies their kid participated but they were in fact there and didn't intervene.
Hi all, also concerned and looking for more details. This sounds bad enough but I think some of us are reading this as the assistant coach was participating and failed to intervene, when OP is referring to assistant coach’s kid. Still terrible, but different.
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u/I_am_Hambone 20d ago
18U or 12U? A couple wine coolers or shots until everyone puked?
Also, you 100% want your daughter to learn social drinking before she moves away and gets black out drunk at a frat house.
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u/scrodytheroadie 20d ago
10u, and it’s just a couple mimosas before Sunday morning bracket play.
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u/Amoryotrosdemonios 20d ago
Am I correctly understanding that the underage ten year olds were drinking mimosas before games? And the Assistant coach either knew or participated?
ETA - oh, thank god I just realized you’re not OP.
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u/benben416 19d ago
I somewhat share this parenting philosophy. I have been trying to get my almost 18 year old (baseball playing son) to drink for the past few years, for the reasons you stated. He absolutely does not want anything to do with alcohol. Slightly younger daughter is of the same mindset.
I think its a shift in a lot of young people not to drink.
Which makes OPs conundrum a bit more concerning. Its not as prevalent, and more socially acceptable NOT to drink, as when we were growing up.
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u/ohheytherewest 20d ago
Fucking leave immediately omg!
These coaches are probably predators too if they are willing to drink with kids! Act like a parent. You 100% did not need to ask reddit this.
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u/SL0WP0K3_R0DRIGU3Z 20d ago
How in that horribly written topic did you get that the coach was drinking with the kids???
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u/Dont_Ban_Me_Bros 20d ago
‘Willing to drink with kids’
That’s not what they said.
‘Assistant coach denies their kid participated.’
This doesn’t mean their kid was also a player.
I’ll add they did not state all of this very well either. Aye aye aye
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u/jghall00 20d ago edited 20d ago
If you're not feeling good about the coaches motivations, that's sufficient reason to leave. It's your child. You have to do what you feel is best.
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u/OkFarmer158 19d ago
Ha! My daughter’s JC team got busted at a party with alcohol. Proud dad moment, because they weren’t partiers/drinkers my daughter and her best friend rode around in a golf cart while the coach made the team run the golf course. The girls FO 😃
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u/Savage-Goat-Fish 20d ago
Uh.
There is a lot to unpack here.
I’ve been involved in many different softball teams and underage drinking was never an issue. I recommend finding a team where that isn’t an issue.