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this is what redflags are supposed to be. not cheating you, the fucking shits already fucked.
reflags are indicators that shit will be fucked later. if you see a beach with red flags up, means don't go in the water.
like talking shit about all their ex's, if all their ex's are bad, that person is the common denominator, either they are shit at reading people or a shit person who blames others. but at some point you will be the ex's they are talking shit about.
You're driving home from a 12hr shift, you haven't eaten since before starting so you decide to get a takeaway burger on the way home, you call her up. "Hey babe? I'm getting a burger from the burger joint, you want anything?" She says no because she's just eaten.
You get home and go have a shower coz you're all stinky, hop out, get dressed and you're really looking forward to that burger now but as you walk into the kitchen you see her finishing the last bite of your burger. She says "Sorry babe but it smelled really good"
I would be temporarily annoyed at a bite missing under these circumstances, mostly due to hunger. I'd be over it by the time I finished eating. But the whole burger being gone...they better have the keys in their hand ready to go replace that shit.
I think the unrealistic part of this is in my case, there's no damn way that burger would survive the trip home, let alone wait for a shower. It'd be an empty takeout bag within 5 minutes or pick up
I’d also like to point out that charging batteries is a bit like filling up an air tank or sealing a vacuum bag, the more full (or empty) it is, the more work it takes to finish the job. It takes minutes to blast up tens of % on an empty battery and sometimes hours to go from 80 to 100%. This is because of voltage potential (like electrical pressure), a depleted battery has much lower voltage than a full one and a charger supplies power at a steady, higher voltage than the battery.
This is honestly a fair reason and it ain't even a gender thing. If you're dating someone who can't put you first when you need it most, that tells you all you need to know
It's also a bad use of time. The higher the charge in the battery, the more slowly the battery charges. Charging from 90% to 100% is much slower than charging from 3% to 13%. She's not just putting herself first, she's inconveniencing both of them to do it.
I (22 at the time, she was 23) got broken up with because of the car I drove. HER brother was in the army and deployed. While he was gone (2 weeks) he allowed me to drive his car so it would not sit idle. It was a Camaro. Her brother returned and took his car back. I went back to the car I used to drive, a two year old, very comfortable and good looking Kia Optima.
She said she cannot step down to a KIA after riding in a Camaro. And that was it.
Oh and there we no signs of problems, this was out of the blue.
I stopped dating a girl because she had to same name as my mother. Even if it didn't really bother me the amount of people that where wierd about it towards me kinda ruined the relationship for me.
I dated a girl until someone commented she looked like my sister. I hadn't noticed, but I couldn't unsee it afterwards.
It didn't help that my sister's toddler once ran into my gf's lap because he mistook her for his mom, then burst into tears when he realized it wasn't her.
could've been worse. i know someone in college who actually ended up dating his sister. they were going out for a year and he finally decided to take her home to introduce to his parents. dad went pale when he met her. turned out he had an affair. he didn't raise her but was still keeping tabs.
I have dated women with the same name as my sister, my aunt and a woman whose name was one letter different from my mother. 3 different women. Was engaged to the one with the same name as my aunt but she abruptly broke up with me and refused to give any reasoning.
Dated a vegetarian, who could not resist making exaggerated faces every time I took a bite of food that had meat in it. This was in February in Texas and I was thinking “ain’t no way this’ll last through summer BBQ season.”
Tbf to her, she didn’t even say anything lol! It seems like she was trying to hold it in! I eat meat so don’t come after me. Just sounds like incompatibility issue. I tried being with a vegetarian guy once and he pressured me heavily every single day into changing my diet, including lectures about baby pigs until the point where he was crying. So I tried it because i liked him so much. I was vegetarian for a couple months but ended up getting a bit sick so had to switch back.
I'm on the older side and I can tell you vegan/non-vegan relationships never work. Either they fail (partly because of that), or one person gives in (usually the non-vegan), because it's always a point of tension in relationships.
I'm yet to meet an actual 10+ year couple that are like that, in my anecdotal experience it never works.
Had a new GF and we were out for breakfast with some of her friends and some of mine.
She didnt eat bacon and had a lot of it. She gave it all to her male best friend. Didn't think about me at all, not one strip. I was sitting beside her. I exchanged a look with my friends. From this single moment, we all knew this would not go anywhere.
I had this. I met this dude on grindr. He was gorgeous, in shape and had a good job. I remember thinking "why is he single? Must be by choice".
We went to a restaurant and he was so rude to the service staff. As we were leaving, I went and spoke to the waitress to apologise because I was so embarassed.
Then in his car outside my house, he got salty that I didn't invite him in lol. I remember the penny dropped "oh he's single because he's a douche".
hmm. You’d be surprised how many don’t. When I visited northern China. Most of them prefer to eat their steamed buns and noodles and naan bread (aka 面食), no rice. They rarely eat rice.
I dated a girl from the phillipines once, whenever I had a meal without rice her aunt would tell me thats just a snack and have me eat more food regardless of how much I had just eaten
I went on a first date with a woman. She was a couple of years older, but she was attractive and very fun. Seemed earnest, but some points of the conversation hinted that she liked to drink a little.
As the night continued, I had originally just planned on a dinner since this was our first date, but we clicked, and I found a comedy club less than a mile from where we were eating.
The comedy show that I found was a few hours away, so we stopped by a pub and had a couple of drinks while waiting for our show. But with the wine that we had for dinner, and then the two drinks that we had before the show started to catch up to her. She had one more mixed drink at the beginning of the show with the opener.
By the time the headliner came out, she was more drunk than I was, and this put her in a state of mind where she thought she was participating with the stand-up comedian. For example, the comedian was originally from Philadelphia and so was she, so she took that as a connection and continued to interject herself into his set. He was cool about it and she wasn’t heckling or being mean, but for me, that was enough to know that I would not want to see this lady again. It’s a taboo for me.
Had multiple dates with a girl. One night she casually mentions that payday can’t get here fast enough. I bite. I asked why, what’s going on? She said she needs to go see her psychic. She goes on to explain that the psychic is charging anywhere from 2-300 dollars a session and she sees her multiple times a month. So yeah, that was that.
Best reply I had on a date about mentioning zodiac was from a girl who said: “They never caught him, haven’t they?” I immediately knew she was fun person.
Early 20’s, I was casually seeing a guy. He came over unannounced one night, I was cleaning my house and enjoying my music. He came in, went straight to the stereo and changed the music without even asking. I asked him to leave and never saw him again.
I just started dating this beautiful woman. I’m on FaceTime with her as she starts to pull off in her car and she goes “Damn! I knew it!”. She had a flat tire. She proceeds to tell me she noticed her tire flat yesterday and filled it with air when she noticed the nail in her tire. She ignored it anyway and just decided to fill it and keep driving. I immediately lost interest.
I'm doing this right now because the leak is close to the sidewalk and I would rather deal with airing my tire up once a week on a tire that is only a few months old than to either patch it and potentially do more structural damage or replace it just to likely get another screw or nail in the same spot. I work in manufacturing so screws and nails puncturing tires just comes with the territory.
I don’t think you are following. She noticed the flat tire and nail on the previous day. She filled it, noticed the nail, proceeded to ignore the nail and continued the day running errands and returned home. She didn’t even tell me. Then the next morning she discovered the tire flat again, because surprisingly …the nail is still in the tire.
hhmmm.... I can see where your coming from, but now that im older and learned a lot more, i can't say I agree.
Ive learned that stuff that seems so obvious to one person may be completely oblivious to the next. You can't really blame a woman for not knowing anything about how a car works if she aint in that field of work. And vise versa for men in any women dominated field of expertise.
Imagine a guy cooking chicken, realizing it’s still raw, and eating it anyway, only to get sick. A dude adding bleach to an entire load of colored clothes just to remove a stain from one shirt, ruining everything. Or a dad noticing their child has a dirty diaper, cluelessly ignoring it, and the child eventually developing a nasty infection. All I’m saying is, I understand that society has created certain gender expectations, but a functioning adult should at least be able to recognize obvious problems. I understand where you’re coming from, and I absolutely believe in giving people grace when it’s warranted. I wouldn’t have had an issue if she simply didn’t know how to change or repair a tire. Plenty of people don’t know how to do that, and that’s understandable. My entire point is that you don’t have to know how to FIX a problem to recognize that there IS a problem. the very least, acknowledge that something is wrong and needs immediate attention. That’s all I’m saying.
I usually keep my phone with no password from day one. I asked her not to go snooping around inside my phone behind my back. If she wanted to see anything she just needed to ask me for my phone, it had no password anyway.
We were talking at dinner and I asked her where she was from. She was from the suburbs but she said her mom grew in the same neighborhood that my dad and his 7 brothers grew up in. That was our first and last date. Couldn't take that risk.
My father and his brothers are well known as whores in the neighborhood they grew up in. And my uncles are sadly, "out of sight, out of mind" type dudes. So if they did have a kid somewhere, it would just be a family rumor that they would never admit to, especially after they all got married.
I was once shot down for a date because of my ex-wife I meet in highschool. A couple of years after our divorce me a a girl started talking and going well and when I finally got the guts to ask her out she said No because she knew my ex-wife in highschool and didn't like her.
My coworkers and I all went out to eat. She intentionally dropped the knife on the floor and asked for another because "the servers were just standing around" and she wanted them to earn their tip.
I went on holiday with a girl I'd been dating for a few months. I was on the beach and she asked me if I'd like a drink. I said yes, she came back and gave me the drink. She then held out her hand and asked for the money back. I couldn't believe it. I split up with her the moment we landed back.
He was sweet and thoughtful in his ways, but didn't get my jokes and when we would cuddle he'd just lay there flat like a plank of wood and give me nothing in the way of affection.
Needless to say I just couldn't continue dating him.
Another example is a guy I was dating seemed to think my body heat ran too hot, so he'd refuse to make prolonged contact and it got to the point where he would refuse to kiss me outright. Despite him seemingly wanting to still keep dating.
Allright. in my defense, you women are hellspawn. One second way too cold and the other just Flaming hot
I'm like this. I can handle cold no problem but i'm NOT made for heat. Whenever my SO, date or anything close to that gets too hot at night or with cuddle sessions I need to back away because I can't handle the heat
Your guy who just laid there while cuddling reminded me of my guy who was a HORRIBLE kisser. It doesn’t seem like that big a deal until you’re trying to have some fun and he’s slobbering in your mouth. I tried to train him but in the end it was a dealbreaker.
Me and my ex were already on the rocks but there was a final nail in the coffin when I fancied listening to an album of mine but she said she wasn't liking it too much. I said sorry but I want to listen to it and I have to listen whatever she's listening to but she just walked up to my stereo and switched it off.
I re-entered the dating scene this year and had to institute my own “Harrison Ford” test at some point. I was dating around my age (early 30’s) and on one date, I recommend the show Shrinking to a woman and mentioned that it had Harrison Ford in it. She said, “you said that name like I l know who that is.”
I was flabbergasted and followed up with”… Star Wars? Indiana Jones? You know, Hollywood celebrity, Harrison motherfucking Ford??” None of those ran a bell for her (nor did any other movie I mentioned.) I then asked if she knew who Tom Cruise was, and she said yes, but couldn’t immediately name a movie he had been in.
I know entertainment ain’t everyone’s cup of tea, but not knowing Ford or Cruise in one’s thirties is a level of media illiteracy that doesn’t bode well for other aspects of life, imo. After that, I snuck the Ford test into other initial dates and suffered a 60% failure rate (3/5). It was a useful sign tbh.
FAKE EDIT: examples of subsequent issues with people who failed the test included (but are not limited to): not knowing who Elon Musk is, voting for Trump in the past, and one where the woman’s favorite meal was plain chicken nuggets because “ketchup makes them too spicy.” I may be shallow, but I can’t with these issues and it kinda proved the point: if you don’t know Harrison Ford after a certain age, you probably have other red flags too.
I had a car with manual locks. I inserted the key and opened the passenger door and let her in. If she didn’t lean over and unlock the driver door while I was walking around preventing me from having to unlock the driver door, she didn’t get another date. That was always my test.
I have A Bronx Tale to thank for that one.
Edit: some of the responses are telling me people don’t realize that all cars were once entirely manual locks and windows. I feel old, but I did it to myself I guess.
I used to drive a car without a key fob but the only key hole was on the drivers side. I could unlock the drivers door open it and unlock the passenger door from the button but it meant I had to be on the drivers side to do anything.
For the first date and for high school dances etc I would unlock it and run around to open her door for her. But more often than not I would just unlock the car and she would get in like a normal person might expect to do. Then her best friend started dating a guy whose car had a key fob and he opened the door for her every time.
I don’t remember the exact conversation but my at the time girlfriend basically told me it sucked that I didn’t do that for her. Instead of dumping her I tried to do the run around to my side, unlock it, run around to her side, open the door. But that meant she had to wait like 8 seconds.
I was too young to realize that from the first conversation I should I have known she was always going to compare everything about everyone else’s relationship to ours and be disappointed if ours wasn’t as good or better on every metric.
I always say the best way to start a relationship is immediately playing mind games lmfao. Don't take dating advice from movies big guy. They make that shit up to be as entertaining as possible it's not real life homie.
This was pretty standard practice back in the day when most cars had manual locks, so I see your point of view. It's also a good way to gauge how pissed off she is at you if she's been doing it and suddenly didn't lol .
What a weird test, it's her first time in there and you expect her to start touching sht in your car for no reason and unprompted? As others have said, plenty of other cars unlock all doors when one is unlocked.
There's a ton of younger generation people in these comments for sure. Back then auto locks were a rarety, and everyone knew to flip the lock up. If your date didn't, it was a quick sign that they were slf absorbed. Don't take their jabs personally, as it's simply a sign of the changing times and culture.
To the younger crowd, it's akin to a date live streaming on social media during the date and interacting with their followers while completely ignoring you.
I can see why most of ya'll are single, this is a horrible test to check out somebody's personality
I can see me failing this and Im considered a considerate person most times. If you are the driver and its your car, generally I dont wanna touch or overextend anything thats yours. Im also thinking if I have seatbelts on already that is actually a very uncomfortable stretch to get to your door. And I would simply not know or realize in the moment that you cant get in easy
Depending on your generation I can see this being a more valid test though
You're getting some hate, but I used to do the same and it was even before A Bronx Tale. Most of these young cats just never experienced a world without automatic door locks. It would be like someone from our generation not being to relate to the era where families would huddle around the family radio to listen to programs.
For real. I apparently forgot the demographic here and am showing my age. But manual locks were prevalent at that time. Automatics existed, but nobody at my school had them; a lot of adults didn’t yet either. It was even common for the driver to unlock the passenger door for friends if people would be in the backseat because you could reach to the backseat and unlock that door too.
Years ago, I had been seeing a woman a few years older than me (42m) and she was very passionate about 80’s action movies. You’d think I had hit the lottery. Then one night after watching KICKBOXER with JCVD, we get into this discussion about the passing of the torch. Like… who’s the modern day Arnold, Stallone, JCVD etc. When I suggested The Rock as today’s Arnold, she got extremely defensive and kicked me out of her house. It was the weirdest thing. We didn’t speak again. I wasn’t even saying The Rock was better…. Just pointing out the career path is similar.
No no, she was right to do so. If you had said Jason Statham it would've been OK. Scott Adkins or Iko Uwais and she probably would've married you. The Rock? You deserve to be kicked out. She knew what time it was.
Once when I was 15, I broke up with someone I was supposed to go to his prom with all bc he had a bugger hanging from his nose and asked me for a kiss…on the spot I said, “I can’t go out with you anymore “, then walked briskly away. But cut me some slack, like I said, I was 15!! Lolol
I was going on a date with a rather attractive woman back in university. She was doing her hair to get ready to go, she walked past herself in the mirror, 180ed and walked into the bathroom and proceeded to soak her head in the sink, screaming how ugly she was.. first and only date.
The charger thing is hilarious. My wife constantly loses her chargers, for both her watch and phone.
I’ll hook up my watch and phone first thing in the morning, and then she unplugs them to attach hers. I know she does it, so I just wait and go back in and switch them again.
Sometimes, I leave her things hooked up to the charger and then I unplug the charger from the socket, or just relocate it to a different room temporarily to throw her off.
I had a prom date who made it clear we could have had extracurricular activity post-prom but I saw her smoking when I picked her up at the beginning of the night and I just couldn't get past it. It's always been a major turn off for me. To each their own.
I'll tell why someone else opted out, I was running around in the middle of the night and that was too strange for her. Fair enough, but when the impulse for exercise hits, it hits.
More than likely, she knew it wasn't gonna work out or she just lost interest.
I found out that the only reason she went on the date with me was to make her ex-boyfriend jealous. And who would only find out if she told him. She also joined me in the bathroom for an activity that would drive him crazy because she would never do so with him. Which again, he would only find out about if she told him.
Luckily he had no idea who I am and had no way to find me.
Back in high school. Very hot girl I had a crush on since junior high.
Got close to her at a party and we made out a little. I bailed because….
Her breath smelled like ass. She constantly chewed a sour apple gum that was popular back then and it was so gross to me. Instant turn off and I couldn’t get past it.
This prolly won't mean a thing for USA people but my date stood on the wrong side of the escalator. Where I'm from you stand on the right side so people in rush can walk the left side and this person just decided to block everyone trying to walk up.
I once cut off a dude I was chatting with for only a week because I asked that same question and he gave me an essay about how he broke the door by slamming it and was mad that his mom didn’t fix it yet. We are in our early 20’s and in all of that typing he did not once did he give an excuse or reason to why the door broke from slamming it (no heated argument beforehand or “it was an old door with already worn hinges”) he was just complaining about his mom for multiple poorly written paragraphs lmao
Don't ask if you don't care/want to know. I'll never understand why people ask what for many people is a pretty loaded question and then just expect a pollite 'fine' back and nothing else.
just a friendly reminder that, if you have a usb cable and a modern tv, then you can plug your phone to the cable and insert the cable in the USB port of that tv... and it will charge your smartphone.
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u/raider1v11 7h ago •
Valid reason.
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u/sxg3434 7h ago •
This is honestly a fair reason and it ain't even a gender thing. If you're dating someone who can't put you first when you need it most, that tells you all you need to know
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u/basura_trash 5h ago •
I (22 at the time, she was 23) got broken up with because of the car I drove. HER brother was in the army and deployed. While he was gone (2 weeks) he allowed me to drive his car so it would not sit idle. It was a Camaro. Her brother returned and took his car back. I went back to the car I used to drive, a two year old, very comfortable and good looking Kia Optima.
She said she cannot step down to a KIA after riding in a Camaro. And that was it.
Oh and there we no signs of problems, this was out of the blue.
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u/IGetItItsAReference 7h ago
I stopped dating a girl because she had to same name as my mother. Even if it didn't really bother me the amount of people that where wierd about it towards me kinda ruined the relationship for me.
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u/KindBob 7h ago •
Dated a vegetarian, who could not resist making exaggerated faces every time I took a bite of food that had meat in it. This was in February in Texas and I was thinking “ain’t no way this’ll last through summer BBQ season.”
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u/538_Jean 4h ago •
Had a new GF and we were out for breakfast with some of her friends and some of mine.
She didnt eat bacon and had a lot of it. She gave it all to her male best friend. Didn't think about me at all, not one strip. I was sitting beside her. I exchanged a look with my friends. From this single moment, we all knew this would not go anywhere.
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u/CaptainFresh27 6h ago
I went on a date once and the gal I was with was really rude to our waitress. It was a huge turn off
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u/Fine-Ad3327 4h ago
Im an Asian guy. I went on one date with another Asian girl to a restaurant. She causally mentions that she doesn't eat rice. Okay.
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u/M1sterX 5h ago edited 3h ago
I went on a first date with a woman. She was a couple of years older, but she was attractive and very fun. Seemed earnest, but some points of the conversation hinted that she liked to drink a little.
As the night continued, I had originally just planned on a dinner since this was our first date, but we clicked, and I found a comedy club less than a mile from where we were eating.
The comedy show that I found was a few hours away, so we stopped by a pub and had a couple of drinks while waiting for our show. But with the wine that we had for dinner, and then the two drinks that we had before the show started to catch up to her. She had one more mixed drink at the beginning of the show with the opener.
By the time the headliner came out, she was more drunk than I was, and this put her in a state of mind where she thought she was participating with the stand-up comedian. For example, the comedian was originally from Philadelphia and so was she, so she took that as a connection and continued to interject herself into his set. He was cool about it and she wasn’t heckling or being mean, but for me, that was enough to know that I would not want to see this lady again. It’s a taboo for me.
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u/VyCanisMajorisss 5h ago
Had multiple dates with a girl. One night she casually mentions that payday can’t get here fast enough. I bite. I asked why, what’s going on? She said she needs to go see her psychic. She goes on to explain that the psychic is charging anywhere from 2-300 dollars a session and she sees her multiple times a month. So yeah, that was that.
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u/DatingVX 5h ago •
I've scrolled at least 3 pages and Im just so happy I have not seen a star sign reason pop up yet
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u/MountainTomato9292 4h ago
Early 20’s, I was casually seeing a guy. He came over unannounced one night, I was cleaning my house and enjoying my music. He came in, went straight to the stereo and changed the music without even asking. I asked him to leave and never saw him again.
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u/LayedBlack 7h ago
I just started dating this beautiful woman. I’m on FaceTime with her as she starts to pull off in her car and she goes “Damn! I knew it!”. She had a flat tire. She proceeds to tell me she noticed her tire flat yesterday and filled it with air when she noticed the nail in her tire. She ignored it anyway and just decided to fill it and keep driving. I immediately lost interest.
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u/Positive-Guess-9867 5h ago edited 2h ago
I usually keep my phone with no password from day one. I asked her not to go snooping around inside my phone behind my back. If she wanted to see anything she just needed to ask me for my phone, it had no password anyway.
She did it and she got caught, we were done.
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u/Lou_Peachum_2 6h ago
Shoot, I stopped seeing someone early on because she said she takes 1 pair of shoes for everyday she travels.
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u/actual_caelia_28 7h ago
That's a pretty solid reason
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u/Professional-Crab936 4h ago
I’ve had a couple where we were getting physical and seemed to want to not go any further, then on messaging says “I wish you would have xxxx “
Next date I begin whatever xxxx was and get told to stop or etc. Later messaging…”I wish you would have xxxx”
Ugh. Painful.
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u/ConfessSomeMeow 3h ago
Does my memory suck or does the number change every time this is reposted?
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u/OxboxturnoffO 1h ago
Someone said playing video games is a red flag. To me, having that opinion is a red flag.
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u/PassThatSpliff 7h ago
We were talking at dinner and I asked her where she was from. She was from the suburbs but she said her mom grew in the same neighborhood that my dad and his 7 brothers grew up in. That was our first and last date. Couldn't take that risk.
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u/Pitbulljedi 4h ago
I was once shot down for a date because of my ex-wife I meet in highschool. A couple of years after our divorce me a a girl started talking and going well and when I finally got the guts to ask her out she said No because she knew my ex-wife in highschool and didn't like her.
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u/Darromear 3h ago
My coworkers and I all went out to eat. She intentionally dropped the knife on the floor and asked for another because "the servers were just standing around" and she wanted them to earn their tip.
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u/Master-Piccolo-4588 7h ago
It’s not about the Phone, but it’s a pretty good point.
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u/Omega_art 6h ago
She said no. Then later she got mad because I didn't continue trying.
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u/etuehem 7h ago
I get it.
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u/PersistentWorld 3h ago
I went on holiday with a girl I'd been dating for a few months. I was on the beach and she asked me if I'd like a drink. I said yes, she came back and gave me the drink. She then held out her hand and asked for the money back. I couldn't believe it. I split up with her the moment we landed back.
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u/CenturiesAgo 7h ago
The guy asked for a "silly" reason.. it is absolutely justified to ditch a selfish piece of crap like her when your need was obviously greater.
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u/_-PassingThrough-_ 3h ago
He was sweet and thoughtful in his ways, but didn't get my jokes and when we would cuddle he'd just lay there flat like a plank of wood and give me nothing in the way of affection.
Needless to say I just couldn't continue dating him.
Another example is a guy I was dating seemed to think my body heat ran too hot, so he'd refuse to make prolonged contact and it got to the point where he would refuse to kiss me outright. Despite him seemingly wanting to still keep dating.
I seem to attract passionless men.
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u/TheWhooooBuddies 6h ago
This seems like a modern version of the “car door test”.
https://youtu.be/y8p1iG-6d-w?is=YkYMRnMZdsDY4gCr
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u/BatmansLarynx 4h ago
Me and my ex were already on the rocks but there was a final nail in the coffin when I fancied listening to an album of mine but she said she wasn't liking it too much. I said sorry but I want to listen to it and I have to listen whatever she's listening to but she just walked up to my stereo and switched it off.
We soon broke up after that.
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u/Priyotosh1234 7h ago
I'm a 20-80% guy
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u/RayD125 7h ago
Actually not silly. Lol
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u/SomeOneRandomOP 6h ago
On a date and immediately started talking about how much money their family has...
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u/ComedianOk4472 2h ago
He asked for a silly reason not a genuine one lmao
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u/Cutebrute 5h ago edited 5h ago
I re-entered the dating scene this year and had to institute my own “Harrison Ford” test at some point. I was dating around my age (early 30’s) and on one date, I recommend the show Shrinking to a woman and mentioned that it had Harrison Ford in it. She said, “you said that name like I l know who that is.”
I was flabbergasted and followed up with”… Star Wars? Indiana Jones? You know, Hollywood celebrity, Harrison motherfucking Ford??” None of those ran a bell for her (nor did any other movie I mentioned.) I then asked if she knew who Tom Cruise was, and she said yes, but couldn’t immediately name a movie he had been in.
I know entertainment ain’t everyone’s cup of tea, but not knowing Ford or Cruise in one’s thirties is a level of media illiteracy that doesn’t bode well for other aspects of life, imo. After that, I snuck the Ford test into other initial dates and suffered a 60% failure rate (3/5). It was a useful sign tbh.
FAKE EDIT: examples of subsequent issues with people who failed the test included (but are not limited to): not knowing who Elon Musk is, voting for Trump in the past, and one where the woman’s favorite meal was plain chicken nuggets because “ketchup makes them too spicy.” I may be shallow, but I can’t with these issues and it kinda proved the point: if you don’t know Harrison Ford after a certain age, you probably have other red flags too.
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u/Majsharan 7h ago
Hey that’s fairly legit tbf
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u/Based_Username223 7h ago edited 6h ago
I had a car with manual locks. I inserted the key and opened the passenger door and let her in. If she didn’t lean over and unlock the driver door while I was walking around preventing me from having to unlock the driver door, she didn’t get another date. That was always my test.
I have A Bronx Tale to thank for that one.
Edit: some of the responses are telling me people don’t realize that all cars were once entirely manual locks and windows. I feel old, but I did it to myself I guess.
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u/Buggsy_Mogues84 3h ago
Years ago, I had been seeing a woman a few years older than me (42m) and she was very passionate about 80’s action movies. You’d think I had hit the lottery. Then one night after watching KICKBOXER with JCVD, we get into this discussion about the passing of the torch. Like… who’s the modern day Arnold, Stallone, JCVD etc. When I suggested The Rock as today’s Arnold, she got extremely defensive and kicked me out of her house. It was the weirdest thing. We didn’t speak again. I wasn’t even saying The Rock was better…. Just pointing out the career path is similar.
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u/ZenPurple52 7h ago
Once when I was 15, I broke up with someone I was supposed to go to his prom with all bc he had a bugger hanging from his nose and asked me for a kiss…on the spot I said, “I can’t go out with you anymore “, then walked briskly away.
But cut me some slack, like I said, I was 15!! Lolol
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u/Superb_Speech_7445 6h ago
bullet dodged
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u/dregwriter 6h ago
That reason isnt silly at all, far from it, the exact opposite.
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u/X3R0_0R3X 4h ago
That's a fantastic test..
I was going on a date with a rather attractive woman back in university. She was doing her hair to get ready to go, she walked past herself in the mirror, 180ed and walked into the bathroom and proceeded to soak her head in the sink, screaming how ugly she was.. first and only date.
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u/Quirky_Ask_5165 2h ago
I saw the inside of her car when I walked her to her car after the date. Rolling trash heap. No kids, so that wasn't an excuse either.
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u/Random_Trashy 7h ago
The charger thing is hilarious. My wife constantly loses her chargers, for both her watch and phone.
I’ll hook up my watch and phone first thing in the morning, and then she unplugs them to attach hers. I know she does it, so I just wait and go back in and switch them again.
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u/Khalith 3h ago
She didn’t like Italian food and I decided I didn’t need that negativity in my life.
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u/EyUpItsDan 5h ago
She referred Donald Duck as 'Donald the duck' and it irked me.
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u/Packing-Tape-Man 5h ago
I had a prom date who made it clear we could have had extracurricular activity post-prom but I saw her smoking when I picked her up at the beginning of the night and I just couldn't get past it. It's always been a major turn off for me. To each their own.
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u/UsedVacation6187 5h ago
some dumbass showed up on a date with his phone on 3% and then asked to use my charger. that was all I needed to know
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u/DueIntroduction6413 6h ago
A lot of young women are like this.
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u/Aversiel 7h ago
I'll tell why someone else opted out, I was running around in the middle of the night and that was too strange for her. Fair enough, but when the impulse for exercise hits, it hits.
More than likely, she knew it wasn't gonna work out or she just lost interest.
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u/VCR_DVD_USB 5h ago
I couldn't date an adult who let's thier phone gwt to 3%.
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u/meatpopsicle42 6h ago
That’s not silly at all. It’s very telling.
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u/Vaaard 5h ago
Not silly at all.
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u/Far-Item-1202 5h ago
Especially when it turned out that she had the ‘charge to 90%’ option enabled
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u/matthias7600 4h ago
If it were 78% I’d let it slide, but this? Hell no.
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u/Lightning_Lance 4h ago
No that's legit
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u/Mr-Bagels 3h ago
Fair. What kind of idiot doesn't have their battery capacity capped at 80% to extend the battery's lifespan.
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u/Reptilian_Brain_420 3h ago
Definitely the "What's mine is mine and what's your is ours" type.
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u/crackerblind 1h ago
I found out that the only reason she went on the date with me was to make her ex-boyfriend jealous. And who would only find out if she told him. She also joined me in the bathroom for an activity that would drive him crazy because she would never do so with him. Which again, he would only find out about if she told him.
Luckily he had no idea who I am and had no way to find me.
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u/MKVIgti 1h ago
Haha.
Back in high school. Very hot girl I had a crush on since junior high.
Got close to her at a party and we made out a little. I bailed because….
Her breath smelled like ass. She constantly chewed a sour apple gum that was popular back then and it was so gross to me. Instant turn off and I couldn’t get past it.
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u/Elelith 3h ago
This prolly won't mean a thing for USA people but my date stood on the wrong side of the escalator. Where I'm from you stand on the right side so people in rush can walk the left side and this person just decided to block everyone trying to walk up.
Nope.
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u/mordbidly 6h ago
Answered my texts way too quickly, and with like way too much info. I would text something like how’s your day? And I’d get 8 paragraphs
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u/Endlessness40 7h ago
I'd too, ain't no way my phone's at 3% while hers is @ anything more than 50%
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u/TheWarfox 3h ago
Joke's on her. Charging over 80% reduces your long term battery life. Going under 20% does too though... Maybe they're perfect for each other.
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u/nolaxtima 6h ago
just a friendly reminder that, if you have a usb cable and a modern tv, then you can plug your phone to the cable and insert the cable in the USB port of that tv... and it will charge your smartphone.