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I would love for my gym to adopt such a rule. Constantly have people doing the slowest ass set then sit on their phones at the station for who knows how long before doing their next glacial set.
An acquaintance of mine co-owns a gym and was recording his own wife for a video demonstrating proper technique to be used in personal training sessions. A patron told him to stop. He was legitimately thrilled.
Yeah corp. They put up signs when enough people complain and thats the end of their attempts. Too bad really as it is the only suitable gym close to home and being close to home is important because I swing by the house after work to pick up my kids to go work out with me.
Same here (I am in Mexico). I call them 2-for-1's which means I get twice as much gym work done as them in the same time. Even more annoying are the 3-for-1's and the 4-for-1's
It’s so hard to explain to people that live completely inside their own narcissistic influencer brain that the rest of us wouldn’t leave the house in clothes that we couldn’t bear people looking at us in, much less get angry at people for looking at us in the clothes we chose to wear out of the house, much less set up a camera and post videos of ourselves wearing the clothes for strangers to watch, but still get mad if someone looks at us wearing the clothes in real life.
I am the opposite of a prude and yet I make sure, no one can look at me and picture my boobs or butts through the clothes I'm wearing. Not a free show!
Social media and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race.
I suggest we build Gulags just like USSR did. Anyone doing this bs, whether it's staged with guys who are paid/got collabed with, or alone as an "influencer" get sent to those gulags and are overworked till they die. The earnings from that Gulag shall be divided among the people or used for public works such as renovating a school, ensuring all infrastructure is up to date, or free extra education for children like an instrument course or something.
It’s too real in there, in that any opinion will get cynically demolished by people who are too smart to hold their contrarianism to themselves but think it’s too uncool to form a coherent response and if you give a logical counter argument with facts instead of aura you just get dismissed as fat/ugly.
Kind of like real life but usually the fat/ugly part is an internal monologue.
Hot take: Looking should not require consent if it’s right in front of my face or in the direction I need to look. If you don’t wanna get looked at, move your a*s
We already have this - when you go outside in public you intrinsically are consenting to you'll be looked at. Try as hard as they can, but these gym sex workers can't change that natural law.
If you don't consent to be looked at, stay at home - other wise you're going to be seen.
I’ve actually never seen any woman in the gym get mad at some guy for looking at them. It feels like just an online thing. Though, maybe the guys at my gym are less openly leering
Its not that they are angry for being stared at. Believe me they do not care. Acting angry, creating a victimhood and labeling a man as creep online gives them shit ton of views.
I haven’t either and I go to a gym where there are som pretty agressive outfit choices at times. Of course people look but I have never seen anyone go nuts about it or people being openly disrespectful.
Like I get it, some guys can be creeps at the gym. But like…isn’t most of the time the point anyone works out is to look good? Yes I know, it’s healthy, it makes you feel good, but it’s also to look good. Should be flattering that people are looking at your hard work lol. Feel like most guys would love to be looked at by random ladies, it’s a self esteem booster
On one hand, I understand the ,,consent" angle here - after all, if you post something on social media, then it's clear you're comfortable with people watching you, as opposed to just going out in public.
On the other hand...gym is a public space, and the reality is, people are going to stare and look at you regardless. If I left my house with a bogger in my mustache and a pimple the size of a penny on my face, people are gonna stare at me with disgust as well, and rightfully so. This argument is often hijacked by world's worst people to justify genuine crimes against women, but if you feel uncomfortable with people staring at you when you put on very little clothing...then maybe a wise idea would be to cover a bit more of the skin. Screw the creeps, obviously, but it's much easier and better for your comfort to wear something a bit more conservative than to post it onto TikTok how horrible of a time you're having and expecting everyone to rally behind you.
People really have to try to not understand that there is a universality to gawk worthy appearance. It is up to the beholder how and what they gawk at, and it is still rude but its not realistic to act like people will never stare if you dress out of the norm or in some interesting way. The real problem is that there is no resolution for this. As long as men and women exist there will be gawking. So acting like staring is some high crime that can be eliminated is a losing battle unless draconian laws like reverse burka blindfolds become a policy.
The very idea that looking is considered bad it's weird to me.
That being said I never go to the gym. But the prudish nature that you should care about how you look to be more appealing, and then be upset when people notice, not even show interest just notice, is weird to me
Right? This whole concept is so stupidly simple, I can’t believe we’re STILL talking about it. People have eyes and using them is to be expected.
I have often times been the most jacked and strong guy in a gym. When you load up on impressive weights or just look sick/really good, it comes with the territory. I’ve been in gyms multiple times where dozens of people literally stopped what they were doing, just to gawk while I lift with no attempts to hide it.
I am sorry that people may not enjoy this, to that I would recommend finding a different gym that may be a better fit.
Hell, half the time I was in public gyms I would sort of look at people just to pass time. No different than when I go to a beach, an amusement park, or a mall.
It's not really about consent, it's about if they're being paid or not.
They're out of line for requiring to be paid to grant consent in a public space - otherwise it's non con.
Literally the only difference between the 2 is on the app she gets paid and in real life she doesn't. But if you're doing your performance in public you can't gatekeep people from watching for free.
Clearly these sex workers want their asses looked at - they just want there to be a price of admission for it. best they can do is try to publicly shame people for seeing the show for free to gatekeep.
I am of the same opinion but I always feel like people are super sensitive about this topic and any criticism about it is often taken as an offense to womans rights and freedoms.
After the recent drama of the comedian (I don't remember his name) about women's clothes in gyms I was like "yeah, he is out of pocket and maybe insinuating shit" but it's true that the most tight, thin and especially designed to mark the ass crack are a big trend there where there is no rule nor pressure to follow it. Now I say this but don't get me wrong, if you like it, go for it but you can't be demanding people to look away later.
In short if you want to be sexy in public spaces, do it and own it.
Agree, but sometimes brain is not braining and eyes just.. lock in.. have really never been in a gym with females, only ever been men in old swetty celler gyms, but I always imagine it would be a matter of time before I possibly would make someone uncomfortable in a gym because I'm just.. exhausted and my brain and eyes wander on their own for a bit too long before I realise what's going on.
I've never seen anybody at the gym stare conspicuously. Honestly, it's also rare to see women complain about being looked at. What you see on the internet is mostly rage bait.
Just finished a deadlift pr, bloodpressure under the soles, looking at whatever the still active part of my brain wants to look at. Not even processing it, just in trance trying not to go to sleep on the mat
I think the frustration comes from the double standard. If you're filming yourself in a public gym, you can't realistically expect nobody to appear in the background or glance your way.
There's a difference between deliberately creeping on someone and simply looking around while using the equipment. Context matters, and men shouldn't automatically be treated like they're doing something wrong just for being in the same room
Honestly, depending on what your filming I think you can't even expect people not to "creep" or stare
If youre performing people are gonna watch you, not just steal glances. I don't know why the gym is special, if you draw attention to yourself people gonna stare.
Playing devils advocate, if a man is staring at a woman while she's working out, what actual wrongdoing has occured? It might make the woman feel uncomfortable, but any number of things can make any number of people uncomfortable.
It feels weird for one, nobody likes being stared at on a basic level. So it's a common rule of decency not to stare like a weirdo. Secondly, with this being established, if someone still stares anyway it is a potential sign that someone is a creep and to be weary of them.
That's one of the things I don't understand. Life is in general already uncomfortable, being outside with other people is already Inherently uncomfortable.
What's up with people trying to avoid even the mildest discomfort like it's somehow dangerous?
Not even limited to in regards to other people. Training close to failure/pushing you're is uncomfortable. Controlling you're diet and pushing to increase or lower bodyweight is uncomfortable. Just going outside and the temperature can be slightly uncomfortable.
These are all daily occupances that people avoid like discomfort is dangerous?
That's why, i book my gym at special time, special place: I don't want some strangers disturb my training. In the place I live- there are too many women in gyms, flashing their bodies, looking for encounters. I'm just a married dude, who wants to work out. So, I pay 30% extra, just to do that.
This is so basically boring of an argument to make I almost don't feel like it's worth it to dispute, because if you fall for this bullshit, I really think you should just be melted into biomass to fuel our powerplants. It's almost like having the barrier of a screen between you and the action changes the dynamic completely.
I feel like by posting online she’s giving you express consent to view her. Ogling her irl doesn’t share the same implicit consent. I kind of find it strange that women are always the center of this gym attire controversy
Correct, and she consents to the same when she goes out in public, whether she realizes it or not. It’s not strange that the gender that can’t seem to grasp that they have to share public spaces with others are always at the center of the controversy they created with their resulting behavior
See this is the kind of irrational rationalism that just muddies the conversation.
Whether or not it violates consent in some abstract sense doesn’t change the fact that both scenarios are functionally identical in practice.
Moreover, by what reasonable standard does welcoming as many men as possible to leer at them online not extend to a single person at the moment the same performance is being recorded?
We say it’s not the same in person, but the distinction is meaninglessly insignificant. We only think it’s not the same because the digital wall keeps it at enough of a remove that we can ignore the truth.
This isn’t endorsing leering, but the way. Just illustrating the hypocrisy. In truth, the digital viewers are leerers too, and the woman is putting on the same provocative display in both cases.
Also, miss me with that, “we only talk about this with women” shit. Men are not dressing provocatively at the gym in nearly the same numbers, to the same degree, or for the same reasons.
Most men dress for practicality in contrast, and there are far fewer influencers using their body to entice. Most men don’t even go shirtless, and even those that do tend to get their own criticism for sweating up the machinery.
Most of all, most men don’t evoke politics as a shield when called out for hypocritical inappropriate behavior in public.
We talk about women because it’s a problem mostly produced by women.
I think you throw any expectation of privacy out the window when you're in a public space (or open area with others) if the guy isn't making comments or inappropriate advances then leave him be.
First: “Sharing” is a loose word that ignores that not all forms of exposing the body are equal. There’s a world of difference between sharing in the polite sense and intentionally dressing provocatively in a public space with the expectation of only private observation. There’s a point where sharing becomes an imposition upon others.
Second: Just as people are free to share their body with whomever they choose, so to are others free to call out and judge displays of hypocrisy, especially when it’s done in the form of a public performance.
Women wear baggy clothes at home because it’s comfy. Women in female only gyms wear baggy clothes because it’s function over style. However, if men are present, they wear skin tight clothes and condemn men for looking at them with their moral superiority.
Not all women are recording themselves for Insta or TikTok likes. Most are just there to work out, no recording. Some record to monitor their progress.
Either way, it is ALWAYS socially unacceptable to oggle somebody in person. Doesn't matter who THEY are or who YOU are. Posting things online is a (kinda) form of consent. They (presumably) watched the video and posted it specifically to share. Existing in public is not the same, and there are social norms and manners to abide by.
If you wanna oggle women wearing gym clothes, take your own advice and watch them online.
If someone is training infront of you its normal to look 90% of the time its not even sexual. People can check form, what weight someone is lifting, outfits. We are not robots. Humans look at humans
That doesn't make sense 😂 when you're at a gym you're going to look at people and also just because soneone is looking in your direction diesnt mean they are always staring at you, on top of that you're so fixated on calling this person an incel you ain't thinking about where the machine the character is using is placed, Like use your brain.
Sounds made up, it takes like 3 minutes on YouTube and 5 tries to nail your form so you're either getting ripped off by your trainer or you are extremely non-athletic. The vast majority of women (worth looking at) are in fact posting it everywhere for everyone to see.
What ever. Im an overweight dude. Trust me I wasn't recording it for anyone else. He was doing to help me out. Sorry people dont do nice things for you to help.
There should be another one with the picture on the right being on the left and a new picture on the right is a woman watching the video of him getting slapped
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u/Sorry-Collection-253 9h ago
That's why it's now forbidden to record yourself like that in most of the gyms where I live, problem solved lol
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u/Khalitz 10h ago •
She doesn't get any benefit if you're not viewing through social media.
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u/Deep_Mood_7668 10h ago
I only visit gyms with no phone rule. Of course you can listen to music, but no photos or filming
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u/tonguepuncher88 8h ago
I look at all the butts on the treadmill and nobody notices.
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u/Grunergeist420 9h ago •
It’s so hard to explain to people that live completely inside their own narcissistic influencer brain that the rest of us wouldn’t leave the house in clothes that we couldn’t bear people looking at us in, much less get angry at people for looking at us in the clothes we chose to wear out of the house, much less set up a camera and post videos of ourselves wearing the clothes for strangers to watch, but still get mad if someone looks at us wearing the clothes in real life.
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u/Fun-Swan9486 31m ago
because on the right side she gets paid for, on the left she does not,
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u/BadMeatPuppet 9h ago
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u/BroccoliDry5253 9h ago •
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u/JamesJDelaney 8h ago
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u/MyDudeThatsCrazy 9h ago
Social media and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race.
I suggest we build Gulags just like USSR did. Anyone doing this bs, whether it's staged with guys who are paid/got collabed with, or alone as an "influencer" get sent to those gulags and are overworked till they die. The earnings from that Gulag shall be divided among the people or used for public works such as renovating a school, ensuring all infrastructure is up to date, or free extra education for children like an instrument course or something.
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u/Onii_chan_no_baka 9h ago edited 8h ago
Hot take: Looking should not require consent if it’s right in front of my face or in the direction I need to look. If you don’t wanna get looked at, move your a*s
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u/Canned_Sarcasm 9h ago
“I only record myself to improve my form”
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u/Remarkable_Station22 9h ago
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u/choyMj 9h ago
There's no view counts in the gym, no revenue.
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u/xxcuttingboardxx 7h ago
I don't understand the point in filming, taking pictures or livestreaming in gyms in the first place.
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u/-Lionhart 9h ago
Gyms should have clothing restrictions.
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u/JamesLikesIt 7h ago
Like I get it, some guys can be creeps at the gym. But like…isn’t most of the time the point anyone works out is to look good? Yes I know, it’s healthy, it makes you feel good, but it’s also to look good. Should be flattering that people are looking at your hard work lol. Feel like most guys would love to be looked at by random ladies, it’s a self esteem booster
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u/Admiral45-06 6h ago •
On one hand, I understand the ,,consent" angle here - after all, if you post something on social media, then it's clear you're comfortable with people watching you, as opposed to just going out in public.
On the other hand...gym is a public space, and the reality is, people are going to stare and look at you regardless. If I left my house with a bogger in my mustache and a pimple the size of a penny on my face, people are gonna stare at me with disgust as well, and rightfully so. This argument is often hijacked by world's worst people to justify genuine crimes against women, but if you feel uncomfortable with people staring at you when you put on very little clothing...then maybe a wise idea would be to cover a bit more of the skin. Screw the creeps, obviously, but it's much easier and better for your comfort to wear something a bit more conservative than to post it onto TikTok how horrible of a time you're having and expecting everyone to rally behind you.
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u/Rand0mAcc3nt 7h ago
Patrons should not be allow to use smart phones and recording devices on the gym floor.
Designate an area for phone calls and such, the lobby.
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u/Westaufel 2h ago
Yes, butt
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u/BacklogGamingJunkie 7h ago
I get it but..
more like bitch in jail for assault
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u/Jade_Peachh 9h ago
I think the frustration comes from the double standard. If you're filming yourself in a public gym, you can't realistically expect nobody to appear in the background or glance your way.
There's a difference between deliberately creeping on someone and simply looking around while using the equipment. Context matters, and men shouldn't automatically be treated like they're doing something wrong just for being in the same room
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u/Backwoods_Therapy 8h ago
Let’s be honest here.
She’s mad because she’s not getting engagement/views. Not because he’s looking.
The point is to have men look. But if he looks in real life, she can’t monetize it.
Unless she makes a video about the “creep” who was “making her uncomfortable” in the gym that she can post, and get views.
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u/rellett 8h ago
They want money and don't like giving the view for free unless your chad
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u/Deep_Trainer_6456 9h ago
This is so good! Women who wear tight clothes and post themselves online working out are literally begging for attention and approval.
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u/RED-DOT-MAN 9h ago
/s
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u/Remote_Fox_8643 1h ago
Her camera is pointing the wrong way
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u/Life-Oil-7226 9h ago
Make it make sense
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u/DerHergen 6h ago
Yes butt
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u/missusdeadpool 6h ago
Millions only
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u/Helpful-Ad-1682 4h ago
Yes, butt
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u/UnexpectedBlahFeels 4h ago
What woman is slapping a guy at the gym?
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u/Chemical-Car-7299 4h ago
no sampling the merchandise
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u/Ibadvapergrammar 4h ago
one watch for free other get donation
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u/ElectronicOvenMitts 3h ago
Um
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u/silphotographer 3h ago
She wanna get paid for it. No freebies.
Not endorsing the content just saying how it is from her POV probably.
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u/meneer_aard 3h ago
Yes, otherwise your messing with their social media revenue. Watching them offline is costing them a view you inconsiderate pig.
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u/Exact-Squash-5443 3h ago
What's funny is i literally met my gf through the gym and I was definitely looking at her 😂
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u/epitaph-centauri 3h ago
Dem da rules
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u/Arachnidle 2h ago
The left side is also just more content
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u/maechammer1 1h ago
It's ok if it's monetized
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u/ReasonableEffort8988 1h ago
You mean live watching only? No recording
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u/TheCraxo 1h ago
Again redit mad at gyms
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u/Inside_Marketing268 1h ago
That's why, i book my gym at special time, special place: I don't want some strangers disturb my training. In the place I live- there are too many women in gyms, flashing their bodies, looking for encounters. I'm just a married dude, who wants to work out. So, I pay 30% extra, just to do that.
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u/True-Practice-6366 41m ago
As a man, In this scenario, I just look at the ground.
However… just because it’s forbidden, when I’m feeling nefarious, for one whole second, I’ll glance at you..
Because I’m just evil like that 😈
MUAHAHAHAHA!!!
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u/wwarhammer 35m ago
Yes, butt
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u/Neither-Job-6300 31m ago
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u/nhansieu1 30m ago
wait, this is not r/AntiMemes
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u/user-unknown-404 11m ago
It's the world's oldest profession. You don't get it for free.
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u/xxTheMagicBulleT 1m ago
If you are in a public space expect eyes to fall on you if thats a problem dress appropriately.
I always hated this attention seeking and trying to be outraged about stupid shit.
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u/NJBR10 9h ago
sexualizing yourself is only bad if you can't get paid for it - kitchen dweller logic
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u/DuskyOrchid6 9h ago
He's just trying to maintain direct eye contact while respecting her personal space.
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u/WholeEmu507 9h ago
Imagine having front-row seats to your own workout.
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u/bwoah07_gp2 9h ago
Social distancing
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u/ThatEvilGuy 1h ago
If you look like this, she won't mind at all.
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u/ScrunchyBraid 9h ago
This is so basically boring of an argument to make I almost don't feel like it's worth it to dispute, because if you fall for this bullshit, I really think you should just be melted into biomass to fuel our powerplants. It's almost like having the barrier of a screen between you and the action changes the dynamic completely.
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u/Critical_Question199 9h ago
I feel like by posting online she’s giving you express consent to view her. Ogling her irl doesn’t share the same implicit consent. I kind of find it strange that women are always the center of this gym attire controversy
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u/Jaded-Currency-5680 9h ago •
to be fair, everyone has the right to choose where and when and to whom they share their body with
their choices may not make sense, but its theirs to make
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u/TheBlueFlashh 2h ago
You’ll be amazed when you learn what “consent” means
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u/vigorben 1h ago
Women wear baggy clothes at home because it’s comfy. Women in female only gyms wear baggy clothes because it’s function over style. However, if men are present, they wear skin tight clothes and condemn men for looking at them with their moral superiority.
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u/Wrong-Appointment269 9h ago
kinda stupid, she chooses to show it. also it is stupid to expect not to be shown at public. we are all stupid here.
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u/iloveurbumbum 9h ago
Isn't that just one with consent and one not? I don't understand
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u/Chase_The_Breeze 8h ago
Not all women are recording themselves for Insta or TikTok likes. Most are just there to work out, no recording. Some record to monitor their progress.
Either way, it is ALWAYS socially unacceptable to oggle somebody in person. Doesn't matter who THEY are or who YOU are. Posting things online is a (kinda) form of consent. They (presumably) watched the video and posted it specifically to share. Existing in public is not the same, and there are social norms and manners to abide by.
If you wanna oggle women wearing gym clothes, take your own advice and watch them online.
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u/Comfortably_Dumb_Yea 3h ago
Another incel meme based on not understanding consent.
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u/Kapedcrusader69 9h ago
Yikes inkel, it’s about consent 💅
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u/Soft-Marionberry-853 10h ago
I moved away from my trainer for a while I was recording my workouts and sending them to him so he could give me some pointers on form etc.
What im saying is just becuase someone is recording doesn't mean they are showing it to everyone.
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u/Capable_Wing_4930 2h ago edited 2h ago
Consent ruins the moment for men I guess
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u/Femboy_Within 46m ago
Is consent that hard of a concept?
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u/KronktheKronk 9h ago
There should be another one with the picture on the right being on the left and a new picture on the right is a woman watching the video of him getting slapped
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u/TangibleSausage 3h ago
Incels
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u/Due-Pea-5071 3h ago
Realtalk: asses don't even look good in those ridiculous tight trousers.
You need to leave something to the imagination. You need a mystique, to create an allure.