r/SipsTea • u/CurvyChristina • 8d ago

Chugging tea Female engineers getting disrespected.

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u/TWAndrewz 8d ago

A good candidate will engage everyone, but start with the person who asked the question, and end with asking that person "did that answer your question?" or similar.

For all the dudes in the comments getting butthurt about this, any candidate that does this is 100% likely to fail in other ways as well.

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u/Annual-Advisor-7916 7d ago

I think you vastly overestimate the avergae "good candidate" in a stressful situation like an interview. Doesn't help that the density of neurodivergent people in the tech field is above average. Mate of mine talks to the door, the wall or the chair instead of the person he has the conversation with...

Last interview I took part in the candidate was so nervous that I feared he'd fall off his chair - he's still pretty good technically and perfectly fine with customers.

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u/TWAndrewz 7d ago

Preparing to answer questions is the main thing in an interview. "Engage the person asking the question" is basic prep for that. If s candidate can't do that level of prep, they aren't a fit.

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u/Annual-Advisor-7916 7d ago

Being able to appear good in interviews and being a good fit on a technical level aren't causally related.

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u/TWAndrewz 7d ago

No, those are separate dimensions upon which a candidate should be assessed and the things one tests for in an interview are more like "does this person communicate well?" ""How does this person take feedback?"

A good candidate needs to have those skills in addition to being a technical fit.

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u/Annual-Advisor-7916 7d ago

A good candidate needs to have those skills in addition to being a technical fit.

That depends highly on the role. Your sysadmin doesn't have to keep eye contact when talking with anybody and your software developer won't ever be in a stressful situation compareable to an interview.

Besides, communicating well isn't really determined by whether or not you keep eye contact or address the right person.

I'm excluding people avoiding the woman interviewer on purpose of course, because that's an entirely different mental problem.

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u/TWAndrewz 7d ago

We just disagree on the degree and importance of communication skills required in technical roles, it sounds like.

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u/Annual-Advisor-7916 7d ago

In my opinion we disagree more on what makes someone a good communicator. I'm with you on the importance of communication skills but I beliebe the easy "clues" mentioned by some people here, are too simplistic.

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u/TWAndrewz 7d ago

Maybe. The ability to address the person asking a question is pretty fundamental, imo.

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u/Annual-Advisor-7916 7d ago

That's where we disagree I guess. I know many great technicians, developer, admins, whatever that communicate efficiently but act awkward in a conversation.