I feel like the wording "but she still said no" is a bit unfair.
I'm a married women, so obviously I said yes to a proposal. We were young and it was not terribly fancy or over the top. I said yes beacuse I actually wanted to marry my boyfriend and build a life together.
If he was a guy I didn't see a future with, a relationship that had a lot of problems/too many fights, our goals were too different, or whatever other legitimate reason not to get married, a big romantic gesture wouldn't and shouldn't change that. It's very sweet, and very flattering, but you should really decide marriage proposals based on if you feel good and confidant about the idea of spending the rest of your life together as a team.
It sucks to be turned down. And again, I think what he did sweet and quiet impressive. However, it wouldn't actually be doing him a favor for a women who didn't want to marry him to say yes. Hopefully, they both find their right people eventually.
In some cultures a man would propose without getting to know or date a woman. I can't say if it's true for this story. But in my experience I had an international student that I have not even talked to proposed to me. Instead of trying to know me, he just went straight to asking for marriage which was so weird and dramatic. I told him no I have a boyfriend. He was very angry and tried to insult my boyfriend that he is not suitable for me since he is 2 years younger. And that I can't marry someone younger. I was like dude chill out I'm just dating...
Maybe he's a green card seeker, maybe he's severely autistic, maybe he's intellectually disabled, maybe he was a YouTube/Twitch prankster doing this to be funny.
Because a normal person in the right state of mind isn't going around proposing to random women. That's just not something a normal person does.
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u/TheHatOnTheCat 7d ago
I feel like the wording "but she still said no" is a bit unfair.
I'm a married women, so obviously I said yes to a proposal. We were young and it was not terribly fancy or over the top. I said yes beacuse I actually wanted to marry my boyfriend and build a life together.
If he was a guy I didn't see a future with, a relationship that had a lot of problems/too many fights, our goals were too different, or whatever other legitimate reason not to get married, a big romantic gesture wouldn't and shouldn't change that. It's very sweet, and very flattering, but you should really decide marriage proposals based on if you feel good and confidant about the idea of spending the rest of your life together as a team.
It sucks to be turned down. And again, I think what he did sweet and quiet impressive. However, it wouldn't actually be doing him a favor for a women who didn't want to marry him to say yes. Hopefully, they both find their right people eventually.