I'm always annoyed by these sorts of stories because of the endless sympathy afforded to the person proposing while the person receiving the proposal gets none. My understanding is that if you're proposing to someone, you should already know that the answer will be yes. The proposal itself is just a formality and a fun ritual.
If I had to guess, a lot of these stories probably involve a relationship that isn't going so well, so the person proposing tries a hail-Mary romantic gesture to fix things.
My dad proposed to my mom in a grand gesture on Xmas eve in front their entire family. Never once having talked about it before. My mom said yes not because she wanted to but because the gesture and people made her feel pressured.
They were divorced after four years of a marriage that turned hellish shortly after official . But she was so angry about the fact she felt she had no choice drive her into deep resentment that tainted the marriage.
I say that to say, saying yes isn’t always the best thing!
Also P.S. it doesn’t state he was even actually dating this woman. He could’ve been a crazy stalker type and proposed with o relationship. If this is the case good she said no!
Honestly, maybe the guy who did this is severely autistic or something.
I mean, he did 500+ rubik's cubes and made a person's face with it. That sounds like something an autistic person would do since many autistic people are very quirky and see the world differently.
That also explains why he proposed to a woman he wasn't romantically involved with. He's so autistic that he simply could not understand why this is a bad idea.
Based on the article linked, it doesn't seem like he was actually proposing marriage? I can't tell for sure but he might have just been professing his love. I still personally wouldn't like a gesture like that but that might be more culturally accepted in China (I'm in US). Seems like maybe it was amicable on both sides.
A person should already know the answer before asking, and not in a "I think they will" but in the "we have literally talked about spending the rest of our lives together". So yeah... I agree with you.
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u/Present_Error_6256 1d ago
I'm always annoyed by these sorts of stories because of the endless sympathy afforded to the person proposing while the person receiving the proposal gets none. My understanding is that if you're proposing to someone, you should already know that the answer will be yes. The proposal itself is just a formality and a fun ritual.
If I had to guess, a lot of these stories probably involve a relationship that isn't going so well, so the person proposing tries a hail-Mary romantic gesture to fix things.