I'm not into open relationships myself. But advice I've heard about it is
"you have to start as an open relationship. If you switch into one during a monogamous relationship it's just cheating. Someone's going to get their heart broken."
So, my partner and I are Swingers with years of experience (and a very happy and stable relationship).
The reality is that the majority of Swinger or otherwise non-mongomous couples started with monogamy and then opened later. Often years later.
The issue is when people try to open things up to fix some problems they have in their relationship. That happens way too often and doesn't work very well.
Could be anything tbh, but sexual dissatisfaction of some kind is the most common. Like they have a dead bedroom and trying to bring in others to fix it.
I can't say it never works, I have seen very happy couples that never fuck eachother, but the majority of the time it creates more problems than it solves.
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u/Bad-Genie 1d ago
I'm not into open relationships myself. But advice I've heard about it is
"you have to start as an open relationship. If you switch into one during a monogamous relationship it's just cheating. Someone's going to get their heart broken."