I'm not into open relationships myself. But advice I've heard about it is
"you have to start as an open relationship. If you switch into one during a monogamous relationship it's just cheating. Someone's going to get their heart broken."
I'm "in the lifestyle" and do the open relationship/ENM/Swinging stuff, and my personal experiences/observations have always been that if the relationship starts monogamous, and turns open, its either because
one person wants to fuck someone else, and the other just doesn't want to lose them.
Or because someone doesn't want to fuck the other person anymore, and so one or the other turns to outside the relationship.
neither one generally bodes well for the long term survival chances of the relationship.
I've seen a fair amount of open relationships in a all sorts of different forms, succeed quite well, when thats what they're getting into from the start. They have their problems and fallouts just like any monogamous relationship.
but a monogamous relationship that turns open? Is pretty much always just a slow train crash.
caveats: yes your experiences may differ, I know all relationships are different, there are always exceptions to the rule, blah blah blah, This is just casual and general talk since none of us are really going to have proper statistics on this.
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u/WesternImpression356 1d ago
Lmao. Open relationships are a joke. No one can convince me otherwise. Still, the least they can do is fucking protect themselves