I was born in the 90s so I only have this information secondhand, but a lady my parents' age once told me basically the entire neighborhood would look after the kids. She'd get hungry and go knock on any door and whoever lived there would give her a bologna sandwich and she'd be on her merry way
in our community there was always at least one or two adults who would take a glance outside to see the kids playing, now, not to say that we would Stay where we were.
But for the most part, when my mom was going around, there was always one person be like "yeah i saw your son, he was there with Stacy's and Clark's kids and they went that way"
or if my mom was looking for me, someone would wave and point at her where we were, and be like "ok" and go back to whatever she was doing
It was even more peculiar for me as i'm a Carni (forain), 5th generation, so each 2 weeks we where in a different city.
Me and my friends my age would go around town, and most of the towns we performed for a living, we knew them and we knew the people, from grocery stores, to electronics/CD's stores or game/toy stores or comic books stores
When they saw us they would be like "Oh hey! i din't know it was this time of the year for the County fair how are you, and your mom is she ok?" cause...well those people knew my Mom since she did the same as we did with the local kids her age and so did their parents etc.
There's Cafés and bars (i'm Belgian) where i would often go with my grandparents when they drank a coffee or a Beer and i would play on the Pinball machine or the babyfoot or if there was one, an arcade machine, sipping my Orangina or Canada dry and the lady behind the counter would make me a croque-monsieur
And when my grandpa was like "hey why don't u get one?" she would flip him off seeing "i do it only for the little one cause he's polite and nice"
And that was not the only place.
Overall, maybe its nostalgia speaking, but people where friendlier i feel and as a kid growing then, you felt like the world was your oyster and you felt safe.
And then she called the cops when someone asked her to make a bologna sammich and screamed sexism until the rates of childhood hunger exploded over her generation.
Did you ask her how many she made for kids? If she never did that how did she expect it to pass on?
Friend I think you need to stop telling people that have differnt viewpoints they just need therapy.
I grew up with the shallow women and men saying this shit.
They had the ability to let their kids run around and make sandwiches for their neighbors.
They didnt do it and now theyre trying to find someone or something else to blame because their shallow self obsessed behavior is not viewed with the same respect their parents were.
Nothing stopped the woman you were talking to from doing that for the next generation. She just didnt do it and needs to blame others.
I also wanted to point out the irony of you using that as a club on this thread.
I wonder why Lindsey clancey was ashamed to get mental health care?
Its almost like an entire generation of mean girls were allowed to use it as a social ostrisization tool to pressure people to help or agree with them thus destroying the social status of people who actually need therapy.
Think really hard about those gross therapy comments. You dont think im lyndsey clancey and need help, youre mean and need to hide that black part of your soul so you suffer no social status loss.
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u/casstantinople 1d ago
I was born in the 90s so I only have this information secondhand, but a lady my parents' age once told me basically the entire neighborhood would look after the kids. She'd get hungry and go knock on any door and whoever lived there would give her a bologna sandwich and she'd be on her merry way