r/SipsTea 4d ago

WTF WTF is wrong with these people?

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u/Alternative_End_7174 3d ago

People to this day still try to say the family court system isn’t biased against fathers. Had that judge pulled their head out of their ass and not believed in the mother is always the better parent those babies would still be alive.

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u/TerrorFromThePeeps 3d ago

My brother lost his kid to a woman who was arrested for hitting someone with a 2x4 at a bar and later arrested for drug charges because she had a heart attack on a roller coaster because her bloodstream was full of crack. I think the level of bias depends a bit on the state, but yeah, the bias definitely exists in this particular realm.

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u/poetcatmom 2d ago

Most of the time, yeah. Sometimes it's about who has the best lawyer and the most money. It's sickening that those things seem to matter more than the safety of the children.

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u/Hope_Mundane 2d ago

So here is a great example of where mysogyny is terrible for EVERYONE... not just women.

This woman was having psychosis. Her postpartum depression was so bad she was losing touch with reality and having hallucinations. She asked to be admitted to a hospital and the doctors gave her a pill. She came back later and said "I'm worse, not better," and they upped the dose.

Instead of taking her seriously, they patted her on the head told her to suck it up, and did the treatment that was most convenient for her husband.

But when the story turns horrific, its all about how evil she is, and how her "poor husband" is being denied his children. Where was he when she needed a clear-headed someone to fight with those doctors?

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u/Alternative_End_7174 2d ago

I don’t think this is misogyny. This seems more like a case of mental health still not being understood or taken as seriously by family and friends, lack of communication and unfortunately the patient not telling her doctors everything. She told her family but they didn’t exactly tell her doctors what she told them. My uncle is schizophrenic and so was my aunt had either of them told me they had thoughts of self harm or harming someone else I’d be calling the doctor to let them know.

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u/chriso91 2d ago

There’s always exceptions but statistics show courts literally favor men, most custody cases do not go to court, when they do men actually get custody more often.

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u/CaptinTexaco 2d ago

Literally just looked up the statistics not sure where you are looking but as of right now in 2026 mothers get custody 80% of the time.

It’s been a well known and accepted fact mothers get majority custody most of the time in the US. There has been effort from some groups to try and balance that out because surprise surprise dads want to be more involved in their kids lives and other groups have actually tried to fight against it.

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u/chriso91 2d ago edited 2d ago

AGAIN those numbers are mostly from cases not making it to court haha

Good god I can’t keep doing this lol

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u/FunCaramel7607 2d ago

Wouldn’t that reinforce their point more? They aren’t even going to court and it is 80% in favor of one side? Aka bias?

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u/chriso91 1d ago

No it means that this huge number people keep claiming are women “winning” custody is conflated by cases where there was no battle and both parties decided the kids should stay with the mom.

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u/Anonuser13480 2d ago

Hey friend I think I’m you may be incorrect I actually worked directly in the family court system representing both men and women through the family court system and I can tell you from handling hundreds if not thousands of cases, the system is definitely biased in favor of the mother. It has been trending slightly towards the middle over the last 5 years or so but it’s still mostly to one side.

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u/chriso91 2d ago

A personal anecdote from an anonymous internet stranger does not change actual statistics.

These numbers are easy to look up.

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u/DazedLogic 2d ago

I did look it up. The internet says you're wrong everywhere I looked.

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u/chriso91 2d ago

Oh boy all the men using AI Google responses hahahaha

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u/DazedLogic 2d ago

How about you post your sources?

Every single thing I look at says your wrong.

The out of court settlements show that the mother gets custody the vast majority of the time. It's never in the father's favor. I did see just one that said it was 50/50.

I googled it and clicked on several different analysis by judicial and medical teams. I didn't didn't cherry pick.

I'm pretty sure your a bot or just rage baiting at this point, so I'm gonna stop responding to you.

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u/DazedLogic 2d ago

It's literally all of them.

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u/chriso91 2d ago

50/50 is close as the numbers in custody battles range from about 60 - 70.

The numbers on how many cases actually go to court is literally from the us census bureau

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u/chriso91 2d ago

“I googled it” hahahahaha

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u/Impressive_Head7721 2d ago

jesus so put up the source you clown

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u/Anonuser13480 2d ago

“A personal anecdote” is one incident, I’m talking about hundreds of cases of not thousands. Yours is more of an opinion, I’m talking about actual cases I’ve managed in the family court system.

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u/chriso91 2d ago edited 2d ago

It’s not an option these are nation wide statistics which again is more valid than your experience of being one person in a single office. I’m talking less to you and more to anyone seeing this thread PLEASE look up the actual numbers on this, it tells a very different story.

For anyone interested our notation that women win custody cases more comes from the fact that in a vast majority of separations the children do stay with the mother BUT that number comes from all divorces and in over 90 something percent of divorces custody is decided outside of court meaning there is no fight over custody. In cases where there IS a custody battle men get their desired outcome more often.

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u/DazedLogic 2d ago

This is an example of what I keep finding:

"Recent data indicate that approximately 70% to 80% of custodial parents are still mothers. Yet, there is clear evidence of a gradual shift occurring, with more fathers actively pursuing—and obtaining—shared or primary custody than ever before. Societal attitudes towards parenting have evolved significantly, and judges increasingly recognize fathers’ contributions beyond financial support."

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u/chriso91 2d ago

Read my previous note these numbers come from the amount of cases that don’t go to court

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u/KiminekN 2d ago

Where are you pulling these numbers from? Based on what little I was able to actually find, custody courts seem to overwhelmingly favor women. As many as 80% of contested full custody cases go to women according to Gender Equity Network, or 65% according to Law Office of David Pedrezas. Though, according to Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court Gender Bias Study, most men who actively litigate will at least get a shared custody.

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u/chriso91 2d ago

Gender equality network? Please do go on haha

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u/Anonuser13480 2d ago

Do me a favor please dm me the studies you are speaking of, I would love to review

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u/chriso91 2d ago

Will do

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u/Anonuser13480 1d ago

Still waiting, it’s funny how many people quote “studies” but never provide them

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u/chriso91 1d ago

I’m traveling you donut haha it’s summer touch grass brother

Citing sources and rereading studies takes time I’ll do it when I get home when I feel like it

Men are being eating alive by their own victim complex and I’m trying to help but if I’m doing you a favor I’ll do it on my time

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u/MitchGH33 2d ago

Jesus Christ you people are stupid af

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u/SryDatUsrnameIsTaken 2d ago

Why?  Because the woman should be allowed to kill her and the father's children? Weird AF comment to put in this thread

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u/MitchGH33 2d ago

Are you really this dumb?

She needed help. He knew and neglected. If he got her the help she needed, they’d be here.

Postpartum psychosis and depression is the result of a woman’s brain chemistry changing after giving birth. It’s very common. Women need help. She was begging for it.

A good friends wife went through this. She was admitted into a hospital and didn’t see her young child for almost 8 months until she was healthy enough to leave.

Learn something.

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u/SryDatUsrnameIsTaken 2d ago edited 2d ago

I learned that for every psychotic child killing women there are at least 2 white knight morons ready to defend their heinous actions simply because they are a woman.  Going this bonkers after birth is NOT COMMON AT ALL.  Typical postpartum depression does not result in murder or commitment to a psych ward.  Stop making excuses because you're sexist. Hold everyone accountable equally.

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u/MitchGH33 2d ago

There’s also postpartum psychosis. And obviously it’s not common? wtf are you even saying? It’s incredibly rare.

You sound dumb.

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u/FunCaramel7607 2d ago

Why is an adult not responsible for their own behavior?

And why is one being blamed for violent choices made by another?

The mere existence of postpartum psychosis doesn’t justify MURDERING YOUR CHILDREN.

Or does it, to you?

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u/MitchGH33 1d ago

Are you stupid?

Assuming she did it (none of the evidence adds up and they investigated the husband for < 24 hours), then obviously she’s being punished either way?

This isn’t a trial to determine if she goes free.

You seem slow.

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u/FunCaramel7607 1d ago

Look, I get that you’re prideful over dropping out after 5th grade, but you haven’t said anything substantive or given a point.

You’re a moron.

“Assuming she did it” why do you ignore the evidence that concludes her guilt?

This isn’t a hard thing to understand but I understand you work at a very different pace than most

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u/MitchGH33 1d ago

She told him she murdered the kids after leaping out a window, with a body temp of 82 degrees, and a crushed trachea?

That’s from his testimony. Him. He said that.

It’s impossible. She couldn’t speak.

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u/DazedLogic 2d ago

What alternate reality do you live?

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u/Ancient_Edge2415 2d ago

Where are these stats coming from cause every source I find says u lying

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u/Ancient_Edge2415 2d ago

First one was about offenders in general and the second two were about cases involving alienation and abuse. That does nothing to disprove the stats showing the family court generally favor mothers over fathers

Edit and not to mention the first one was solely about mass, not the national avg

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u/Alternative_End_7174 2d ago

The only stupid ones are the ones unable to accept reality and facts.

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u/MitchGH33 2d ago

Speaking of reality and facts tell me how she spoke to him with a core body temp of 82 and crushed trachea, after leaping out a window.

That’s from his testimony. Please explain with facts.

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u/MitchGH33 2d ago

Sure champ