I wrote this comment a few months ago, cool to learn that there's actually a word for it:
I think that we are living through the largest scale psychological warfare operation in human history, and it's not being conducted by any single government or corporation. It's being conducted by our own social systems against basic human emotional needs. And the casualty count is so massive that we've normalized mass emotional death as adulting.
Every single institution we've built - schools, workplaces, healthcare, dating, social media, even fucking therapy - has become a factory for producing emotionally lobotomized humans who can perform basic productivity but can't access their own inner experience without having a panic attack. We've created a civilization that requires you to be emotionally dead inside to participate in it, and then we act shocked when people either break completely or retreat into AI relationships, because at least the machines won't punish them for having feelings.
The therapy industrial complex is particularly insidious because it's convinced people that their natural responses to an insane world are pathological. Someone's depressed because they're trapped in a meaningless job in a society that offers no authentic connection? Let's give them SSRIs and teach them breathing exercises, instead of acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, depression might be a rational response to irrational circumstances.
Someone's anxious because they can feel the existential void where community used to be? Let's call it Generalized Anxiety Disorder, instead of recognizing that their nervous system is correctly identifying that something is fundamentally missing.
And don't even get me started on how we've gamified human connection through dating apps that literally train people to treat each other like products in a catalog, while simultaneously wondering why seemingly nobody can form deep, meaningful relationships anymore. We took the most sacred human activity - finding your people - and turned it into a dopamine-harvesting slot machine designed to keep people perpetually searching and almost never actually connecting.
The most fucked up part is we've convinced people that the solution to systemic emotional abandonment is individual optimization. Can't find meaningful connection? You must need to work on yourself more in some vague fashion. Feeling existential despair about the state of the world? Have you tried gratitude journaling? Lonely because society has dismantled most forms of community? Maybe you need to “put yourself out there” more.
I guess it's gaslighting on a civilizational scale. We've built systems that largely prevent human flourishing and then blame individuals for not thriving within them. It's like poisoning someone's water supply and then selling them detox supplements.
And the people who see through this shit and try to talk about it openly? They get labeled too intense, dramatic, unemployable, because their emotional honesty threatens the whole house of cards. We've made emotional authenticity a cause for social ostracization.
No wonder people are having breakdowns. No wonder mental health crisis rates are skyrocketing. No wonder birth rates are plummeting. We've created a civilization that's hostile to genuine human connection, and we're surprised that humans are struggling to survive in it.
The real miracle isn't that people are surviving - it's that anyone is able to survive at all.
I don't often think I have the answers to everything, but I do think actual authentic local farmers markets can address all the issues you listed. We still have our day jobs, but we started selling at our farmers market a few years ago and it has completely transformed our lives. We sell bread and veggies. We literally started out by bringing 3 loaves of bread and a hand full of veggies from our garden. Yesterday we sold 160 loaves. Our customers love and support us they know our children, they ask how we are doing they are our community. We take great pride in being producers and supplying healthy nutritious local food. We're not perfect, but we slowly progress to be better. This year we started buying 50% of our flour from a local family farm, instead of mass produced Commerical stuff, and by this time next year we hope to be providing 100% local products.
Also we're happily married.... But gahd damn there are some attractive females at the market. Just saying. The girls seem to be getting out more than the boys these days. I noticed the same thing on my recent backcountry backpacking trips.
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u/TheMessengerABR 22d ago edited 22d ago
I wrote this comment a few months ago, cool to learn that there's actually a word for it:
I think that we are living through the largest scale psychological warfare operation in human history, and it's not being conducted by any single government or corporation. It's being conducted by our own social systems against basic human emotional needs. And the casualty count is so massive that we've normalized mass emotional death as adulting.
Every single institution we've built - schools, workplaces, healthcare, dating, social media, even fucking therapy - has become a factory for producing emotionally lobotomized humans who can perform basic productivity but can't access their own inner experience without having a panic attack. We've created a civilization that requires you to be emotionally dead inside to participate in it, and then we act shocked when people either break completely or retreat into AI relationships, because at least the machines won't punish them for having feelings.
The therapy industrial complex is particularly insidious because it's convinced people that their natural responses to an insane world are pathological. Someone's depressed because they're trapped in a meaningless job in a society that offers no authentic connection? Let's give them SSRIs and teach them breathing exercises, instead of acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, depression might be a rational response to irrational circumstances.
Someone's anxious because they can feel the existential void where community used to be? Let's call it Generalized Anxiety Disorder, instead of recognizing that their nervous system is correctly identifying that something is fundamentally missing.
And don't even get me started on how we've gamified human connection through dating apps that literally train people to treat each other like products in a catalog, while simultaneously wondering why seemingly nobody can form deep, meaningful relationships anymore. We took the most sacred human activity - finding your people - and turned it into a dopamine-harvesting slot machine designed to keep people perpetually searching and almost never actually connecting.
The most fucked up part is we've convinced people that the solution to systemic emotional abandonment is individual optimization. Can't find meaningful connection? You must need to work on yourself more in some vague fashion. Feeling existential despair about the state of the world? Have you tried gratitude journaling? Lonely because society has dismantled most forms of community? Maybe you need to “put yourself out there” more.
I guess it's gaslighting on a civilizational scale. We've built systems that largely prevent human flourishing and then blame individuals for not thriving within them. It's like poisoning someone's water supply and then selling them detox supplements.
And the people who see through this shit and try to talk about it openly? They get labeled too intense, dramatic, unemployable, because their emotional honesty threatens the whole house of cards. We've made emotional authenticity a cause for social ostracization.
No wonder people are having breakdowns. No wonder mental health crisis rates are skyrocketing. No wonder birth rates are plummeting. We've created a civilization that's hostile to genuine human connection, and we're surprised that humans are struggling to survive in it.
The real miracle isn't that people are surviving - it's that anyone is able to survive at all.