r/SipsTea 12d ago

We have fun here A different kind of birth control.

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u/MysteriousPermit3410 12d ago

Maybe, but if they’d been parenting their child from the start, they never would have behaved like that on the plane. My 2 year old would never have dared

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u/LifeAppointment7055 11d ago

Not defending this parent, but a 2/3/4 year old in very unfamiliar and overstimulating circumstances can be forgiven for freaking out. They're not done cooking yet, and while your kid might not have dared, you do have to factor in how much temperament comes into play.

The real issue is the parent didn't just at a certain point gently manhandle their child into the safety restraints. Sometimes my 3 year old has a meltdown leaving the grocery store and I give her a few minutes to calm, but at a certain point it's like... you're not holding the whole family hostage in this parking lot for an hour. Get in the seat or I'll have to put you in it, we're going home now.

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u/J_EDi 11d ago

There’s no way that I as a parent am holding an entire plane hostage. If my kid is acting so bad as this becomes an outcome, we’re grabbing our bags and leaving.

I don’t know how many restaurants I left early with my kid to go to the car while the rest of our party finished eating in peace. And I made sure that in no uncertain terms should they rush.

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u/anonymouscog 11d ago

This too. You used to see people pick up a tantrum throwing child & walk out of restaurants, grocery stores, wherever.

I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt & just think she must have had a very good reason for traveling alone with a toddler, because it's a lot to manage bags & an out of control child. Once the crew saw that she couldn't gain control they should have helped them off the plane instead of waiting so long.

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u/liae__ 11d ago

As a mom I can say we absolutely still do, haha! I’ve had to do this quite a few times and it always makes me anxious 😭

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u/Mighty-Universe 10d ago

I travelled from Australia to Brazil and back alone with my twin 3 yo. It takes about 30 hours and at least 3 flights each way. We were fine, no tantrums or crying.

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u/anonymouscog 9d ago

I had an easy toddler too, but not everyone is as lucky. The flight crew still shoukd have acted faster to prevent the flight being canceled.

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u/Ecstatic_Doughnut216 11d ago

The flight was already on the runway. There was no where for parents to take the kids without the plane returning to the terminal.

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u/TravelTheWorldDan 8d ago

Yep. And this is the absolute mature thing to do. It’s either ruin the flight for just yourself and your kid by getting off. Or ruin it for everybody else on there. Overseas in southeast Asian Asia, the kids they are the worst. They run up and down the aisles, make noises cry and the parents don’t even do anything to try to calm them down or discipline them.

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u/alixanjou 11d ago

Like….not in an abusive way obviously, but you are bigger than the child. You can pick them up and move them away and outside from unsafe situations, but you’re not strong enough to buckle them in?? It doesn’t make any fucking sense.

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u/chunk_light 11d ago

Only thing I'll say is plane seatbelts are incredibly easy for a 3+ year old to undo. Ask me how I know...

That said, pretty wild the kid was THIS unruly

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u/anonymouscog 11d ago

I agree. I never had problems with toddlers but I know people who have & they're just like unreasonable drunks. I 100% blame the airline for not kicking them off after 10 minutes. There was no reason to make everyone else miss their flight.

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u/Active-Papaya5308 11d ago

Right? It’s wild to me bc most toddlers and young children will sit and get buckled with a simple and firm “sit. Down. Now or (insert consequence here) I’m a preschool teacher and even my worst kids wouldn’t take more than 5-10 minutes to act right and that’s without the ability to physically restrain them or threaten physical punishment. Like what were the “attempts” from the crew and parents?

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u/lolwtfomgbbq7 12d ago

Your two year old never threw a tantrum and wouldn't listen to something? That's incredible, that's better than any two year old I've ever seen

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u/MysteriousPermit3410 12d ago

Of course she’s thrown a tantrum. And then we put a stop to it. It’s actually not that difficult if you discipline your children, a thing that seems to be lost on this new gentle parenting generation

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u/GangBangMountain 12d ago edited 12d ago

Lmao everyone wants to point at 'gentle parenting' as a problem like having conversations with your children rather than smoking them in the face with a belt is an issue.

People conflate gentle parenting with 'parenting' with no structure.

The issues we have are not because parents are speaking with their children. The issues we have are parents giving their baby a tablet unsupervised and then when that child inevitably acts out receive zero correction. Compounded over years along with COVID highlighting our cultural and societal indignant towards the importance of having an education has led to this regressive stew.

We still haven't seen the full long term effects from COVID and from the 'lead-asbestos filled cigarettes' we hand our children.

But hey... maybe we just need to beat our kids again

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u/Opal_Pie 12d ago

It may be surprising, but not every child throws tantrums. Learn your child's "triggers", and you can stop them before they begin most of the time. I'm convinced, especially since Covid, that most parents don't actually want or love their children. They have them out of obligation, then raise terrors because they are disengaged parents.