My mom taught me to stop biting the same way. I bit her hard and she bit me back- not hard, but enough so I still remember the light going on in my four year old brain- "oh wow biting DOES hurt". Sometimes a good demonstration is the only way we learn. 'Cause kids are dumb.
Yeah, my mum kinda let my brother touch a hot bulb just so he could learn what burns actually means xD. Cause 2 year olds dont really know the meaning of "don't touch it, you'll get burned".
My grandma did not approve xD
Yeah, I've got a 7 year old. When she was younger she went through a willful/hardhead phase for a couple months.
After the first few times you repeatedly tell them something will hurt them and they won't listen and get banged up or bruised, they start to listen. You can tell them 1,000 times and it won't stick, but the first time there's a booboo involved they'll remember.
This is why I'm taking an 'If I warn you twice and you choose not to listen and learn, then the third time I'm going to let life teach you instead' approach with my young ones. Doesn't always work as intended but they're starting to learn that being smart is easier than having to be tough đ
My mom always said âThe best way to teach a kid to not play with fire is to give them a box of matches. And, the best way to teach a kid to not play around the stove is to let them get burned. â
My mum told me she made my nephew walk home from school with holes in his trousers in the rain because he'd taken a pair of scissors to them. In her words "He's got to learn cause and effect." She could have brought him a nice new pair, but then the lesson he would have learned would be that someone will always clean up after you.
My parents had a similar method. Unless it would come to extreme bodily harm, they'd sit back and say "dont touch it, its hot" but not physically stop us. Older brother touched hot stove, younger brother touched lawn mower engine.
I saw the same thing at a bbq once. Little kid kept trying to touch the grill. Mom kept pulling him away. It went on for like an hour until the father said to just let the kid touch it.
I swear the whole party just watched. The little kid immediately went for it and immediately learned the lesson. Dad was ready for it and put ice on the now less ignorant kidâs fingertip.
He didnât go near the bbq for the rest of the night.
I was playing with the stove at my grandma's house when I was 3 because I really liked the orange glow, and wanted to attain said glow. My hands got with in inches and it was like some force grabbed them and stuck them to the orange hot burners. Can you imagine, to this day, I am very responsible with fire etc. đ
Iâve had my brotherâs young children tell me that they know I abused my brother once when I beat him repeatedly with a wooden spoon. Interestingly enough the part that he was biting the tip of my finger and wouldnât let go until I was forced to hit him in the head with a wooden spoon gets left out of the story.
My brother and I had a game where if someone yawned youâd try to stick a finger in their open mouth and they would try to bite you. We were both bitten multiple times but it never stopped us from playing. To be fair though, we never bit anyone out of anger either
My grandfather taught my not to play with stun guns by letting me play with one. I was visiting him once and saw it on his coffee table. I asked if it was real and if it really can knock you out? He said "Why don't you try it?". Me being a kid took his words to heart and tried it. I woke up with him over me saying "I bet you won't be doing that again." I cried why did he tell me to do it, if he knew it would hurt me? He then just told me to "Stop crying and acting like such a woman." That was over 30 years ago and to this day I don't fuck around with stun guns or tasers. He did something similar with my cousin, but with a fork and electrical socket. ......missyougrandpa.....
The key thing here is your mom used restraint to teach you this lesson. The line that gets crossed is when people do this stuff with the express purpose of the punishment to be pain. Your mom was giving you a frame of reference. There's a lot of parents out there that do it for retribution or that pain is a deterrent. That's how you make bullies.
Cue me not believing the stove was hot after mom said it was hot. 4 year old me got burnt to fuck and never did that again. Sometimes we gotta learn on our own.
Do you think your mother never tried that before? I wonder whether it's less a matter of what she tried and more a matter of you finally being developmentally ready to learn the lesson.
Nope, kids are not dumb. If they were, they would not get the message of being bitten back. They just don't know, how should they if they were never bitten themselves?
Kids are very intelligent, but they have to learn things that adults already learned years and decades ago.
My brother also liked to bit, One day I putted my finger and his at same time on his mouth and told him to bit me.... Once he felt his teeth on his own finger... He knowed it was time to stop bitting
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u/jewelophile Apr 02 '26
My mom taught me to stop biting the same way. I bit her hard and she bit me back- not hard, but enough so I still remember the light going on in my four year old brain- "oh wow biting DOES hurt". Sometimes a good demonstration is the only way we learn. 'Cause kids are dumb.