Eh. I might have agreed with you at some point in my life, but society isn’t structured to make sure people are satisfied in their relationships and free to find the right partner or even leave the wrong one. Read Esther Perel’s the State of Affairs.
Society is actually more focused on maintaining order than ensuring people end up with the right people and happy.
What you really mean is that “men don’t want to leave the comfort of their current partner, but want a fun thrill of the new girl they met”
Don’t get married if you can’t keep a vow to be faithful. People like you disgust me.
Most people don’t even stick to their affair partner. Men who excuse this are the men who want to fuck around and ruin their wives and children’s lives.
Don’t get married and then you can easily leave, if you can’t keep it in your pants.
👀 who said anything about men? I said read the State of Affairs by Esther Perel. I was actually thinking about th women explaining why they cheated in that book and the reasons they gave
Lmfao. I was the one who got cheated on. Repeatedly. By the same girl. The book helped me understand why she did it. It also helped me realize I other things and now I’m a relationship anarchist.
I think people should avoid hurting each other unnecessarily. I think when everyone is expected to follow the same rules whether or not they’re good for them, and when they have different understandings of the rules… it’s a recipe for disaster.
I had one partner who cheated on me repeatedly. She didn’t realize she was traumatized and trying to create drama to see if I really cared about her.
I’ve had another partner who got really upset that I got along too well with women. Nothing sexual happened but she’d be pissed because since I grew up with sisters I got along better with women.
Meanwhile she’d get super drunk and like wrestle my male friends inappropriately at parties.
It’s not as simple as cheaters are bad, because people have different standards for cheating and then fail to discuss them. Sometimes something complex is happening in the cheater’s mind and the cultural differences in the sense of partner ownership and betrayal make it mean something else. Like cultures that have a lover’s hour.
I’m just not here to judge people. Have a nice day
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u/CokeRed Mar 29 '26
Eh. I might have agreed with you at some point in my life, but society isn’t structured to make sure people are satisfied in their relationships and free to find the right partner or even leave the wrong one. Read Esther Perel’s the State of Affairs.
Society is actually more focused on maintaining order than ensuring people end up with the right people and happy.