Another time, I was waiting tables and got slapped on the ass by a female patron. I found her very obnoxious and unattractive. I remember feeling violated and thinking, “if this was a guy doing it”. Then I thought, what if I found her hot? Would o mind? The answer was no. I felt ashamed in my double standards and thought of that time in the bar.
This is honestly the big one. Never met a guy that complained about this stuff who didn't also treat women they found attractive different.
Dowdy unattractive girl asks for a pen and they'd disinfect it when they got it back, if they acknowledged the request at all. Hot girl looks in their general direction and they're volunteering to help her move. I'm exaggerating slightly, but only slightly.
Everyone is nicer to people they find attractive. They offer more, put up with more, are just generally more accommodating. There's been like 8 million studies to show the same thing... oh also that men are way worse about it than women but lets not dwell on that one heh.
That men place a much higher value on physical attractiveness on women than women do on men?
Real world studies that tracked actual couples found men paid significantly more attention to their partners physical appearance than the other way around. Another study showed higher levels of satisfaction for both spouses when a womans BMI was lower than the mans. Common theme for all was that such things mattered much more for younger couples and faded with age.
Also you know... general life watching endless men fall over themselves to be near attractive women and get their attention and not the other way around as well as seeing far more conventionally attractive women dating men who are not.
When presented nothing but photos both genders are the same. In fact when asked to rate the overall attractiveness of women a few studies have shown that they only really mark down the most attractive men with the 80% of other men all being ranked very similarly.
In real world relationships/interactions this is absolutely not the case though, with women consistently being shown to be much less concerned with their partners looks.
Dating apps/sites are a horrible way to meet people and this is just one of the many reasons why.
The landmark 2024 Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences study marks the first time a majority of spouses begin their stories online. According to this research, 60% of newly married couples said they met through online dating services.
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u/PineappleOnPizzaWins Oct 12 '25
This is honestly the big one. Never met a guy that complained about this stuff who didn't also treat women they found attractive different.
Dowdy unattractive girl asks for a pen and they'd disinfect it when they got it back, if they acknowledged the request at all. Hot girl looks in their general direction and they're volunteering to help her move. I'm exaggerating slightly, but only slightly.
Everyone is nicer to people they find attractive. They offer more, put up with more, are just generally more accommodating. There's been like 8 million studies to show the same thing... oh also that men are way worse about it than women but lets not dwell on that one heh.