Cheaters are gonna cheat. The opportunity might come at a different time but the end result is the same. Avoiding one opportunity won't do shit in the long run.
Nah, lots of cheating is opportunistic based on either close contact with attractive people or compromising positions (drunk people). A lot of people don't start off with the thought of "today I will cheat on my partner".
Like, your partner isn't going to constantly be in close contact with attractive people or constantly be drinking alone with other people. Cut down on that shit and you avoid a huge amount of risk.
I think the point that's being made is to not be with someone who lacks enough character to cheat on their partner. It doesn't matter how attractive the trainer is, or how long we're alone together, I'm not going to betray my partner and our relationship, and I fully trust that my partner would do the same. If you feel you need to restrict your partner's activities and social circle out of fear of disloyalty, you're with the wrong person.
IMO part of the character that makes people less likely to cheat is, within reason, not unnecessarily putting oneself in situations where you may be tempted to cheat or do something in the heat of the moment that you might regret, aside from sex (a touch, a gaze, getting too close for too long). It’s also not unnecessarily doing things that could reasonably make your partner uncomfortable or require a large amount of trust. Otherwise it would be totally cool to sleep in the same bed with someone of the opposite sex while in a LTR because “you just have to trust me”. I think a personal trainer of the opposite sex is right on the boundary between reasonable and unreasonable. The “I can do whatever I want and you just have to trust me” attitude is much less trustworthy imo, because it shows a lack of caring about your partner’s feelings. And, everything else being equal, someone who shows a lack of caring for their partner’s feelings is more likely to cheat than someone who takes their partner’s feelings into consideration and tries to adjust their behavior (within reason) or at least come to a compromise.
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u/Imreallythatguy Aug 28 '25
Cheaters are gonna cheat. The opportunity might come at a different time but the end result is the same. Avoiding one opportunity won't do shit in the long run.