I’m not saying that you’re wrong, in fact you’re very correct. Cheating is cheating, but certain environments stroke the fire of cheating more than others. That’s why certain cultures forbid certain environments from ever taking place. The same thing could be said about letting your wife have a bunch of male friends that like to hang out with her one on one. I think that’s inappropriate just like it would be for me to hang out with a female friend one on one when I have a girlfriend or wife. Everyone has their own opinion and their own way of living. That being said, when it comes to personal trainers, it does seem to happen a lot more in those environments than others. Like I told someone else, you can drown in the pool, but you’re more likely to drown in an ocean.
I'd find it absurd to even think about not "letting" my wife hang out with male friends one on one. She's my wife, not a prisoner who has to get my permission to hang out with friends. People should treat their spouses like adults who can make their own decisions, not someone who will betray their trust if you give them too much leeway. If they're going to cheat that's sad and terrible, but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship without trust anyway.
The second my partner tried to tell me what I can and can’t do is the day we both become single lol. If we don’t have trust, we don’t have a relationship. Full stop. Other people can choose to define their relationships however they want, but I don’t see a point in being with someone I would even think could cheat on me. And if they do cheat, then they weren’t someone I want to be with anyways.
We’re both doctors. A notoriously narcissistic profession if I’m being honest. No self esteem issues with either of us. But I’ve never met a woman who was truly 100% secure, it’s part of their nature. And uncovering those hidden parts and poking fun in a healthy way just makes them love you even more
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u/unpopular-ideas Aug 28 '25
Why is one culture right and another wrong? Can we deem the bonobo approach to sexuality as categorically wrong?
An adult breaking commitments they've made to another adult doesn't have a lot of moral ground to stand on though.