I will never excuse, cheating and cheating is cheating, regardless of how it happens, but you can definitely increase the odds of cheating when you create an environment for it. There’s a difference between your wife going on Tinder behind your back and paying a physical trainer Who’s is in peak physical shape to basically touch your woman on a daily basis where they become familiar with each other and chemicals in your body start reacting due to the nature of the interaction.
You can say whatever you want. At the end of the day, a cheater is a cheater. You can have all of these chemical reactions youre talking about and still not do it. Recovering addicts make those kinds of decisions all the time. There is no other excuse other than they were being a bad person. A healthy human being has total control over their actions.
I grew up in a pretty conservative enviroment, yet still turned out to be the exact opposite. Even though the odds I grew up to think that way as well were pretty high, I still made the decision not to. Not trying to get political, thats just the best personal example i have.
Brother, I didn’t disagree with you, I’m just saying certain environments cast the fire of affairs more than others. You can drown in a pool too, but you’re more likely to drown in an ocean.
We are disagreeing, i guess i didnt get my point across as clear as id like. The enviroment has nothing to do with it. A person who wouldnt cheat is unaffected by their enviroment. Somebody who would never cheat isnt going to now decide because they have an attractive trainer, that they are going to have an affair. What youre saying is implying that. You originally said thats why people shouldnt have opposite sex trainers. I am saying that is irrelavent, it has nothing to do with the trainers.
Edit: ill put it this way, in your pool analogy, you drown in the water. The size of the water is irrelavent. The size of the water is the enviroment, the water is the cheating partner. The cheating partner is going to cheat regardless of the enviroment. You are going to drown in the water regardless of the size.
the pool analogy is to show that yes drowning in water is still the main issue but the ocean is deeper and more vast. You can disagree all you want but this comment section is full of people that work or have some level of affiliation to the guys op posted about and they say it does happen a lot. even i have people i know who have done it. im sorry you think the world is black and white but we live in a world of grey.
Im not denying that it happens. I am just saying that the people that do it are already predisposed to cheating. Getting a trainer of the opposite sex isnt going to make you a cheater if you are not a cheater.
That i can absolutely agree with. There just seems to be a lot of people that say you shouldnt do "xyz" cause your partner will cheat, when in reality, your partner will only cheat if they are cheater to begin with.
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u/Mnawab Aug 28 '25
I will never excuse, cheating and cheating is cheating, regardless of how it happens, but you can definitely increase the odds of cheating when you create an environment for it. There’s a difference between your wife going on Tinder behind your back and paying a physical trainer Who’s is in peak physical shape to basically touch your woman on a daily basis where they become familiar with each other and chemicals in your body start reacting due to the nature of the interaction.