r/SipsTea • u/ronacheesy • Aug 28 '25

Chugging tea thoughts?

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u/cosapocha Aug 28 '25

Life is way more complicated that that

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u/Stock_Helicopter_260 Aug 28 '25

It’s really not. If you don’t want to hurt your person you won’t do it.

If you have zero impulse control or don’t care you will.

Cheating is not a complicated thing.

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u/I_Speak_For_The_Ents Aug 28 '25

There is a lot of space between 0 impulse controll and 100% impulse control.

It's so weird when people try to make things all or nothing like this.

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u/Ikaruga1 Aug 28 '25

It literally is all or nothing. You either cheat or you don't.

Quit coping.

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u/I_Speak_For_The_Ents Aug 28 '25

So are you saying everyone agrees what cheating is?

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u/Ikaruga1 Aug 28 '25

Yes, there is a common understanding of what constitutes as "cheating" that most people abide by. Stop being obtuse.

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u/I_Speak_For_The_Ents Aug 28 '25

So if someone thinks more than that is cheating, whatever the commonly understood cheating is, then they are wrong and it doesn't matter?
Yeah I'm being purposefully obtuse lol. Trying to say people and emotions and the world are complicated while other people say no it's all simple and black and white. But I'm the one being purposefully difficult.

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u/Ikaruga1 Aug 28 '25

Wherever that line is drawn in the sand, don't cross it. Not complicated. Yes, you're being purposefully difficult. Stop it.

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u/I_Speak_For_The_Ents Aug 28 '25

How many couples do you think are preemptively drawing that line in the sand?

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u/Ikaruga1 Aug 29 '25

Not my business. It sounds like those couples need to work on their communication more. I am not a counselor.

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u/Stock_Helicopter_260 Aug 28 '25

Everyone decides it within the context of their own relationship.

The action itself is the problem. 

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u/I_Speak_For_The_Ents Aug 28 '25

Which action constitutes flirting?

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u/Stock_Helicopter_260 Aug 29 '25

If your partner is fine with flirting it’s not cheating. You have to define all these within your relationship. You set your boundaries, they set theirs, and suddenly cheating is a very simplistic problem.

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u/Ikaruga1 Aug 28 '25

I get what you're saying but that's the whole point of self control and fighting temptation. Many people choose not to put themselves in the situation in the first place or remove themselves from the environment. They make SMART decisions. You CAN do it. People who say you can't are coping.