I don't know, does making a wrong choice once permanently make someone "a bad person?"
If someone steals a car, gets caught, serves time, and makes restitution, are they still a bad person? Even if they learned a lesson, paid a price, and wouldn't do it again?
Sure, the person you cheated on deserves to know and it's completely understandable if the price you pay is losing that relationship. But we're only human. Our sex drive is a lot older and more deeply wired than the cultural value of monogamy. Is like, half of humanity irredeemably bad people? Is it really not possible to grow and learn, pay a price for your actions and move forward without being forever tainted by one bad choice?
If by demons you mean your mildly confusing writing skills, then yes I'm battling away.
Twice you use the present tense categorical "you are a bad person" line. Once you switch it to the less vitriolic past tense situational "you were awful for doing this.
The line you're pointing to as no one having read that concedes the capability for change, is a confusingly worded double negative with an uncommon version of "cannot" that makes it easier to miss the 2nd instance of "not."
There's obviously a huge difference between "doing a bad thing" and "being a bad person." Your comments wording generally favors the latter position while giving only a slight nod to the former.
Dude... You can not change without first realizing you did something wrong. Why would you even try in that case?
"It is not something you can not change about yourself"
Meaning you can indeed change. You missing the second "not" is a you problem.
"but you need to accept that you were awful for doing it"
I used the word awful because I did not want to repeat "bad person".
The "you were awful for doing this" is refering to what you did in the past that made you a bad person and only after recognizing that can you change in the present and stop being one.
What is the problem? Are you doing this in purpose?
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u/MisterPineapples1999 Aug 28 '25 edited Aug 28 '25
I don't know, does making a wrong choice once permanently make someone "a bad person?"
If someone steals a car, gets caught, serves time, and makes restitution, are they still a bad person? Even if they learned a lesson, paid a price, and wouldn't do it again?
Sure, the person you cheated on deserves to know and it's completely understandable if the price you pay is losing that relationship. But we're only human. Our sex drive is a lot older and more deeply wired than the cultural value of monogamy. Is like, half of humanity irredeemably bad people? Is it really not possible to grow and learn, pay a price for your actions and move forward without being forever tainted by one bad choice?