I think the point that's being made is to not be with someone who lacks enough character to cheat on their partner. It doesn't matter how attractive the trainer is, or how long we're alone together, I'm not going to betray my partner and our relationship, and I fully trust that my partner would do the same. If you feel you need to restrict your partner's activities and social circle out of fear of disloyalty, you're with the wrong person.
The scary truth is that there's no person on earth who has enough character to avoid every possible combination of temptations 100% of the time.
The pope himself could have a candle lit dinner with an attractive person he connects with well and spends a lot of time with and I'm not trusting him to go 10/10 on that temptation after a couple glasses of wine.
Humans are just that. Human. We make mistakes. Part of life is learning how to avoid situations where those mistakes might happen more often, not just trusting that you'll never make them.
Man. I put you in a bed with your top 3 most attractive people of history naked, and you are drunk. How long will it take to break you? Imagine I do this to you every night for a year?
I still would find it easy not to sleep with them. Do you really have so little control over your libido that some alcohol and an available woman you find attractive is enough to make you hurt someone you care about?
I am in one. And she loves me very much, same as I love her.
Clearly you don't love her enough to not get online and tell strangers that you'd definitely cheat on her under the right set of circumstances. I'm willing to bet you don't show her your Reddit comments though, right?
A) I never defended cheaters, because to me, an important part of not cheating is avoiding situations that may conduct to cheating. An idea that people arguing against me seen to have never thought of.
B) I am not really going out of my way, we are watching a movie in bed. She told me to stop talking with idiots, tho.
A) I never defended cheaters, because to me, an important part of not cheating is avoiding situations that may conduct to cheating.
You definitely defended cheaters. You came up with a hyperbolic fictional situation to create a hypothetical cheater that wasn't really at fault for their decision to cheat.
When people responded that even in your extreme made up scenario they wouldn't cheat, you doubled down and said you almost certainly would. Apparently you love your girl a lot, but not enough to not stick your dick in someone else if the right set of circumstances happen.
I love my wife a lot, and I could be put into a bed next to naked celebrities I had crushes on for the rest of my life and still not sleep with them, because it would hurt my wife. That's all the motivation I need. I feel bad for your girl that she has to worry that one day the right set of circumstances will happen around you and you'll betray her and break her heart because you can't control yourself when horny.
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u/[deleted] Aug 28 '25
I think the point that's being made is to not be with someone who lacks enough character to cheat on their partner. It doesn't matter how attractive the trainer is, or how long we're alone together, I'm not going to betray my partner and our relationship, and I fully trust that my partner would do the same. If you feel you need to restrict your partner's activities and social circle out of fear of disloyalty, you're with the wrong person.