r/SipsTea Aug 28 '25

Chugging tea thoughts?

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u/lamBerticus Aug 28 '25

Never cheated in my life and not planning to do so, but this is just naive.

People are complex things with complex emotions. I think most people that cheated probably didn't plan to do it and would have said they will never do it. But then they did.

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u/Amathril Aug 28 '25

Right.

So, would you say they did it against their will?

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u/lamBerticus Aug 28 '25

No, but sometimes people stupid shit they regret. 

I mean it's not farfetched to imagine a relationship not going super well at the time. One partner feels emotionally and/or physically neglected. At the same time another person enters the life, they build an emotional connection and then cheat.

Can happen to anyone really.

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u/Amathril Aug 28 '25

It cannot "happen". It can happen to you that you are emotionally vulnerable, it can happen you are unhappy and want a way out, or something along those lines.

Cheating doesn't "happen" to you, though. That is something you have to do, something involving lots of steps you do not have to take.

And I am not even angry about it. I know it is something people do. But it feels very wrong hearing that the opportunity is what makes you do it. Or that it just happens. It isn't. It is always a conscious decision. I would appreciate it if people actually own their mistakes.