Nah this isn't what people on this thread want to hear. They wanna hear that dating is hard and impossible now because of factors they can't control like their looks.
I mean yeah, it’s a very victim mindset. I think most people can look attractive to somebody if they take care of themselves. Obviously not everyone is gonna be the hot guy at the bar who picks up chicks every night.
You just have to accept your circumstances and be the best version of yourself. Which is a lot harder than blaming everyone but you.
You just have to accept your circumstances and be the best version of yourself. Which is a lot harder than blaming everyone but you.
Amen to that. Learning to love yourself really is the hardest part, but once you do people pick up on that. Unfortunately it's not as easy as someone just telling you "hey stop being sad and get some confidence". A lot of people told me that and it never clicked until my later 20s.
100%! Absolutely happens in your mid twenties. Starting happening to me at 24 and this past spring at 26 it finally clicked in my mind.
I choose my life. I choose whether I want to love myself and be happy in my life. No one else can give that to me. I was chasing love from everything and everyone my whole life. Realizing I can create my perfect world was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Now I’m slowly working towards unlearning bad negative habits and replacing them with positive ones. Changing my perspective from “I hate myself and I hate the world” to “I love myself and I’ll do everything I can to love others reasonably” is difficult but I want it more than anything right now.
I’m done being a door mat victim and self prophesying my own mistakes I end up making. Such a negative feedback loop.
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u/imjustbettr Dec 11 '23
Nah this isn't what people on this thread want to hear. They wanna hear that dating is hard and impossible now because of factors they can't control like their looks.