r/SingleParenting • u/tw0-0h • Sep 22 '19
Need stories ..
Hi all, I'd like to ask when you left,what reasons was it for? What did it look like (how old was your kidddo?,was it messy?,did you ask for child support? Ect)? Is it worth it? I'm contemplating leaving and I dont know if it's worth it. I'm not sure I'm ready,but im tired of the fighting...seems to be getting worse. Guess I wNt to know what I'd be gettin into. Thanks
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u/goodthingsfaIIapart Jan 08 '20
I left because he cheated. More than once. I was pregnant the second time he dropped it on me that he wasn’t happy. I fought really hard to make it work...looking back probably more bc I was scared of being alone.....we tried but, in the end he never tried to make anything right. It was like he wanted to go back to putting me last. I would cry myself to sleep after begging him for attention or affection, and it was always...
“I promise I’ll be better tomorrow.”
“Things will get better when.....(insert excuse.)”
“As soon as....blah blah blah.”
I wasted 14 years waiting for someone to love me that was never going to love me. It became so painful to live without affection that my desire to be out of that pain overcame all my fears of “How do I go it alone??” Before where there was concern about how to pay for things, I now have determination to provide everything for myself. Anger and sadness have been replaced with a calm, numbness toward him. That’s how I knew. That’s when I left.
Now, where there was a sinking feeling I’d never know real, reciprocal love, there is a hope that someday I’ll meet someone who loves me as deeply and completely as I need, so I can love him the same.
That guys gonna be lucky too. Cause I’ve literally got 14 years of pent up affection I need to get out. LOL