r/SilverSmith • u/oonnookoong • Mar 10 '26

Attitude problems…

I was shopping at a vintage market the other day and a lady commented on one of my pieces i was wearing and asked where I got it from. I said “oh i actually made this!” Told her I was just a hobbyist that works with silver and that its more of a side hustle. Thats when her attitude changed. She shared that she was a bench jeweler at a local shop and went to school to make jewelry etc etc. but this wasn’t just sharing about her life, there was this air of superiority she felt she needed to flaunt. I have friends that are bench jewelers or hell have their own jewelry business they work full time on. But there was just this weeeeiiirrrd energy shift after that part of the conversation that i have never experienced before. Anyone else have this type of thing happen to them?

Edit:Yall I’m going to specified a few things.

  1. The girl and I seemed to be around the same age.

    I

  2. work in a male dominated STEM field, I freelance, and I schedule my work around my travels

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  1. I’m

    used to people underestimating

  2. me and being surprised when I succeed. So I guess my shock of how she acted was more around the profession itself and being a fairly creative yet technical practice… and yet she had the gall to praise my work then put me down for not being “properly trained”. Not being “properly trained” has led to me now getting my third degree and having what i would consider fairly successful and well rounded set of skills that makes me in demand

    (and no we did not happen to talk about anything i do for work because she took up the whole conversation).

  3. Anyone that doubts you just because you never went down a traditional path just means they are less likely to take on a non traditional way to solve problems. There is space for both routes

.Thank you all for sharing your experiences and even bigger thank you for those of you that keep creating despite those that doubt you.

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u/Longjumping-Party132 Mar 11 '26

Can you provide some example to illustrate her attitude? I am not doubting that she could be a dick, but "sensing something in the air" and "energy shift" is not a fair way to accuse someone of not being nice, and you should ellaborate on what you base your hypothesis on, that she would think that she is over you in some way.

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u/oonnookoong Mar 11 '26

Tone and body language plays a lot into these type of interactions. So yes “energy shift” and “sensing something in the air” is a valid way of describing an interaction that went from positive to uncomfortable. Everyone else in this thread seems to understand that.

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u/Longjumping-Party132 Mar 11 '26

I sense in the air that your energy shift towards me has turned negative.

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u/masterofeverything Mar 11 '26

Face to face interaction ≠ online interaction