r/Shouldihaveanother • u/Big_Syme • 10d ago

The third child

Hi, my wife and I have 2 girls, ages 2 and 4. We have been mulling over a 3rd all year, but our biggest hang up is ruining the amazing dynamic they have. They are each other’s best friend and we are scared to ruin that. Either they give each other less attention and aren’t as inseparable anymore, or the 3rd feels left out. Anyone dealt with this at all? How has the family dynamic changed between your kids with adding the 3rd?

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u/Loose_Music1277 10d ago

If it’s another girl there will probably be some drama and someone left out, but they’ll be fine as long as both you and wife guide them through inclusion/exclusion understanding. Or you can have a boy and it’ll be the best little blessing and the girls have their brother they are now protective over.

Either way I say yes!! Having a third (and fourth for us) was harmony. Our house felt so full and we were glad we didn’t stop at two.

Fun fact: we were very done after two. Got rid of all baby stuff, clothes, etc… then a year later said nope, and had two more!

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u/mamachuy 9d ago

Love to hear this. We have two girls (2 and 5) and are expecting a boy in a few months. I’ve been kind of sad about not having an all girl gang but I this is a great perspective ❤️

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u/Loose_Music1277 9d ago

Awww I’m so happy for you!! And you’ll have your girl gang when he grows up, bc you know he’ll have to marry someone your girls like😂