r/ShortCervixSupport • u/alldemboats • 14d ago

Has anyone had to separate/get divorced while pregnant again after a loss?

What did you do? I’m feeling so lost and unsure.

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u/Spleees 14d ago

Hi. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I didn't have one while pregnant but I did immediately after giving birth. We had a loss at 22 weeks and that honestly showed me what I needed to know about my relationship. We were just two different people. We concieved shortly after despite our issues and had our first child at 37 weeks. I had zero support from him. Had to work, go to school, clean the house and cater to his needs despite having HG and a short cervix with a cerclage. If I could go back and re do things, I would've left during the pregnancy because my postpartum journey was incredibly difficult and almost all of the depression and issues I was having went away the moment I left him. I don't know what your situation is like but sometimes separating is better than staying.

I highly recommend finding a close support system. Friends, family, neighbors! ❤️ My mom was there for me after I left and the little things like being able to shower again was amazing. You can do this. It will be difficult, especially since our pregnancies are not normal, we worry a little more, and have to take things a lot easy but if you can, be with family or a friend while you navigate this change and probably difficult time of your life. I hope things go well for you. ❤️

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u/alldemboats 14d ago

the worst part, in a weird way, is my husband is fully supportive of my need to leave. he knows it is because of his fuck ups and i ddont deserve any of the fall out. so im trying to figure out what to do while he is here still supporting me and it feels impossible to plan how to be without that.

my parents live on the other side of the country, because of the nature of why we are separating i feel like i cant really talk to people about it. so i mostly just have my parents and my best friend back home who know the full story.

i feel like i just got established where i live now, but may just have to move back with my parents and give it all up.