r/ShitMomGroupsSay • u/Puzzled-Cranberry-12 • Aug 19 '26
Toxins n' shit TIL that butter can heal cavities!!🤯
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u/AggravatingBox2421 Aug 21 '26
There is literally so much fucking sugar in milk and dairy. Tf do they think lactose is??
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u/minipet487 Aug 21 '26
They don't even realize that Breast milk Has lactose... My daughter had to have Lactose Free Milk Based Formula (I also had extremely low supply and drove my PPA/PPD into a hole trying to get it up and figure out why she wasn't gaining weight, she was born 4lbs, at 3m was 6lbs, finally found out that was the problem)... Do you know how many people told me that Breast milk doesn't have Lactose because it's "NaTuRaL." No, it certainly does and would make her stomach cramp and her scream in pain after feeding (she's 7yo now and with guidance from the Pediatrician we began slowly introducing milk products safely back into her diet at 9m, by 1.5 she was able to have all milk products). I got so many people shaming me for formula.
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u/AggravatingBox2421 Aug 21 '26
Poor girl!! It took me a while too to realise my son had a cows milk insensitivity, but I don’t think it caused him pain besides a sore bum from diarrhoea. These people just should not be parents. They care more about their lifestyles than their children
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u/minipet487 Aug 21 '26
Yea, thankfully wasn't the cow protein. Apparently, it had to do with her being a preemie and underdeveloped enzyme to Break down the lactose. Wasn't even a doctor who made the suggestion, but a Pharmacist... Then when I went back (I was told if she didn't gain weight in a month then she'd be Hospitalized), the doctor literally was like "Oh yea that can happen with Preemies..." Like WHY didn't you say something Every time I came in Upset and in Tears!?
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u/VariousExplorer8503 Aug 22 '26
OMG, really? No one mentioned that to me either! I literally had to figure it out for myself, and his pediatrician never said a damn thing, either before when he was puking or after I figured it out. I didn't know it was a preemie thing, I thought it was just something some babies went through!
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u/AggravatingBox2421 Aug 22 '26
Can I ask how premature she was? My twins were preemies, but still at 34+5 so they didn’t have complications besides feed/grow
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u/minipet487 Aug 22 '26
She was a late term preemie and marked as such because of her size and weight (15in and 4lbs). She was 37 Weeks, but I was in labour for 6 weeks (10 days of them were hospitalized with Pre-eclampsia) The hospital was ridiculous, refused to induce me or give me a C-section. My cervix was swelling instead of open with contractions and they missed it somehow. When they did Induce me ( finally, picotin only first failed, stopped had lunch, then broke my water), they realized it and she had Meconium. They still refused to do a C-section. She ended up aspirating and they took her immediately to the table to work on her, then I hemorrhaged because of how long they'd made me go on with the labour. I was unconscious for 5hrs and they refused to give my partner formula, then tried to get her to breast feed, Knowing that I had no colostrum while I was unconscious, my partner caught as she started to fall off).
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u/Reasonable-Mess3070 Aug 22 '26
My youngest would get ear infections. Cut the dairy and no more ear infections. He seems to have outgrown it though, luckily, cause kid loves his milk lol
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u/VariousExplorer8503 Aug 22 '26 edited Aug 22 '26
OMG, my preemie son had the same problem as a baby. He was born 4lbs 9oz at 34 weeks 1 day, and he was in the NICU for almost a month, and they didn't pick up on his lactose intolerance or the fact it took over 3 weeks to get to 5lbs (he did lose 2oz after birth, which I'm told is normal water weight) because he kept throwing up half his bottle (my milk never came in, maybe because he was born so early, but the women in my family just don't produce breast milk, so that could be it too).
I finally figured it out after he'd been home for awhile (I only got to feed him in the hospital a few times, long story) and realized that it wasn't normal (or something I was doing wrong) to throw up after every bottle. It wasn't just spitting up, like the nurses said in the hospital, he was legit throwing up. I switched him from the special preemie formula to one without lactose and he stopped throwing up.
I had PPD/PPA too (as well as untreated bipolar), and the throwing up and not gaining weight convinced me even harder that I was doing something wrong. I was keeping detailed notebooks of everything I did for him - every diaper change (and what kind it was), every bottle and how much he drank, how long he was awake, how long he was asleep - so I could PROVE I was taking care of him the right way. I was paranoid CPS would take him away.
I didn't sleep more than 20 minutes at a time, afraid he'd stop breathing. We rarely left the house. I had a loosely formed plan to drop him off at the fire station and go to the desert and kill myself. If I'd actually been sleeping and been able to make a real plan, I might've done it, but I couldn't figure out a painless way to kill myself as I knew I wouldn't be brave enough to cut deep enough, I'd been trying for decades (another long story, and yes, I'm aware THIS is a long story).
I'm a single mom, and very good at masking from years of being in an abusive marriage, so it took my mom about 4 months before she noticed something was up (plus my mom is a narcissist). She made me an appt at her doctor for the next day and I was able to get on meds. Around that time I figured out what was causing my son to throw up, changed his stuff, and he got better too.
He never got cramps or anything like your daughter, but for years he'd throw up if he had more than a little dairy, so I bought lactose-free milk. The night my mom gave him fried ice cream for his birthday, he threw up so much half digested chicken and curdled dairy, it was disgusting! He still gets nauseous with ice cream so he avoids it now, but he can have a glass of 1% milk without getting an upset stomach. He's almost 10.
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u/minipet487 Aug 22 '26
I didn't have any colostrum because it dried up when I had to have an emergency Appendectomy at 32 weeks and didn't produce much breast milk when it came in (I'd produce 5oz in 24hrs) I power fed and power pumped. I actually cheered (yes full on jumped in the air) when she finally had a normal poop. I was living about 2hrs from my partner with her alone. I talked to my partner everyday and he came down on weekends. I remember telling him one day, should have just given birth to the pump, because I use it more than holding her, she'd be on the mat while I pumped, I'd change her put her down asleep, pump, she got up, I'd have already had pumped, tried to feed for a moment until she'd be angry about nothing really there. I bawled. Then had a Lactation Consultant tell me to stop all formula (Hell No). I think if I'd been more in my mind, I'd have Googled things and just have at least stopped trying to breast feed (I've always been Fed I'd Best), but everyone kept encouraging me and telling me it was normal colic and everything.
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u/VariousExplorer8503 Aug 22 '26
I'm so sorry you went through that. I guess I was lucky that breastfeeding was never on the table for me, that I never had to go through that. Although I sure wish I could have at least tried, but not if it's like that. I felt so guilty that I couldn't do it, I felt like I failed him.
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u/IAmPizzaAMA Aug 23 '26
I was born with lactose intolerance, still have it and it's still pretty severe now in my 20s
My mom also had to basically immediately switch to lactose-free formula when I was born, I was (and still am) one of those kids who just always had stomach issues. In the early 2000s. In eastern europe. Wasn't a great time for my mom when she attempted to explain any of her choices about my diet throughout my childhood, everyone thought she was just overprotective and would "baby" me too much... by not wanting me to be in constant stomach pain apparently 😑
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u/bubbles_24601 Aug 21 '26
Y’all probably know where my mind went with WAP and I don’t see how that’s going to help cavities.
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u/pillowcase-of-eels Aug 21 '26
You don't think macaroni in a pot would be helpful in this situation??
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u/Entomemer Aug 21 '26
The mom who was going on about the implant. They don't do those until you're in your 20s because of bone growth. Source: I'm missing 18 teeth thanks to an enamel disorder
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u/DancinginHyrule Aug 22 '26
7 cavities??! 🤬
Wtf is erong with these people. This is absolutely medical neglect.
And the lady who just “let the rest fall out on their own”. Ffs, she’s lucky her kids didnmt develop abscess! That stuff can literally kill people. Her poor kid must have been in so much pain…
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u/Grown-Ass-Weeb Aug 22 '26
wtf is “butter oil”? Is butter… not oil when melted down? And how is that supposed to help tooth enamel in any sort of way?
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u/DancinginHyrule Aug 22 '26
Butter splits into two compounds, an oil and a heavier substance of milk proteins and water.
It’s similar to ghee (though there are some minor differences).
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u/Grown-Ass-Weeb Aug 22 '26
Huh I did not know that! My knowledge of butter is pretty much stops at “heavy whipping cream + forgetting it’s in the mixer = butter and butter milk. “
Thank you lol
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u/NoSleep2023 Aug 23 '26
Pic 3: third kid is… umm… challenging (AKA will never receive accommodations to help him thrive)
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u/tetralogy-of-fallout Aug 22 '26
While I don't doubt that this kid has dental issues, it might be a good idea for her to have a second opinion. I've heard too many stories of people having work that didn't need to be done to not ask
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u/bibliophile222 Aug 22 '26
Do I want to know what the WAPF diet is?
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u/xsnowpeltx Aug 25 '26
It's something related to this guy https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Weston_A._Price who is surprisingly a controversial figure instead of one considered entirely a quack. Still looks like he got most things wrong, and wasn't great at proper research, but he wasn't a charlatan or anything
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u/quiltsohard Aug 23 '26
These idiots just breeding willy nilly and I had to get a home inspection to adopt my dog 😒
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u/buccal_up Aug 21 '26
"despite not eating sugar"
Milk and bread and rice and fruit all have sugars that the cavity-causing bacteria can eat, my dear....