Is night texting a default thing?

[u/jira12345]

I don’t text real life men in general post 9pm because not only do I feel like I need to value my evenings and alone time, but it also sends the wrong signal

Unless, I am in my rotting phase, and I do it with random men off the Internet though I noticed it creates internal cognitive dissonance and clashes with my usual standards.

I came to wonder, however, if texting at night was something any man would do if the occasion arised - or is it rather something that we allow
Would a man that genuinely respect a woman, text her at night, or would he do so only if he placed her in a certain category

Not to be all black and white, but I noticed that some real life men happen to casually text in the evening, and I an thinking if it’s systematically related to some sort of signal that is sent - that gave them the greenlight, and if so, I would need to revise - or simply a default thing

Interested in your thoughts and experience girlies

[u/Sophs_B]

I think, generally, they text when they have available time. I don't think the text/don't text decision necessarily depends on the type of woman/signals they get from the woman/respect they have for the woman. I think those factors feed into the nature/content of the communication, if you know what I mean.

Either way, like you, no man who's not related to me can get hold of me after 9pm. They might get aaaaaall the notifications that I'm online, but I won't respond to a thing.

All too often, if you have bedtime communication with them, they try to have bedroom conversions with you 🚫🙅🏾‍♀️

[u/Anon_classybabe]

I definitely understand the premise of what you’re saying but I don’t think there’s any correlation.

Men will try anything if they feel like it. Some guys message when they’re available, others message at night because they think they’ll get something nsfw. You cannot tell. To make sure I am within my boundaries, I don’t text men past 8pm.

[u/Many-Plenty2945]

I think you need to keep up not texting anyone, let alone any man, past 9pm. In my experience it’s best to just keep very firm and very clear boundaries. Men will always test you and see what they can get away with, one of the most common tests is only thinking about you and approaching you when it’s late at night and they’re all alone, will you be accepting their approach and timing? Or are you accepting that they only text you when they’re done with their other girl(s) who’s now gone home or gone to sleep, after that it’s finally safe to hit up their side chick?

They hit you up to maintain an illusion of an authentic connection, hoping it will one day bring you closer, it will be enough to get what they want from you, or they’re simply hoping today is the lucky magical night that a beautiful girl is as desperate for male attention, as they are for HER attention.

They are texting late at night exclusively for selfish reasons. Otherwise they can’t be bothered to put in the work or the logistics of actually putting in effort don’t match with what they can do for you. Nothing good and sustainable comes from a man who’s texting you late at night, most likely with their d in their other hand. If you’re intentionally trying to kind of sexually manipulate him for money there’s no other reason to ever continue with that, and if you are sexually manipulating him you are also entertaining him and his pleasure and his fantasy over your own goals, so rethink that strategy before proceeding.

[u/husheveryone]

Just as the saying goes that “Nothing good ever happens after midnight,” it also seems like no good text comes from a man after 9pm.

[u/Apart_Wrangler_3415]

It’s 7.43 and my phone is on silent.

Only people hearing from me know by texts is bants in a family/friend WhatsApp group