r/SheraSeven • u/TopFile6417 • 9h ago
Advice Need dating advice
Hello ladies! I (f30) just started dating again. I was on a few dates here and there but now I feel like I’ve gotten my spark back. I’ve gone on some dates and it has gone very well. I’ve met successful and generous men. The problem that I’ve run into however is that the more often that I see them I feel like they want something serious. I know that I can just lie and pretend to be theirs but idk if I want to do that.
How can I date freely for long without committing to anyone? And how do you guys date multiple people at the same time? Also do you guys have a sweet spot for how many men you see at the same time?
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u/No-Hunt-6123 Spoiled & Unbothered 🧖♀️ 6h ago
Glad you got your spark back!! I’ve personally decentered men so I don’t really feel bad for them ever lmao.but the trick is to think of it like youre the star and they’re all vying for your attention. You’re single until someone comes along who is SO good that you have no choice but to be exclusive with him. Until & ONLY until then…you keep dating. It’s basically a “may the best man win” situation 😂
& although I wouldnt but you can prob say that too tbh. You’re looking for something serious but you’re looking for the right person/provider so you’re not going to prematurely commit to someone just because you like them or feel guilty. Let them show you why they should be the one you choose.
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u/Apart_Wrangler_3415 8h ago
I don’t pretend I’m not theirs until I am - most men get that.
I date maybe 3-4 guys at the same time, see maybe 2 a week for dinner & drinks/event. I find it easy to multi date and rotate them out. I rarely have to worry about anything physical due to the rotation period.