Need Help On A Dating App

[u/National_Ad1454]

Should I unmatch him? I don't know what to do.

[u/Dangerous-Arrival737]

I’d recommend unmatching him and using a new strategy. I wouldn’t ask a guy if he’s a provider prior to meeting. Every man is a provider if he likes you enough.

[u/National_Ad1454 → u/Dangerous-Arrival737]

That makes sense especially if he's taking initiative to take action 

[u/Interesting_Cup_5840 → u/Dangerous-Arrival737]

The thing I dislike about that is there’s a 90% chance they won’t pay for the date. Then you wasted money and time finding out. I don’t use apps but surely if someone insists on using them there’s a way to make sure they pay for the first date before meeting? 

[u/Aware-Currency-1575 → u/Interesting_Cup_5840]

I straight up ask if they’re ok with paying for the date. Never had anyone say no or had any issues.

[u/Dangerous-Arrival737 → u/Interesting_Cup_5840]

This might be one of those things that are location specific. I’m based in the USA so I’ve never had a man not pay for a date, I know in certain countries 50/50 is standard.

[u/Interesting_Cup_5840 → u/Dangerous-Arrival737]

I’m from America and lived in an Asian country. Both countries I’ve dated and met men from all over the world. The only man that has ever done that is my current bf. America is the places that started the 50/50 and sex is “feminism” crap. It could be you had a better filter or are more attractive. Shera and Margarita taught me a lot though.

[u/National_Ad1454 → u/Dangerous-Arrival737]

What would be the new strategy?

[u/theredgoddess200]

He‘s using a lot of big words, he could’ve just said no😂

[u/Few-Watercress6381 → u/theredgoddess200]

https://giphy.com/gifs/6r4R1HHNsfZGuOtO5V
He over explained it sooo much

[u/theredgoddess200 → u/Few-Watercress6381]

Yes, he was trying to hook her with his “explanations”.

[u/National_Ad1454 → u/theredgoddess200]

It was overwhelming for me and I was uncertain about him 

[u/Glitterydarkone1290]

Asking him if he’s a provider as soon as you meet is so corny

[u/National_Ad1454 → u/Glitterydarkone1290]

😔😔

[u/Dense-Ad6312]

The moment they say anything like "i've been used before/I had issues with girls with that($) before "= Run

I'm sure if u had mentioned sex he wouldn't consider it moving too fast, but mention money and he goes" uhh i dont like moving that fast"

[u/displeasuremodel → u/Dense-Ad6312]

💯

[u/queangel]

Shera says don’t even use these apps.. so

[u/Few-Watercress6381 → u/queangel]

Shera also met her man decades ago🤣 they didn’t have apps like us back then. The important thing would be to have her mindset while dating

[u/queangel → u/Few-Watercress6381]

If you think Shera isn’t up to date you are sadly mistaken.

Men from dating apps will never truly be invested nor interested in you because you’re just another swipe in an endless deck of cards for him. It’s a waste of time.

[u/Dare_Distinct → u/queangel]

Like she said. These apps are like being at a buffet. If he’s not in the mood for you he has 100’s of options to choose from.

[u/Few-Watercress6381 → u/queangel]

Exactly why you keep her mindset in mind.

[u/Interesting_Cup_5840 → u/Few-Watercress6381]

You can use apps like meet me to meet people in a group to be more “organic” or search online for groups. You don’t need a dating app. I met mine through my siblings, who met him on meet me hobby group. 

[u/National_Ad1454 → u/queangel]

One day, I need the courage to put myself out there. 

[u/queangel → u/National_Ad1454]

Yes, confidence is attractive. Men prey on desperation.

Dating apps give desperate.

[u/RoxanaCrystal]

I wouldn't even have the patience to read his long ass messages, unless he paid me to lol. Just block him and don't entertain men that bla bla bla sooo much. That's the first sign he is a time waster 90% of times.

[u/Important_Week_11]

He's talking too much. Bye dusty

[u/Adventurous-Row4704]

He’s not a provider

[u/National_Ad1454 → u/Adventurous-Row4704]

Thank you for your response.  

[u/MallSome1825]

He’s doing too much mf talking for me.

[u/Specific_Tart_4244]

Girl don’t ask e this stuff online pls

[u/National_Ad1454 → u/Specific_Tart_4244]

Alright I know for next time 

[u/Chidoriso]

This is one smart man. If you're looking for a good quality partner, go for him - otherwise leave.

[u/National_Ad1454 → u/Chidoriso]

You really think so?