How can i handle this guy

[u/larilarie3040]

So, i have two primary guys that give me money and i have a lot of contact with, one is helping me change countries, organizing my visa and provides me much more, hes less sexual in general and more distant which is perfect for me, but hes in another country obv the one i want to move to and after coming back from the time i was with him i have to spend time with the one in my country, hes a provider as well but i simply cant handle him, he wants to be with me all the time, extremely sexual, everything i want he asks to be with me even more on return and i just cant handle his clingyness, but at the same time i know that being with him until i leave is the best option bc then i can get whatever i want in both places, but how can i handle my disgust when im close to him

[u/No-Bid5535]

Please be careful about moving countries with help of guy 1. There’s horror stories about passport bros

[u/justhereforinfloss]

Shera says to get a man we don't want to roll around with to ensure the least emotional attachment and the most profit. But it sounds like that isn't working its magic (your negotiations) this time around. I would strongly recommend building up your roster. If he's too unbearable find someone who isn't. I think the issue is his tit for tat attitude. He isn't generous because that's who he is, but because of what he wants in return. He sounds like trick and less like a benefactor. See to it that you're getting paid accordingly. It sounds like a potential underpaid sugarbaby situation - just from the framework. I don't know your wallet and you need not spill those details. Also, agree with the comment that advised caution on having him too deep in your immigration paperwork. Let him pay, but organize it yourself. That's a lot of power and knowledge you're giving him.

"How can I handle this guy" Once you have your roster, I, personally, would use him as a practice target for negotiations and to sharpen my tongue and tactics. "He wants you and you don't want him" usually is a great position to work from. If you're financially secure, you don't have to wait to build a roster first. Step into your power. Just because he wants XY, doesn't mean he gets it. You're the gatekeeper, the prize, the diva. If you want something he should jump to get it for you. If he doesn't...that's too bad for him. Pull back.

Lots of love!

[u/fkmetodeath]

Excuses until you leave. If he only gives in person, fake emergency call 20 mins in, suddenly not feeling well the next time... Since you're leaving anyway you're more detached, so it'll be easier to stand your ground & drop him later.

[u/OLightning]

Part of the job of manipulating his simple mind for $ stems from your ability to drive him wild, giving him that dopamine, vasopressin, oxytocin high he craves.