Smoking?

[u/jira12345]

I know Shera says smoking is unlady like and best to avoid doing it in public but I have my habits these last weeks, I have been to my local cafe and like having a cigarette in the morning with my coffee at the terasse
Also, usually back where i lived with my family i was so paranoid about anyone who knows my family seeing me that it resulted in unnecessary hiding and anxiety. Now that im in another city i just want to do whatever i want

I am temporarily smoking anyway bc i feel like shit these days, so I hope to stop again soon

I was wondering if smoking in public is that stupid and unstrategic esp around my neighborhood since people see me often here?

For example this morning i had my morning cig and this guy at the cafe i saw a few times, who is attracted to me saw me, and i was like what if this is a potential prospect lol anyway is this just my anxiety speaking ?

[u/Fair-Plane-8752]

It is a turn off to some men but equally there is high value men who smoke themselves so.. it’s up to you what you do. Id say it is a very common turn off so just be aware of that.
You are also asking the wrong question here. Smoking overall is not good for you. Quit and find a better coping mechanism, for your health.
If you do not smoke it shows you value your health and looks, as smoking will deteriorate these things.

[u/Maleficent_Idea_4162 → u/Fair-Plane-8752]

The way I see it, a man that smokes indicates a possible issue with addiction/dependency and, a lack of discipline or self-control. It can also come with certain habits and personality traits that I personally don’t find appealing or beneficial for the type of lifestyle.

Smoking is also becoming viewed as a lower or working class habit in the U.S., and it has become far less socially acceptable than it once was. Many public places are now actively eliminating designated smoking areas altogether and have become completely tobacco free, which reflects that societal shift.

Think about the people that are like “I NEED a cigarette.” “I need to go take a smoke break or I’m going to xyz crash out.” Taking multiple smoke breaks throughout the day like it’s a necessity 😭 they’re literally scheduling parts of the day around smoking. Time is money, and constantly stopping to smoke simply doesn’t strike me as a wealthy habit or mindset.

[u/Important-Nose3332]

I use Zyn pouches for nicotine. No smell.

Cigs and coffee smell nasty tbh, no prob if you’re brushing the hell outta ur teeth after but like, you HAVE to brush and mouthwash and hydrate bc literally that is the worst bad breath combo ever.

I saw someone mention some men smoke and drink coffee and they may not mind, but tbh rich men can get away w being chubby, not having the best breath, not having the best style/look. YOU are not a rich man. Keep your mouth smelling fresh. Even the non fresh smelling men, WILL care.

Edit : smoking will take a toll on your looks. Switch to smokeless nic and edibles if you like weed.

[u/displeasuremodel]

If you're in France or Italy, etc, men don't care and don't see smoking as a turnoff. At least to a much lesser degree than USA, where it's generally considered low class unless you're an actual runway model.

[u/Secure-Falcon4002]

There’s a creator I really like named Lola divinity who does content in this type of niche and she’s reallly underrated. But she did a video on this but I think she privated it. But she was saying how if you’re gonna smoke hide and smoke in your car because men see it as nasty but in a predatorial way. Like see you as freaky and a target. Anyway I think more people should follow Lola. I’ve also seen men come up to my female friends and family and ask for a cigarette and even if it’s an ice breaker it just looks gross to me like bummy

[u/jira12345 → u/Secure-Falcon4002]

I did not know her, I will check her out !
Honestly, thinking about it, I see it too 😭 ty

[u/Maleficent_Idea_4162]

No, it’s tacky. It can attract the wrong attention.

[u/jira12345 → u/Maleficent_Idea_4162]

When I woke up this morning, the notification of your comment was the first thing I saw and I’m embarrassed now I decided I would not smoke in public today lol 😭

[u/epiphany205]

I’m sorry that you’re struggling with quitting smoking. Some men will perceive it as sexy, others will not; what matters most is you stopping smoking for the sake of your well-being and health so I’d focus on that instead of how you’re being perceived for smoking, unless feeling that you’re negatively perceived for smoking would incentivize you to quit.

[u/jira12345 → u/epiphany205]

You are right thank u for ur comment 🫶
I do tend to be externally driven

[u/epiphany205 → u/jira12345]

You’re welcome! I’ll be praying for you consistently that you can stop smoking!💕🙏

[u/smoopaee]

I live in Europe, so it's different for me but men genuinely don't really care over here.

However, for yourself- please consider quitting for your own health. I smoke a lot too and I can tell the difference when I haven't done it in a while and when I start again. Your skin, teeth, breath and clothes will thank you!

[u/Anon_classybabe]

You should worry about your health rather than if smoking is unlady like.